I have struggled with the good guys/bad guys thing, too. I started without that language, but empasizing that there are people and people, all people, sometimes make bad choices and sometimes make good choices. I was very firm on this, but there were bad toys/good toys in our home, bad books/good books, bad/good blocks, socks, bubbles in the bathtub, etc. At the same time, I heard the same things from others on this website and began to wonder if bad versus good was important developmentally. Perhaps, as our boys struggle to become good men, they must first define what it is they don't want to be. To make things easier, they stereotype/villify/etc. Maybe I will try to reintegrate the complexity after he's solid on the simplified version of good and bad. It just seems too ubiquitous to be a matter of (mis)perception. Anyone agree (I'm open to support)? Anyone disagree (I am open to thoughts I have not thought of yet)?