How long before you tell? - Page 2

[raversangel]

mdc - hehehe, like 5 min after i poas although i waited to come over here for a day or two

relatives - well its 'tradition' in my family to spread the news after the first tri...which with what happened last time i'm definatly going to wait until i'm 12wks at least...probably after my first ob visit and we hear a good hb like other posters have said...

[secretlypregnant]

Originally Posted by paisley

Secretly - I am so dying to know who you are! Do we get any hints? What forums do you frequent? Come on, we can't do too much damage with the search fuction down.

Don't wonder too much...you may not even know me if you knew who I am (did that make sense) Seriously, I have been at MDC for a LOOOOONNNGGG time, but I spend alot of time : and :. Sometimes I feel a bit invisible. But I it here.
I feel so mysterious

[pianojazzgirl]

Well, I let all my TTC/parenting buddies know just as soon as I could get to the computer! LOL!

No one IRL knows yet - not even dh (he's working out of town and I don't have the number where he's staying). Since having a mc earlier this year I think I'd like to play it cautious and wait until after the 1st tri.

[PinksMommy]

Hmmm, I'm 5 weeks and I don't know. I haven't even told DH yet...we were on vacation with his bio-dad when I found out this week and I didn't want to draw a bunch of attention to myself with a big distraction because they only get together every few years.
Then today, my and DH's mutual best-friend-for-life came home from USMC boot camp and is having a graduation party tomorrow. Tomorrow is also my mom's birthday. So I'm planning on telling DH on Monday/Tuesday and telling other family in the next couple of weeks, maybe after I get a confirmed test from my doctor or the health center. Although I have POAS 6 times already and I feel like ass, so I'm pretty sure it is real.
I have already told you all and 2 of my girlfriends IRL, one from my local AP board and my old neighbor who is my only real mommy friend that is my age.

[chemE_momE]

So far I have told five friends and no family (except DH and DD of course). A lot of my friends knew I was going to start TTC in June, so they may be asking, in which case, I may be telling. Our families have no clue though. We'll try to wait as long as we can, but I don't know how long I can wait. With DD I think we waited about 8 weeks (until after my first midwife visit). The thing is, I feel like I'm going to start showing earlier, so it'll be harder to hide.

[BrookeAD]

I will have to tell earlier than I'd like to my principals so that I can leave school to go to appts. We are going to tell our family at about 12 weeks--I think it's around Labor Day.

[celesterra]

we've told already... in fact, we told on the day we found out 9 days ago! i just figure if something "bad" happens they'll find out, so i might as well let them know when things are happy!

[coffeetastesgood]

We tell friends and family usually around 10 weeks

[crazycandigirl]

As soon as the lines showed we told DD and started making phonecalls. lol I as always have to share my joy. And DH just was not going to wait (not even untill the morning).

[Mavournin]

Well, I told Dh and a very good friend. I told MDC and my blog yesterday (a week after I POAS) and I am waiting until later to tell everyone else. I need to tell my mom first - and let's just say she is NOT going to be happy. I'm avoiding that, but when I finally bite the bullet I will spill the beans to friends and the ILs etc. I figure I have a couple couple of weeks before I get really sick - with my other pregnancies I never figured it out until the nausea got really bad, about 7 weeks. When that happens my mom willk either figure it out or I'll tell her. She's already giving me 'the eye' because I've been so bone weary tired - unexplained of course!

[YogaMama04]

We tell right away. I don't broadcast it to whole world, but to my close friends and family. I figure if something happens, I'd appreciate their support anyway, and I wouldn't hide it from them.

[Arwyn]

The "who would I be ok telling about a miscarriage?" is the rule of thumb I go by, too. It's just that I wouldn't want to tell most of my no-children-yet friends, nor my SIL (who would probably say something like "Oh, well that's for the best. You're so young still! You should wait another couple years!" Just because SOME PEOPLE like to wait until their thirties and their husband works on wall street earning six figures a year doesn't mean we all feel the need. : She's said, repeatedly, when she knew we were TTC that we should wait until they're "done" - in probably 3-4 years - because they have "so much great stuff". I DON'T WANT YOUR CRAP! What the hell do I need a crib, a bottle warmer, and a hundred pink dresses for??)

Can you tell I have SIL issues?

Anyway, because we REALLY don't want SIL to know until, well, ever (we'll tell her by Christmas if not Thanksgiving, probably), we're not telling my dad (he CANNOT keep a secret) or my brother (because it's cruel and unusual to expect him to keep it from his spouse - not that that stopped us from telling my mom ). And if we're not telling them, then we can't really tell most of the rest of the relatives.

DP's family, well, we don't talk to them anyway, so we'll probably just show up very very pregnant or with a baby one day.

But see, I'd be ok (well, as ok as one can be) sharing a miscarriage with the whole of MDC - the odds I'd get any kind of crappy comment here, are, well, basically nil. And the congrats and enthusiasm I get from telling are just great!

[Ben's Mommy]

Let's see....

MDC ~ Within 15 minutes of my !

DH ~ Right before MDC knew.

My immediate family and 2 close friends that same day.

My IL's will find out at my fil's b-day at the end of this month. We're signing his b-day card to include our new little one. However my sil is an mdc mama, so if she notices my siggie I guess she'll find out sooner!

Going out for a b-day dinner w/ friends this coming Wednesday and I'll tell then.

Everyone else will find out after my first appt in mid Aug.

I can't keep secrets for long, especially since everyone knows we've been ttc. I'm about to burst waiting to tell my IL's!

[cuddlebug]

I havn't even told dh yet. I am at my mum's for my sister's wedding and he stayed home, and I don't want to tell him over the phone, and I don't want other people finding out at her wedding. I will tell dh when I get home. Then dh's sister is getting married next week, so I will at least wait till a week after that to tell everyone. By then I will be 8 weeks. I waited till 9 weeks last time. I really am surprised no one here has even guessed yet with all my dizzy spells and always being tired

[kdf]

We told our families right away and I wanted to wait a few more weeks to tell our friends but my fil was going around telling our friends and all their friends so we had to tell everyone a lot sooner then I wanted.

[kerikadi]

We have told our closest friends, I called my Mom & my brother, DH told his aunt, I think that's it so far.

My ILs will not be happy at all : They are poo poo heads and DH wants to wait a few months before telling them, probably second tri.
My Dad will probably be ok but he has a tendency to say stupid things and my sister and I don't talk much, she has yet to meet my girls and doesn't even talk about my children when we exchange e-mails

We will wait another month before telling the boys and probably tell the girls shortly after that.

Keri