Originally Posted by pookel
But guess what - he hasn't. He is saying a couple words at 15 months and is more interested in banging things than in educational toys or puzzles or learning to say more words. He can't be bothered to learn "mama" because .. ooh! a rock! ooh! a cheerio! num num num ... He is a sweet, funny, wonderful little kid who wanders around going "oooooh" and pointing at things and destroying stuff and making lots of noise, and I'm cool with that. If he doesn't learn to read early or produce some kind of brilliant test scores at an early age, good for him. Because I did those things, and they did not make me a better person or lead to exceptional success in life. So in the end, they really don't matter that much to me.
I think there is some preconceived notion out there that a child that is is 'smart' or 'gifted in academics' is talking earlier, playing hours with educational items, whatever.... that is often far from the case. My nearly 4 year old doesn't recognize all her abc's. She sure can't read, or add. I didn't do any of that stuff amazingly early. I'm not going to sit down with her this afternoon to go over the US math, nor is she going to sit down and pick up speaking Chiness, Spanish, whatever.
I do believe she is one smart cookie, and will fall on the 'gifted scale' b/c she shows other characteristics.... but seriously her interests?? Play with playdoh for several hours straight, play pretend non-stop, draw, draw, draw. 'Normal stuff'. Oh, and if the indicators I see are wrong, and she isn't 'gifted', who cares? No biggie. And, yah, as mentioned just b/c someone is gifted it i s not a good indicator of success down the road. MANY items feed into that including, interest, personality, passion, whatever.
I do believe as a pp said that all kids have gifts. I think the term 'gifted' just has two definitions... A person can say, oh person a is a gifted negotiater, or a gifted artist. There is also the definition that implies a specific IQ, and some of the traits that are often associated with that.
My mom isn't 'gifted' in the academic sense, but she sure has many gifts and talents. My bro is gifted in the academic sense... almost flunked out of hs b/c he was bored to tears... but oy, does that kid lack any amount of common sense, and too often focuses only on himself. Who has been more successful?
It's what makes life interesting. We are all individual.