How long before you tell?

[Full Heart]

So I am 5 weeks today and really want to wait till after 12 weeks. But seeing as this is #7 I will most likely be showing by then and how will I hide the midwife visits? How long are you waiting to tell? Am I just being silly? I like walking around with a secret only I know.

[grapejuicemama]

I can never wait! I always tell people the day I find out.

Some of my friends even know that I'm waiting/hoping/praying for a BFP in the next couple of days.

Maybe I'm just an attention hog. : Plus I like to talk baby to the other moms.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[RachelJune01]

I waited 11 weeks with my first. This time I would like to wait until my 1st trimester is over, but it will probably be more like the end of July. We will have to see how long I can make it though.

[an_aurora]

Everybody already knows lol...I'm 6 weeks tomorrow and we told DH's dad the day after we found out, because it was Father's Day. Then I told my sister and I had wanted to wait until I could tell the rest of my family in person but my sister blabbed and everybody knows.

[Arwyn]

Mom and pseudosister - waited 6 hours.

TTC threads - waited 12 hours.

March DDC - waited 4 days. (that's today - HI!)

MDC in general - I'd say next week, but I'm going to be gone, sooo... Mid July?

The rest of my family - dunno, I'm thinking of using this as an excuse to host Thanksgiving, so I guess whenever that question pops up. Otherwise, we're definitely waiting for as long as we can manage. Fortunately, we don't live in the same state.

The rest of my friends - Whenever I happen to show up with either an obviously pregnant belly or a baby in tow, they'll know. I'm cruel like that.

Random people I don't really know - when it becomes obvious enough that they comment on it.

If I weren't on TTC threads at the time, I would have waited to tell anyone for at least a week, and I now think I should have waited on telling anyone but TTCers for at least that long. Ah well.

[Astromom]

My DD is the one who told me I was pregnant so of course I had to tell her as soon as I got my positive! And my MIL called like an hour after I got it and I was too excited and told her, so of course I had to tell my mom to be fair. My SIL guessed by looking at my ol' bloated tummy. And.. pretty much I'll tell anyone. I'm not much for waiting until the second trimester, because I've had a second trimester loss. So, no point to wait as far as I'm concerned!

[paisley]

Originally Posted by Arwyn

TTC threads - waited 12 hours.

You held out on us for 12 hours? Shoot I didn't last 12 minutes before you all got a pic of my pretty pee stick.

Let's see, so far I've told my close IRL friends, you all and anyone here who reads my sig, and really that's about it. I've had some early losses in the past year so I think I might wait a bit longer before telling family, etc. I also need a bit longer for it to finally seem real to me! Ds is 3 and we are talking about waiting until I'm showing (thus tangible evidence of his sibling) to tell him, but he seems to be onto it already as you can see below.

[Llyra]

I tell my online friends everything : , but IRL, I'm only gonna tell my parents and my in-laws. I'll wait to tell everyone else until September, I think. Actually, I'm planning on breaking the news at DD's birthday party, which will be the second week of September. I have a heart conditon and extensive uterine scarring, and I'm at a higher risk of miscarriage as a result. It'd so hard to "untell" the casual friends and acquaintances and co-workers; to me it'll be easier just not to tell until we're sure this baby's gonna stick.

[paisley]

Llyra - I know just what you mean by having to untell everyone. It's the pits. Extra : and vibes for you Mama!

[kdf]

I just found out today and it isn't even a for sure. I had a faint line at the dr office so I am still waiting for the blood test. But I know I am pregnant. I want to tell everyone now. We are going to a cabin for a week with my family next week so there is no way I can keep it quiet but we are going to wait until we get the results from the blood test. We made a t-shirt for my dh to wear to tell everyone. It says on the front "My boys can swim" on the back " Coming to nursery near you March 2007".

[hapahaolegirl]

I told DH right away but I'm not telling anyone else until I at least get my pregnancy confirmed by a doctor. Last cycle I had a few BFPs and told my entire family and a few days later I had an early miscarriage. I'm not going to put everyone through that again. It was really embarressing too!
Of course with DD we told everyone almost immediately and she's here today. I'm just a little more skeptical this time around.

[audeesmom]

We are waiting this time around. With #1 we told everyone pretty much the time we found out. Even though all turned out perfect with #1, I got scared a few times with spotting, didn't want to talk about it, and couldn't control the mother-in-law train once it got rolling. I think we will wait until the 2nd trimester...but I already have a mini bump! How many times can you say you're bloated?:

[Mindi22]

We've started telling everyone. I looked at DH last night and asked him - what if the test was a false positive... he says, well, we'll have a lot of calls to make! The way I feel though, I doubt it.

I talked with my sister last night, though, who told me that once she found out she was pregnant, she just told everyone. She'd stick it into any conversation, regardless of relevancy. So I didn't feel so bad about just starting to inform the family. I've told a few friends, but mostly just family first.

I figure once I get the confirmation from a doctor, then I'll tell the world. I have no poker face, though, so if anyone asks me prior to that, there will be no hiding it!

=Mindi

[Full Heart]

I told dh I don't want anyone to know till after we hear the hb. Especially the kids, I would hate to try to tell them something happened. If I tell my mother everyone will know, same as with my ils. I could tell my friends probably, and they would be good support if something happened. But that doesn't mean I want to . Its a secret for now...just the whole internet knows!

[cinnamonamon]

Well, I told MDC before I was even sure, and if dh ever comes downstairs from playing his stupid computer game I'll even tell him. I'll probably call my rockin mil tomorrow & my family on Saturday at my sister's wedding!

[lotusdebi]

Well, it's in my sig line, and I'm posting here about it, so a number of my IRL friends will probably know before long.

We're not telling family immediately, though. I had a miscarriage in February, and I don't want to go through untelling people again.
Then again, I suck at keeping secrets, and my son's birthday is coming up, so it may slip out...

[shalena]

I'm not planning on saying anything to my family until closer to 12 weeks. My FIL is not going to be exactly supportive, but I know everyone else will be excited!

[Brisen]

I only just had a veeeeeery faintly positive line today, though I'm feeling pg; I've just told dh and some online people. I'm testing again in a few days, hopefully that will give me a more solid result.

I wait until the first tri is over for family and general people, but I do usually tell a couple of close friends before that. I've had 2 m/cs, and I would hate to have to "untell" (as has been said here) and have people worrying or making a fuss. We don't live close to family, so either they don't see my weight gain, or if they notice it when we visit, they'll likely just think I'm indulging in too much ice cream and not getting enough exercise.

This will ( be #4 for us -- dh's family will be supportive (they have 7; dh's two sibs who have kids have 4 and 5 each) but mine will not. So I don't mind putting it off, though I would like to tell MIL earlier.

[secretlypregnant]

Not sure exactly how long we'll wait to tell. I waited 3 days to tell dh. I dropped hints left and right but he wasn't getting it, for example:

dh: "I'm going to get a movie. Do you want anything?"
me: "Oh, what about that movie She's Having a Baby. It's older but they probably have it."
dh: "I'll look for it."

:nana:

I think we're going to try to make it through the first trimester. Never made it that long before telling in the past. This time it just feels right to keep it to ourselves.

[paisley]

Secretly - I am so dying to know who you are! Do we get any hints? What forums do you frequent? Come on, we can't do too much damage with the search fuction down.