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post #41 of 137
Sigh. I am at my wits end. He's telling us no to everything we ask and say (and it's this really nails-on-a-chalkboard NO in the tone he uses) and is throwing more and more tantrums. I am tired and worn thin with him lately.:

On a positive side, he is now fully potty-trained, using a huge amount of words that he wasn't just last month, doing lots on his own, and is learning to swim! Yay!
post #42 of 137
Hi everyone My middle child is 3.5, so glad to see a tribe for her wild-child self Going to read all the posts now
post #43 of 137
OK, you can all stone me if you want but my kids go to bed with a movie on! : And they usually get a drink of water, or some milk or Pediasure... (I know, I know- bad for the teeth!) They both sleep in their own beds, but they share a room. They come in to our room every morning and sometimes I get up with them, other times we sleep for a little while longer.

Zach said another funny thing this morning... He popped on the boob for a couple minutes, then wanted the other one but I told him no. He said "But Mom, my teeth don't feel better yet!" and he pointed to his lower teeth! I though it was pretty funny...

to Liz...
post #44 of 137
Thread Starter 
leah~ zack probably knows that the boob is good for his teeth, eh?

My grrls go to bed pretty much when they want to. It was different when XP was around. I nurse sa-sa to sleep, and haeven will *sometimes* go to sleep in her own bedroom, but usually falls asleep with me and sasa, then I move her to her bed, and she sleeps there all night, or I'll lay down with her in her own bed after sa sa is asleep. Then there is the odd time that she won't go to sleep, and then she watches latenight tv with me, and falls asleep on the couch.

about those troublesome 3 1/2 yo's... I'm going to be blunt, but have you ever looked at your own energy/ actions/ emotional state as to why your child acts the way they do? I do all the time, and I really notice that when I have a bad attitude/mood, the kids do too. Just sayin'. Hope you can find a way to find your peaceful child. Kids are very open & sensitive until they are about 7 years old, as their aura is not fully developed, so they can't filter things like adults can./ so thoughts and feelings really effect them until that time.
post #45 of 137
I agree with that Jaz. I have to take a step back and look at myself and my own actions when the kids are acting up. If they are in good health, fed, well rested, and comfortable and *still* acting out... Well, I just know I have to change the way I'm acting and reacting in order to get the harmony flowing again. Obviously not every moment in our house is perfect, with four kids and an immature husband, but I do my best.
post #46 of 137
Oh, all the time. The trouble is, I'm crazy. :sheepish: It really doesn't help.

The kids have been fabulous today, though, and BooBah's been doing some things lately which make me think that her problem isn't a hearing deficit as much as a sensory issue; I think perhaps her hearing is too good, so she's occasionally tuning things out. We'll see what EI says after her evaluation.
post #47 of 137
we're hoping to move dd to a twin bed in our room once we move to our new place in august. i also am going to put a crib size bed in a play house she'll have in her own room so that i can introduce the concept of having her own bed in her own room.
i'll just be glad to sleep with dh again- even tho we havea queen, kathrynn always finds a way to take up most of the bed herself.

hugs,
lisa



ps- yeah, control issues. bheh
post #48 of 137
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Originally Posted by eilonwy

The kids have been fabulous today, though, and BooBah's been doing some things lately which make me think that her problem isn't a hearing deficit as much as a sensory issue; I think perhaps her hearing is too good, so she's occasionally tuning things out. We'll see what EI says after her evaluation.
I wanted to comment on this before, when I read your blog... My sasa does this too, and I did it as well, when I was a little grrl. Just wouldn't listen. I was in my own world. I know perfectly well, that samaya has the ability to hear me, but she just tunes me out, becaseu she doesn't *want* to hear me. I'm always going "sasa, sasa, sasa, sasa, sasa, sasa"... and then she might look at me a moment.:
post #49 of 137
I lay down w/ Razi until he falls asleep. If he's mellow before hand, from reading etc. it usually takes 15 to 20 min. Sometimes it takes longer and if I get frustrated he takes even longer. I know he senses when I don't want to be there. He's had a bed in his own room (attached to ours) for quite awhile and won't have anything to do w/ it.

Right now, I'm looking out the door at him. He swinging, with some kind of rope attachment to the swing and he's wearing bear ear muffs, just looking around. It's only like 90 degrees outside, lol. He seriously cracks me up on a regular basis. The ear muffs help him work better, he says.
post #50 of 137
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Originally Posted by saritasmile
Right now, I'm looking out the door at him. He swinging, with some kind of rope attachment to the swing and he's wearing bear ear muffs, just looking around. It's only like 90 degrees outside, lol. He seriously cracks me up on a regular basis. The ear muffs help him work better, he says.
I can see it.
post #51 of 137
Cute, Sarita!

You're probably tired of hearing about my Zachary-isms, but today he was eating and he says "Dude, I totally took a huge bite!" He just sounded like he was trying to be a little man... He has been saying "actually" ("ax-shitty") too!!!
post #52 of 137
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Originally Posted by DecemberSun
Cute, Sarita!

You're probably tired of hearing about my Zachary-isms, but today he was eating and he says "Dude, I totally took a huge bite!" He just sounded like he was trying to be a little man... He has been saying "actually" ("ax-shitty") too!!!
I'm so not tired of Z-isms. Your nursing stories reminded me: I've told razi he can nurse again when the baby comes. So the other day he was just staring at my boobs and he says "I think the baby came out mama"-never taking his eyes off. BTW, lots and lots of sticky vibes coming from me
post #53 of 137
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Originally Posted by saritasmile
I'm so not tired of Z-isms. Your nursing stories reminded me: I've told razi he can nurse again when the baby comes. So the other day he was just staring at my boobs and he says "I think the baby came out mama"-never taking his eyes off. BTW, lots and lots of sticky vibes coming from me
BeanBean used to tell me that "We should go see the doctor right now, so he can get that baby out!"

Speaking of which, he nursed yesterday for about five minutes. : I'm so totally dedicated to child-led weaning, but these random, every-other-month nursing sessions are already driving me a bit batty. :
post #54 of 137
Going to bed: Matthew gets a bath with his sister, hangs out downstairs with us for a bit if it is not getting late, then I take him up to his bed, and lay down and nurse him for a few minutes, give him hugs and kisses, and he goes night-night (with the door OPEN, mama).

Whiny kid: That is my kid too lately!! Jaz has a great point about watching my own mood and behavior around him, and how I am feeling/acting rubs off on him. It just gets worse if he is whining, I get frustrated, he whines more, etc. : I wonder if part of the problem here is that it has been either raining a lot or just SO freaking hot and steamy that we have not been able to spend as much time outside as we would like.

We went to the park this morning, and saw a hurt BAT right by the playground equipment! Yikes! I felt sorry for the poor thing, but was not going anywhere near it with small kids and my dog! Another lady there reported it.
post #55 of 137

what's the deal w/ 3.5????

I was just about to start a thread with the above title, and I see there's an entire tribe

DS1 got his ya-yas out in the 2's and was starting to mellow by 3's. Not so w/ DS2. Throwing blocks and food, telling everyone to go away, picking fights with his older brother, ripping up books, crumpling up photographs (while people are enjoying them!).

He's driving me crazy!!! of course he's totally adorable, smart, hilarious, creative, but this other stuff is making me nuts.

Glad to see I'm not alone!!! I'm with you guys! :
post #56 of 137

forgot to add.....

CONSTANT WHINING!!!!

: : :
post #57 of 137
Thread Starter 
I've been meaning to say Congrats, Leah!!! hope this one sticks around!!
post #58 of 137
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Originally Posted by Fiddlemom
ripping up books, crumpling up photographs (while people are enjoying them!).
Yeah, what's up the destructo mode? My son broke the crown of his friends Pretty Pretty Princess game. My husband described it as "he was testing the flexibility of the crown and the crown failed the test"
post #59 of 137
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Originally Posted by kindacrunchy
Yeah, what's up the destructo mode? My son broke the crown of his friends Pretty Pretty Princess game. My husband described it as "he was testing the flexibility of the crown and the crown failed the test"


OK, so maybe we can see future structural engineering talents here???

post #60 of 137
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Originally Posted by Fiddlemom


OK, so maybe we can see future structural engineering talents here???

(I meant this quite seriously despite the laughter--as in, I need to look on the positive side!!!)
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