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post #161 of 200
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Originally Posted by Ltlfaery
The mall security and the mall manager were a little less welcoming. They came up, said hi, 'adviced us' that it was private property and they had the right to ask us to leave, and asked what the plan was.
Does NV have NIP laws? 'Cause if so, I'd be printing them out and mailing them to the mall manager advising him/her of the law and warning them if they did ask someone to leave for no other reason than breastfeeding they're setting themselves up for a lawsuit.
post #162 of 200
Congrats to the ladies in Seattle they made the news .. I just saw the 2 second story but hey at least they did the story on the news for some reason I broke into tears.. dam hormones.. I was so happy they did a story on the nurse in yeah for the mommies in Seattle
post #163 of 200
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Originally Posted by CallMeMommy
Does NV have NIP laws? 'Cause if so, I'd be printing them out and mailing them to the mall manager advising him/her of the law and warning them if they did ask someone to leave for no other reason than breastfeeding they're setting themselves up for a lawsuit.


NV Does have laws protecting a mothers right to nurse any public OR private place (except a home) that she has the right to be and exempts her from indecency laws. Looks like another nurse in is needed!
post #164 of 200
Well, I picked up a copy of the paper and they didn't run the story. I'm hoping it'll be in there tomorrow; I hate to think I wasted all that time trying to get participants, press, etc, all to have the whole thing trashed.
post #165 of 200
I think I checked in on another thread but not this one, so ignore me if you're getting deja vu.

Scranton, PA, Viewmont Mall. We arrived early, about quarter of, because she was fussing in the car and otherwise I would have had to nurse her there and that would be the end of that. The employees were very friendly and every single one of them must've asked "can I help you" but I know some stores are like that regardless. We walked around and browsed until a little after 1, and she nursed for all of 45 seconds. My SIL was there too, and she bought some lingerie. Very uneventful, just like any other shopping trip.
post #166 of 200
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Originally Posted by Pariah
I just got back! Sadly, I was the only mama there...that was a huge disappointment. Then, my digital camera battery was dead! But I sat in VS's display window (not near the displays or messing anything up, but in a spot very visible within the store and from outside the store), in the front of the store, and nursed ds. It was great. We (we being dh, ds, and I) noticed that there were about three sales associates walking around. They greeted other customers coming in, walked up to customers asking if they needed assistance, but said not a word to us the whole time we were there. Two sales associates went up to a woman browsing about five feet away from us asking if they wanted help, looked at us, and walked away. I don't know if they knew people planned on having a nurse-in and intentionally ignored us, or if it was just coincidence.
Hey, Kudos to you for still doing the nurse-in! You are brave to continue by yourself! I was lucky to have a bunch of other mamas at the Vs store here in Salem. I am curious though, if anyone heard anything from VS corporate iteself. It seemed that when we went in, the manager already was aware that we were coming, and staff was prepared to give us every courtesy. It made me hopeful that VS has made sure that their employees know that nursing mothers are accepted in the stores.

Anyone know?
post #167 of 200
Boston's FOX25 news did a blurb about it this evening. They mentioned Seattle, SC and Boston. I didn't get to see it all because I was nursing the wee one to sleep.
post #168 of 200

NIP 3 times that day!

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Originally Posted by jmom713
Mesa AZ superstition springs mall

So, i'm a bit late with the check-in. We had 4 nursing moms (3 MDC and my friend). Also one DH and a couple of older children in addition to the nurslings. We used the chair arrangement set up out front of the store and were there for over an hour chatting and nursing. My friend's baby is tongue tied and getting baby latched can be challenging. She actually prefers to nurse with some privacy and went in to use the chairs outside the VS dressing rooms. She was approached several times by attendants asking if she wanted a dressing room. She let them know that she was fine where she was (dressing rooms were busy/full). To my knowledge none of us got any comments by shoppers/attendants; nor were we approached by security.

good job Moms!

Jen
I was also at the Houston Galleria and thought it went great considering we were competing with another weekend event and star gazers. It was great to see so many moms wearing slings!

I also nursed later that evening I went to Luby's with my parents. The waitress walked over to refill my tea and my son popped off to look at her - she didn't bat an eye but apologized for interrupting him. It was so cute!

My son was very tongue tied but my midwife (Nativiti Rocks!) gave him a clip with sugical scissors and we have not had any problems since. He was a second nurser or I think things could have been worse.

Anyway great job everyone - especially those going it alone!
post #169 of 200
WEll I had orgnized, and contacted the LLL in my area. And a few other people on line. About 20 people said they were going to go. And only two other than me showed up, they felt too uncomfortable to nurse in the store, so we did it outside, and VS didn't notice. People that were walking down the very busy street stared at us. And the press didn't show even though I contacted a few of them. And I showed up, with a horrible ear ache, because I had committed myself to doing this, so I even though I was in pain I took some motrin, and off I went. I was very dissappointed. Oh well.
post #170 of 200
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Originally Posted by Ltlfaery
Our nursing was AWESOME. WE had 25+ moms, plus their babies/toddler/children, older children, and quite a few dads (who went to get some luch during the activities)!!

We were there four about an hour and a half.
We gave the VS manager a hand out I made with the press release, some articles and stuff.
They later came out to invite us in, said we could use their lounge area if we needed to sit and nurse (as there's limited benches outside), walk through the store...anything.
The mall security and the mall manager were a little less welcoming. They came up, said hi, 'adviced us' that it was private property and they had the right to ask us to leave, and asked what the plan was. She then went in to talk to the VS manager, and came back out and said it was OK for us to stay, and that we could even go in the store.

Later we found out (from the VS manager) the mall manager asked her if they wanted us removed. To which the VS manager said, as she told us the story: "I told her it was totally fine, that you guys are welcome here, and in our store. That we're ashamed someone in our store treated nursing moms the way they did, it's totally unacceptable and we are very sorry it happened...somewhere in the east right? It's a shame. Again..."

The VS manager was an absolute darling! She said there has been talk of a nursing bra by VS, and that it just takes time, just like it took time for them to get a sports bra out (which is new I guess). But that they were working on not only the nursing bra, but expanding their band with to 40+ and having more AA bras.

One of the ladies' daughter even had her make up done while we where there.

We handed out some 'press releases' to those intrigued by our presence, and while we did get two "disgusting" looks (by women) most everyone was supportive, and thrilled to see so many babies. Even a pregnant woman took a release and said she was really interested in reading it.


As we walked out the mall I noticed a VS employee on break, sitting on a bench, reading through the hand out I gave her manager. The hand out had the press release, the state's breastfeeding laws, the past incident with VS, and other pro-breastfeeding articles.


YAY Way to go las vegas!!!!!:

You can see pictures of our nursing on www.breastfeeding.com, they should be up soon.

However, no media attended. They were not allowed in property, and didn't call to set up interviews. BUT, I'll be emailing pix about it to see if they get at least something in the broadcast.

which mall did you all go to?? im a nursing mom, i work at the sunset galleria mall VS and i didn't see anything going on really. i had one woman ask if we carried maternity stuff but i didn't think anything of it until now eventhough i knew about the nurse-in prior...

but i heard it was going to be more at the forum shops. was that where you went?
post #171 of 200
im a nursing mom to 1 year old christian, no end in sight! but im also a VS employee and it is so hard cause there are so many different things going on here. im glad to see you all advocating NIP, and maybe because i have never cared to realize or notice the "looks" or "stares", i just haven't been effected in a negative way with NIP, which i do ALOT. at church, in the store, at the park, in the car, where ever he gets hungry. i even don't want to pump because i want people to know my child is breastfed, although pumping is sometimes necessary.

as a VS emploeyee, i never ever heard of anyone being discriminated for BFing. i find it refreshing to be able to help a BFing mom at our store. i am honest, i give my experience (BFing a 3 month old is very different than BFing a 1 year old), i tell the truth about support and ease of use while trying to NIP with certain bras, or where to find nursing bras, and i completely agree with VS needing a maternity or BFing line. cause this place that makes the BEST bras in the world, should make something for BFing moms, it would be AMAZING! it would probably be 'the best BFing bra in the world' lol but asking me and putting me on the spot or kind of 'pointing the finger' at ME for us not carrying stuff like that only makes me feel like crap. like i wish i could do somehting for you but i just can't and im ONE employee in a sea of thousands. i can't make them hurry up and whip out a nursing bra overnight.

we aren't 'trained' in BFing mom friendly etiquette, because to us a BFING mom is exactly like any other person in there. a client, a shopper, a person. not a freak of nature or an unsanitary milk machine, but a client just like any other and whatever you choose to do while you shop is up to you as long as it isn't obscene. if you take of your shirt to BF, then you'll be asked to put it back on! lol just like anyone else would be if they took off their shirt. so it's about respect on BOTH parts, the mother BFing and the employees. TOGETHER we can make a difference. but don't butt heads with every single VS store because of a few incidences in some. im not going to hold it against MY local applebee's because of that one manager's mess up. and understand that at VS we're talking a higher ratio for things like misunderstandings to happen, because we ARE dealing with woman and a woman's store.

ok im done rambling..
post #172 of 200
pregodego- I htink the biggest issue was that when these moms contacted your coorporate offices they were still told that NIP was akin to trying on bras in the middle of your stores. Your coorporate offices represent your whole chain and need to be held responsible.

Our local CBS station has it as a featured video on their front page. Here is the link to the story http://www.wtol.com/Global/story.asp?S=5106736

I am the blond, the curly haired 3 year old with the baby in the sling is my older daughter Maia.
post #173 of 200
I'm not sure if anyone posted for the Texas Parks Mall group... But I know we had 5 mom's come out with nursing kiddo's. I'm not sure how many husbands and sisters were there as well. I'd guess at least 5 husbands, my parents, and my older -now weaned- 2 1/2 year old.

Link to picture.

**edited to add that we were at the Parks Mall in Arlington.**
post #174 of 200
Is it just me or does Corporate not even sure of their own policy?

They tell one of the breastfeeding moms she can't nurse on the sales floor since they don't allow customers to change on the sales floor. Yet reporters have been told by Corporate that moms can nurse anywhere in the store that they feel comfortable.

I hope that this nurse in not only raises awareness to the "policy" in the stores but thru out corporate as well.
post #175 of 200
I had a chance to watch the whole "piece" this morning on FOX. They said that "Victoria Secret's corporate offices deny the claim". The claim that we made about being told we couldn't nurse there.:
post #176 of 200
Of course they deny the claim. Next time I go in a VS to shop (and nurse), I'm bringing a recorder so I can prove it.
post #177 of 200
How did it go in KS??
I have to work weekends so I wasn't able to go and I really wanted to. I did hear something on the radio from a station out of Lawrence about the nurse in at VS but I got in on the last little bit of it and couldn't tell if I should like the fact they said something or not.

I'm so happy it went well in other places and that some had a good turn out. And I'm so proud of those that did it by themselves!

Andrea
post #178 of 200
another who was at the Houston Galleria. Nice turn out!

Though my dh may have scared a fellow mom off.... She came up and said how nice it was to see dads there... he said of COURSE he was there, it was a human rights issue She said that her dh wouldn't be caught dead at a nurse in.... my dh said then she should tell him he's a sissy : I guess poor dh has lived with me too long. I keep telling him he's not like other dads.....

So, to that nice mom- sorry! Usually dh is quiet and meek, I promise!

-Angela
post #179 of 200
I was at Oakbrook. No one said anything to me. I just walked around, nursing DD in a MT. She only nursed about 5 minutes.

Had I made a mess, I would've cleaned up.

I kept scaring DH, telling him that we chanted and stuff.
post #180 of 200
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Originally Posted by alegna
another who was at the Houston Galleria. Nice turn out!

Though my dh may have scared a fellow mom off.... She came up and said how nice it was to see dads there... he said of COURSE he was there, it was a human rights issue She said that her dh wouldn't be caught dead at a nurse in.... my dh said then she should tell him he's a sissy : I guess poor dh has lived with me too long. I keep telling him he's not like other dads.....

So, to that nice mom- sorry! Usually dh is quiet and meek, I promise!

-Angela
Was that the mom with the stroller that was chatting with you and your husband? I noticed her walk by a couple of times before she stopped and talked to anyone.

My husband (long blond hair) said your husband did seem quiet and not one to make a statement like that, but he totally agrees with him.
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