I tore badly with my hospital births but not at all with my home waterbirth. It has a ton to do with your position and the forced pushing issue - the difference is significant and far, far fewer women will tear with a homebirth than in a hospital.
Sex was occassionally uncomfy (and my husband is intact, so this was not the issue) before my first was born and has been excellent since.
Sex was occassionally uncomfy (and my husband is intact, so this was not the issue) before my first was born and has been excellent since.
