Is there still a Moms of Many thread?

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If not, is anyone interested? A while back in FYT this thread began, and it was a great support for us moms with big families. I later started a "Pregnant Moms of Many" thread in the I'm Pregnant forum. That was also an excellent support & resource. (It's tough being a mama of many! Not only the mothering itself, but family & society's reactions.)

Now I've had my babe, and was searching around MDC, but haven't found any MoM threads ongoing.

Wanna join?

I'll introduce myself briefly. I am raising 5 kids. I have four of my own, ages 6,4,2,and newborn. I am also raising my now 18 year old nephew. Both dh & I come from families w/2 children. Extended families members also mostly have 1 or 2 kids. People are floored by the number of kids we have, and quite often in a negative way, which I do not get. Dh has a good job. I am a SAHM. We are good parents, put our kids first in everything, and truly love our life. It really upsets me when people cannot be happy for us in this, and feel the need to share their negativity.

Oops, that's all for now. DD is calling. Being a MoM means brief computer time........

Looking forward to hearing from others.

[ApplePieBaby]

I'm a mom of many

[StephandOwen]

ApplePieBaby- I just have to say you have 2 of my favorite baby names (Owen and Olivia) My DS would have been Olivia if he was a girl (but now he's Owen ).

[cymbeline]

I've got three now, I don't know if that's "many" but it sure feels like a lot at the moment!! We've talked about having one more, but if things don't start looking up soon, then forget it. The last two weeks have been SO HARD. The older two (both boys) have been impossible, not adjusting well at all, totally ganging up on me & dh. I feel completely overwhelmed. I'd love to know your secrets, mamas!!!

[ApplePieBaby]

Originally Posted by cymbeline

I've got three now, I don't know if that's "many" but it sure feels like a lot at the moment!! We've talked about having one more, but if things don't start looking up soon, then forget it. The last two weeks have been SO HARD. The older two (both boys) have been impossible, not adjusting well at all, totally ganging up on me & dh. I feel completely overwhelmed. I'd love to know your secrets, mamas!!!

Sedation & duct tape...
LOL Just kidding!

I find that mine go in spurts... where they get along wonderfully and play so nice & then they get ornery and sick of each other or something & it gets chaotic again.

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Originally Posted by cymbeline

I've got three now, I don't know if that's "many" but it sure feels like a lot at the moment!! We've talked about having one more, but if things don't start looking up soon, then forget it. The last two weeks have been SO HARD. The older two (both boys) have been impossible, not adjusting well at all, totally ganging up on me & dh. I feel completely overwhelmed. I'd love to know your secrets, mamas!!!

Divide & conquer! When ours start fighting a lot, getting on each others nerves, etc. we separate them for a little while. For example, one can stay in the playroom, one can play on the computer, if dh or I are going out on an errand one can come w/us, etc. This really makes a big difference. We do not have a big house, so it can be tough for the kids to get their own space to "chill out", but we find ways to make it work.

[kgrfcharlton]

I think you MoM are great! I always defend big famlies when I hear people putting them down. I only have 2 (I used to want 4, but we'll see after my failed VBAC - I hate c-sections!), and I have so much respect for you mamas!

[a_work_in_progress]

I'm pregnant with my 4th child, and I'm scared out of my gourd! HOW DO YOU DO IT? No, really... I'm looking for suggestions!

[phathui5]

I only have three, but I'm aspiring to be a mom of many.

[TripMom]

I'm a mom of many! I have triplets - almost 19 months old - BBG. I also have DS - he'll be 4 in a week!

I always thought I'd be a mom - but 2 kids -maybe 3. 4 kids - all being so young - well, its just crazy that my life worked out this way. its also crazy how in love I am with all of them - and with being a mom. There are so many challenges - especially with the ages right now.

Here is my question to other MOM's on this thread - does anyone else ever feel guilty that there isn't enough of you to go around to everyone? That is one of my biggest issues on this topic - with DS #1 he was our sun/moon/stars - we just showered him and really enjoyed all our time with him. When the triplets came along - I now feel like nobody really gets enough of me and that can really make me sad sometimes. Anyone else?

[firstwomantomars]

An aspiring MoM here - subbing!

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[meowee]

I have five kids!

[emblmrgrl]

Subbing ... Mom of four here!

[HelloKitty]

Mom of four boys checking in here! Ages 16, 12, 3 1/2 and 15 months.

Still on the fence about having a number 5... probably not but not fully decided. We may adopt an older child in a few years instead.

[kayla14]

Mom of 4 here... 3 girls 7, 6, 2 and a 6month old boy.

No *plans* to have more, but I have a feeling we will

Lisa

[emilys_mom1]

I have a question for you all:

I have a 4 year old, 2 year old, and 4 month old. The two oldest are girls and very, very jelous of each other and my attention. They fight all the time and the 2 year old is always getting hurt when playing with the 4 year old.

How can I encourage them to get along, play nicely, or protect the 2 year old from getting hurt all the time.

The isn't any issues with the new baby, just the 2 older girls. I'm at my wits ends. Help Me.

[~*max*~]

Would anyone like to discuss the joys & challenges of having large families? I think there are so many things that aren't totally amazing, and then a lot of things that make it tough. I'll add more later - baby's crying.

[kayla14]

emilys mom, my kids don't have jealousy issues. But my older 2 (6 & 7) do fight ALL the time. They have very different personalities, and drive each other CRAZY on a day to day basis. UGH!

I wish I had suggestions, but really I don't. We've tried a lot of different things, but nothing helps all the time.

I do find when they are outside they tend to get along better than when they are cooped up in the house.

Lisa

[blueyebutterfly]

Joining in


I am Tamara and i am the mom to 6 children 4 girls and 2 boys.
ages 13,12,9,7,5,16mth and TTC#7