PALS in the house! - Page 9

[pianojazzgirl]

Originally Posted by DecemberSun

Yes, I'd love to feel the kicks, too. My mom asked me when I'll feel more secure about the pregnancy and I told her "When I feel some movement!"

I feel exactly the same way.

[ILoveMySofie]

I too feel like I just cannot wait to feel movement. I dream about that day so much!
Unfortunately for me, that will also open up a whole new level of worry since I will be checking for movement obsessively at all times. Because of how I lost my angel baby...and since it was almost at the end of my pregnancy that pretty much leaves me the entire pregnancy to be worried. Really sucks.

Im trying to prepare myself every single day for this. I cant lie-im very scared.:

[Astromom]

ILoveMySofie,

[pianojazzgirl]

Originally Posted by ILoveMySofie

I too feel like I just cannot wait to feel movement. I dream about that day so much!
Unfortunately for me, that will also open up a whole new level of worry since I will be checking for movement obsessively at all times. Because of how I lost my angel baby...and since it was almost at the end of my pregnancy that pretty much leaves me the entire pregnancy to be worried. Really sucks.

Im trying to prepare myself every single day for this. I cant lie-im very scared.:

I think I'll be the same way. I came so close to losing my dd when I was 37.5 wks pg. She just stopped moving one day. We went to the hospital and her heartrate had dropped so low that they rushed me for an immediate emergency c-section. They never found a reason for her distress either. I am going to have that in the back of my mind until this baby is born safely.

[Ben's Mommy]

Originally Posted by ILoveMySofie

Because of how I lost my angel baby...and since it was almost at the end of my pregnancy that pretty much leaves me the entire pregnancy to be worried. Really sucks.

Ditto. Although I got all the way thru the pg, so that leaves me just a bit more time to worry! I think I'll have my big sigh of relief when I get to take my baby home with me! Man we all are going to have a rough 7+ months to go, aren't we? :

[ILoveMySofie]

thank you all for the hugs.

Sandy I must say im afraid it will indeed be a bit rough. I know its crazy to think about this now but i can already see myself staying up all night too just watching the baby sleep.

[Ben's Mommy]

Originally Posted by ILoveMySofie

thank you all for the hugs.

Sandy I must say im afraid it will indeed be a bit rough. I know its crazy to think about this now but i can already see myself staying up all night too just watching the baby sleep.

Oh YES! All night, all day and then some. I can already see those dark circles forming under my eyes!

[JennyClaire]

Originally Posted by Astromom

If anyone made it this far through my post , will anyone else be going through pregnancy after a loss but not doing doppler?

Me! Like you, I will not have any kind of U/S during the 1st trimester. Even bleeding (without pain) will not cause me to "check." At 6 weeks along, there's nothing they can do even if there's loss! And I have big concerns about the use of ultrasounds.

I didn't know what PALS stood for, that's why I haven't dropped by sooner. I will catch up later, but I wanted to say "hi" and subscribe now.

My name is Jenny, and I have a daughter (14) and a son (2 next week). Between those two, I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in 2003 (a little conceived on Christmas Day).

I was so worried during my pregnancy with DS because I had bright red spotting for several days, and cramping, (DH and I cried and greived the loss of that pregnancy too) but he's running around the house as I type. :

[pianojazzgirl]

Welcome to the thread Jenny! Wishing for a Happy and Healthy 9 months for you!

[JennyClaire]

Thank you Kate!

The only thing I could bring myself to eat tonight was hot and sour soup (not homeade). I think it must have had MSG in it, because now I have a splitting headache, and I NEVER get bad headaches. Ugh! Trying not to worry about the babe. I swear I worry about things that most people haven't even thought of ---- like ------

x-rays aren't safe during pregnancy, but what about those metal detectors at the airport? Or, do you get even worse amounts of radiation from flying itself? DD is going away to school in September, and I want to feel like it's safe to got visit whenever she needs me.

During my last pregnancy, I actually asked them to hand search me so I wouldn't have to walk throught the metal detector. They acted like I was crazy, but obliged.

And if saunas and hot baths MAY be dangerous, what about drinking tea or eating soup. That always raises my temps. And the weather's been pretty hot, and we don't have A/C......

Thanks for letting me worry here, ladies ---- everyone else would think me insane -- if they don't already!

[Arwyn]

Actually, hot tubs ARE SAFE. Honest, I swear. There was a very good study quoted in Midwifery Today earlier this year that said that in a 104* tub, it took something like 2-4 HOURS for a woman's body temp to raise even half a degree. And all the women WANTED to get out before then. Raised temps aren't even remotely dangerous until AT LEAST over 100. Hot tubs are safe! (Well, maybe not with the chlorine, but that's a different topic. )

We're mammals - it really takes a lot to raise our core temp significantly. Yes, if it's 110 degrees where you are and you're dehydrated, I might worry, but more because of the risk of passing out than of damaging the baby.

And I don't think you're insane at all, Jenny, and if it makes you feel better to avoid hot tubs and saunas, by all means do so. It's just not evidence based (like much of OB recommendations - it was a good theory, but isn't supported by science).

[Arwyn]

Oh, and the radiation, I just don't want to think about. I did two cross country plane trips, involving two planes each, at about 3 weeks past ovulation (there was just no way around it, short of selling all our stuff in Indiana or having DP quit so he could do the trip). So I'm very LALALAAAA I CAN'T HEAR YOU on that topic.

[paisley]

Welcome Jenny! Sorry about the cryptic title. Our secret decoder rings are backordered , but I'm glad you found us!

Sandy and ILoveMySofie - Hugs to both of you. We need a giant cosmic fast forward button so we can all get to our safe points.

I'll be 9 weeks on Wednesday. My nausea has gone way down since I started eating wheat again last week so of course that's making me worry a bit. It does feel nice not to feel so sick, but then what if that's not a good sign... Oy.

[Astromom]

JennyClaire, I understand what you mean -- I don't think it's odd at all to worry about things like extra radiation when you fly. I had to fly for a business trip a few days after ovulation and I must have spent a couple of hours researching that exact topic! Eventually it came down to benefit vs risk -- the benefit of not losing my job outweighed the risk of a brief 2 hr flight. Like Arwyn -- she didn't have a choice either. Although I have to admit, I hate flying anyway and at one point right before the trip I said to my husband "Oh forget it. I'm quitting. Can we afford that?"

Aw, Paisley, . That nausea is such a comfort in a way. Sending peaceful thoughts your way.

What I found with DD was that I never really felt safe until she hit 1 year old. First trimester, second trimester, third trimester, being born -- none of those were safe points for me. When I felt the first kicks, all it did was reassure me that things were ok up to that point. Same with the first heartbeat on the fetoscope. I still always worried for the future. So I figure the same thing will happen this time as well. When I feel the first movements, I'll heave a HUGE sigh of relief that I haven't had a missed miscarriage again... but I'll still be missing that sense of security. But you just wait until March 2008 -- I'll be one secure mama.

[celesterra]

ok, i was just starting to feel more confident. my symptoms are still here – tiredness, queasy, sore bbs.... and the spotting pretty much stopped as of last Wednesday except for the smallest bit in the mornings. but then i read someone talk about “missed miscarriage” and googled it, and now i’m terrified!

astromom, did you still feel pregnant when you had yours?

i will be 8 weeks on Wednesday and have been feeling so great about moving forward... and skipping my ultrasound on Friday. now i’m scared. would i still get a + hpt?

please tell me that i’m crazy and this probably isn’t the case! :

[pianojazzgirl]

Oooh yeah, that radiation while flying thing. DD and I are flying out to visit my parents on Tuesday. It'll be a one hour flight followed by a five hour flight. Bought the tickets before I was pg, too late to cancel now... I'm just trying to push the worry to the very back of my mind!

[Astromom]

Originally Posted by celesterra

ok, i was just starting to feel more confident. my symptoms are still here – tiredness, queasy, sore bbs.... and the spotting pretty much stopped as of last Wednesday except for the smallest bit in the mornings. but then i read someone talk about “missed miscarriage” and googled it, and now i’m terrified!

astromom, did you still feel pregnant when you had yours?

Yikes, I'm sorry! I didn't mean to alarm you. Celeste, I had a missed miscarriage in my first pregnancy - I had no symptoms during that pregnancy and didn't have another pregnancy to compare it to, so I had no way of knowing that isn't normal for me. I was 14 weeks along (18 weeks by my original dates, but who knows) when they found out that I had a 10 week babe with no heartbeat.

I have all the symptoms right now, so I know the babe's in there still doing well. I hope you can feel confident about that too -- it sounds like things are going fine for you!

What I'm worried about is the fact that my m/s will most likely go away (like it does for most, at the end of the first trimester) but I won't feel kicks for some time after that. So that's the uncertain time that I'll have to deal with.

[fljen]

Hey all,

Finally got up the gumption to come on in here. I was in the Feb ddc for a little while and then had a very early m/c. We were so happy to be pg and it was very traumatising for us. Then we managed to get another positive the next month but I did 5 different tests over 7 days to make sure. And then waited another week before calling our midwife, just in case. Right now I'm definitely part of the TP-obsessed group, every little twinge makes me want to run to the bathroom... And I didn't want to come in here for fear of being happy and talking to all the expectant mamas just to end up having something happen again.

Big to all the mamas on here that have had such hard times and lots of sticky vibes to you all. I hope to be seeing you on here for a long time

[ILoveMySofie]

Fljen!

[fljen]

Awwww, thanks