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post #1 of 8
6/22/06 at 3:04pm
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DH and I are trying to decide whether or not to move house.

We would be moving about 150 miles away and living in the countryside.

The points in favour of a move are:
1. Bigger house - Would mean we could have another DC or 2, just not enough room where we are
2. Bigger house - Would mean we could have a homeschooling/play room.
3. Countryside living
4. Closer to my parents
5. Bigger yard
6. A house which works for us - the one in which we currently live is too small and badly laid out.

The points against a move are:
1. Slightly longer journey to work for DH.
2. Further away from DH family.
3. Leaving support networks.

3 is the biggest for me. I am so lucky living here to have two wonderful LLL groups, an API group and a gentle parenting/AP playgroup. Online support is great but its just not the same as real life friends. There is no LLL where we want to move to and no API either.

I really love the area we are keen to move to. I'm sure we could be very happy there. As a long term move it makes lots of sense - space for our family to grow. But I can't quite decide if I can manage without my support networks.

What do you think? Would you move? Am I being stupid?
post #2 of 8
6/22/06 at 7:05pm
I made that basically that same move a year ago.

So far, I have no regrets. But I think it is a very personal choice. I have been without a support network since we moved out here. If both kids were very young, I think it would have been harder. But DS#1 started first grade when we moved out here -- so getting involved with the school was a way to get to know people.

I knew that our family would thrive in the countryside -- a more relaxed pace of life and more space inside and out. So far I have been right -- though there are of course trade-offs.

I'm sure this ramble isn't all that helpful to you ...
post #3 of 8
6/22/06 at 8:40pm
Ah ha, but a bigger house also means more space to have friends and family some and visit you for a while!

Also, you have twice as many pro's as you do con's. I say go, but then I'm a countryside girl at heart!

Could you rent a place around there over the summer or something, for a practise run, see how it goes, and then decide after that?
post #4 of 8
6/23/06 at 1:39pm
Does the countryside also mean longer journeys for you and the children to the places you go? Think about how that will affect your quality of life. Are you the type of person who adores driving, doesn't mind spending money on gasoline, and has children who behave well in the car? Consider too that riding in cars, even properly restrained, is one of the biggest safety risks in both children's and adults' lives; more time in the car means more risk. This is one of the big reasons we live in a walkable city neighborhood with good access to public transit.

I'm not trying to talk you out of the move, just suggesting another aspect for consideration.
post #5 of 8
6/23/06 at 2:04pm
How much longer a commute for your DH? Does that mean he gets less time with the kids? Less time to help you? Less time to sleep or relax? For me, sacrificing my DH's time with kids would be a definitely not-worth-the-pros part of the deal. But that depends on whether you are adding 15 minutes to his commute or an hour.
post #6 of 8
6/23/06 at 5:40pm
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Originally Posted by EnviroBecca
Does the countryside also mean longer journeys for you and the children to the places you go? Think about how that will affect your quality of life. Are you the type of person who adores driving, doesn't mind spending money on gasoline, and has children who behave well in the car? Consider too that riding in cars, even properly restrained, is one of the biggest safety risks in both children's and adults' lives; more time in the car means more risk. This is one of the big reasons we live in a walkable city neighborhood with good access to public transit.

I'm not trying to talk you out of the move, just suggesting another aspect for consideration.
Becky,

: as you and your dh are, but I have to say what envirobecca said to you is definetly .
post #7 of 8
6/23/06 at 5:41pm
Thread Starter 
Thanks for your replies - definately some things to think about,

DH commutes into London on the train. It will add about 20 mins to his journey. His hours mean that he very rarely gets to spend any time with the children during the week anyway.

We have to use the car a lot now to get everywhere. I am hoping to be able to use it less when we move. For example, right now its a 20 min drive to anywhere rural/green/clean to go for a walk. One of the things we want from the move is being able to go for a walk from our front door.
post #8 of 8
6/23/06 at 5:53pm
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Originally Posted by teagreenribbons
Becky,

: as you and your dh are, but I have to say what envirobecca said to you is definetly .
Becky,

Heres an question for you guys have you thought about moving to the suburbs of London first or medium size (which is the best of both major city and small city). Thats what I'm thinking of, but rather be in the major city still then the suburbs of it or medium size city. At the moment I'm in suburbs of New York City on the NJ side of it, but don't really like living here because its mostly you own means of transport instead of public transport.
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