Originally Posted by lckrause
Both my kids are gifted in different ways but they are also AVERAGE or *gasp* even "delayed" in other ways. Following the normal pattern for my family, neither of them talked in sentences until they were almost three. Even the super-duper smart one. They didn't finish potty training until 3.5, didn't tie their own shoes until well after 5, etc. It's called "average" for a reason... because in the grand scheme of things MOST people fall within/close to that range. There will always be a curve and respect should be given to all points along it, whether on the lonely extreme ends or right in the middle where it's nice and cozy.
And while my oldest seems to be gifted in the visual-spatial area, he certainly is average and behind in many other things. He spoke late (22 months), but caught up with his peers quickly, which in my mind, proves the point that the early verbal toddler (PG aside) is not necessarily more gifted than the nearly two year old that grunts (that was my kid) AND that development is so variable. I heard lots of patronizing comments about my poor non-verbal toddler ("but you can sure see those wheels turning in his head, hon" *rolls eyes*). He potty-trained at 3 1/2. It wasn't until he was four that he felt comfortable playing with boys and being in loud groups; he was terrified and it was very distressing to see all the other kids having a blast while mine was unable to enjoy himself due to his unusual sensitivity. He couldn't figure out how to climb down the stairs until he was almost 2. He is definitely the slowest, most uncoordinated on the playground, but luckily, it doesn't bother him. He was/is all over the place, very advanced in some areas, average on many, and behind in other areas. The areas that he initially tried on time or early ended up being the areas he was late in (e.g. sat unassisted early but walked avg and climbed very late). The areas he was late on turned out being the areas he was a bit advanced in (e.g. speech). Child development is not strictly linear and children are very complex beings. It's obviously not all about "c-a-t and 1+1"; that's so black and white. They are all wonderful, we all can agree on that.
I love seeing the sense of community and joy for the gifted children. I love seeing the sense of community and joy for the "average" children. I love the sense of community and joy for all children. I love reading the joy on this thread at having children who are just who they are, as long as we don't make jabs at others.