Originally Posted by pjlioness
As a law enforcement officer, your dh has had much more training than most regular people who have/carry them, so I'm sure he is well equipped to use it only when necessary. I am okay with off-duty law enforcement officers (and perhaps those who have had similar rigorous training) carrying guns.
However, no matter who the individuals are, the introduction of a gun into a tense situation means that it is more likely for someone to get hurt or killed. In your case, I'm sure your husband's good aim and quick reflexes would most likely result in the other person involved getting winged (and unable to shoot if they were attempting to), while everyone else would be safe.
I spent 4 years as the attorney in charge of discipline/terminations of our police officers. I can tell you that this is SO untrue. Officers are trained to stop the threat. They are not trained to "wing" anybody. In fact, if an officer had decided to try to "wing" a suspect it would have been considered an out-of-policy shooting. Additionally, the amount of time they actually are required to spend on the firing range is minimal. Once they qualify, it's once a year. That's it. Just because someone is a law enforcement officer does not guarantee that they have anymore firearms training than I do.
In officer-involved shootings, we always tried not to be too harsh in our second-guessing of the officer's decision to use deadly force. I always listened to the officer's account of what happened, and his reasoning behind pulling his weapon. Believe me, I heard much more reactionary weapon-draws from officers than the one described by the original poster. It's an entirely subjective thing.
I take the power of my gun seriously. I train with it. I shoot with it. If I feel at all uneasy about what to do with it, I ask my dh to take me out and refresh me. Otherwise I won't carry it. In my work with the City, I knew a Deputy Chief who had never drawn his weapon in 20 years with the department. He only took it out to qualify with it once a year. Indeed, he didn't clean the thing regularly. Personally, I think he would be more of a danger than I am. At least my gun is clean. And I KNOW I spend more hours a year shooting mine than he does his. I'd dare say I'm a better shot than he is.
Yes, it's true that you should never pull your weapon unless you are willing to use it. Clearly, in the original post, the poster felt willing to use it if necessary.
It's nice to think that we live in a "can't we all just get along?" kind of world, but the reality of it is that the vast majority of people out there do not feel like that. If they did, that punk would never have been following Moose the way he was. Everyone is different. I've had too many experiences with thugs, myself, to have faith that just because I want a world without violence, that the Euro-car driving fool that is racing down the road feels the same way, you know? It's unrealistic to think that everything can be talked out with everybody. Some people don't care. They are the reasons I carry my .45.