"Mommy, have you ever had a three-way?" - Page 2

[kamilla626]

I hope that if my dd ever asks similar questions I will handle them that well!

(Very clever, btw - using the color coded script! )

[mother nurture]

Wow mama! I will admit it is slightly funny that your dc heard all this on Will and Grace I would have been floored, though to hear this come out of my 11yo dds mouth when she gets to be that age.

[frowningfrog]

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To funny...I think I would have just about died ..

[**guest**]

Funny and disconcerting all in one.

[Celtain]

TV as an educator, yeah, great huh. Nothing like Viagra commercials during the super bowl to bring up some VERY interesting questions!!!!

[JesiLynne]

I think I would have died.

[alphaomega2213]

my goodness...i think i would flip out if my son said that...granted he is only 5 months old....so at this point i cant really imagine him saying...well...much of anything right now... but really, wow, i think i would reconsider the tv also....maybe you could get TIVO....i know my dad has that and he loves it....yea and i dont know if i would take away the TV completely becuase some shows are educational, and you dont want him to feel like he shouldnt have asked you about what he learns from it....i dont know his personality, or how yall's relationship is, but i would not chance it....he sounds VERY observant!!! thats a good thing!!! sounds like you are doing a great job keeping the line of communication open with him....that is something to treasure...and i know becuase my husband is a youth minister and you would not believe they types of things those kids tell us and wont tell their parents....even at his age!!! it really is shocking...if you can swing it, i would get TIVO!!:

[Tummy]

Nope, cannot swing nothing at this time much less a TIVO thingy.

I love my children so much, the one thing that I pray they keep for ever is their trust in me. I am so glad they CAN bring such topics to me. Trust is a HUGE thing and to be one of the very few ppl that my DC do trust is awsome, like I said previous, they do NOT talk to their father or step-monstor about things like this.. in fact, they say/..."mommy, why do you 'talk' to us? Daddy never 'talks' to us"

Well hello they are human too, why would I NOT have a conversation with my children?

My mother on the other hand.. well *ahem*.. she gets all bent out of shape at the convos that I have with them. She does NOT feel that at a ripe age of 11,9,7 my sons should know how babies are made, what sex is at all. (they were present for the birth of their 4 yr old sister.. kinda hard not to tell them a few things about birds and bees as they were at the foot of the bed (birds eye view) while I gave birth)
I remember her telling me when I was bout 8-9ish that a man and woman would lay naked and fall asleep and that was how babies were made:
I always said I would be up front and honest with my children.. no lies, no beating around the bush (no pun intended), complete honesty to every question asked.. although with the 'mommy have you ever had a three-way" I had to not answer that one..

Perhaps when he is 20 I will answer that, but by the time he is 20 hopefully he wont REALLY want the true answer to that question

[JesiLynne]

You would be very surprised at the lack of info some kids get sometimes
Even at older ages.

[alphaomega2213]

i dont ever recall my mom and dad ever even telling me about it.....i think i learned more from the people my age and the people i dated....really my older sisters did tell me...um...i think, and i kind of recall my mom saying something, but i think it more embarrassed me than anything.... hopefully i will be about to talk to my kids about the important stuff....just moniter the TV a little closer....at night you could find a way to stop the TV, but then again you dont want to be a police, you want to be a mom...so where is the line??:

[Lazyhead]

My parents never told me about it. I think I learned about it in sex education class in school in 6th grade!! LOL!

When my niece was 5 she said that sometimes people only pretend to be in love because they want to have sex. Her mother is VERY open but is still shocked by the things this girl (youngest of 3) says about life sometimes. Eerily worldly.

[Houdini]

Originally Posted by chersolly

Reply with a "Yes. I was young and really needed the money."

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I thought your comment was funny.

[bobica]

OMG,I am *so* having dh read this thread!!!

[Ruthla]

Thank you for reminding me why I don't let my kids watch Will and Grace!!

Seriously, I'll answer any questions about STDs, contraception, erectile dysfunction, what "bad words" really mean- but nothing about my sex life. If I'd been asked that question I would have said "That's private and I'm not going to tell you about my personal sexual experiences." If they wanted general information about what kinds of sex acts a 3-way might entail, I'd answer.

[lilyka]

I htink you handled it very well. I like the "what do you think it is?" question. I hope I am always calm enough to ask that first. it is always good to establish what they know and why they are asking. that gives a mom a better idea where to go with the answer.

[mamalisa]

Oh sweet mercy! I can't even imagine just driving along and having that conversation come up!! It sounds like you did a good job acting nochalant about it though!

[wende]

Originally Posted by chersolly

Reply with a "Yes. I was young and really needed the money."

LOL that sounds like how I'd "actually" respond to that question if it were posed by my 11yo dd. Of course, we live in a house where being a smart ass is part of every day culture and she'd know I was joking...or would I be? :

[TypicalSituation]

OMG!

[Rani]

I just had to throw this in...have had some questions like that from dd (8), but the strangest convo was in a long drive with my MOM (then in her 40's) asking me about...well...uhm.....the big O...

I was in my late 20's...just out of school, living with soon to be dh (so I guess it was obvious, I might have an opinion....)but still.

I quickly realized that its true, people have LOTs of misinformation...even adults!!!!!!

I answered as best as I could, flushed red to the roots of my hair....sigh....

[Tummy]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

If I'd been asked that question I would have said "That's private and I'm not going to tell you about my personal sexual experiences." If they wanted general information about what kinds of sex acts a 3-way might entail, I'd answer.

While I do agree with you to a certain extent, I want my children to be comfortable enough to come to me and share things that may be a problem ... (DS #2 has issues due to a botched circ, I would hate for him to feel that he could not come to me if something was wrong at 12-80yrs old)~>NOT saying he will have sex at 12
Of course, I would never share details of my sexual journey with my children...but when they are older and come to me with a funky question about sex, even if it is .. did this kind of thing ever happen to you, what can I do, ect.. I would be honest with them.

I hope and pray that my children remain virgins until marriage, but lets be honest, its not a 100% guarantee that they will.