Originally Posted by cristina63303
Guys, let's not forget what we are: an internet message board. Now, how do we weigh against someone's doctor's advice? I can see how people yould choose to go with that!
I am fortunate enough to live in an environment where intact is the norm, the mainstream. "It's what is done". Doctors wouldn't even think of recommending circ!!! I don't know that I would have been courageous enough to go against the current on a medical issue, that is, aginst the general advice of doctors.
Example: I vax. I'm all for vax. I've talked about it with my wonderful ped and he agrees. I've read very little from the anti-vax side and it seems way too radical to me. I'm not trying to get off topic in this forum, just to find a way to put ourselves in the shoes of someone on the fence (or even opting to circ). Guys, we are sometims perceived as radical lunatics!!!
See my point?
I guess I struggle with this a lot. My best friend chose circ for her sons despite mountains of links I sent her and I don't know if she ever read (usual stupid arguments: look like dad, it's what is done...) and she's still my best friend. I HATE the choice she made, and I KNOW it's wrong. It's difficult not to think about it when we talk (seldom, we live in different continents) but I've never mentioned it again. I know how her brain is wired and I know she has the best interests of her children at heart. After all, it was her doctors' recommendation. She's clearly no child abuser!!! Social pressures influence us - all of us.
Houdini, keep up your (soul) search. We do tend to be a very passionate crowd, so please, please try not to take some statements too personally (easier said than done, I know). I would like to think that we can also offer you a shoulder to cry on if you need at some point. I can't imagine it being easy, what you're dealing with.