I am almost in tears--having an emotional day. We moved to Bahrain a few months ago and I came with a plan. DS is going to the American SCHool because he wants too ( sigh) He started Montessori at 4 and loved it so I spent lots of time at his school. DD is 3 1/2 and bright, creative etc... I plan to keep her home with me next year and homeschool. I begin Montessori Teacher Training in Oct and am so excited to explore all this with her. She takes ballet and gymnastics and doesn't want to go to school. The other moms here are driving me nuts. This is a big "maid culture" meaning everyone has live in maids from 3rd world countires. Many moms use the maids to look after the kids-producing children who at 3 can't speak well, dont feed themselves, lots of screaming etc. Now I think these maids are so sweet and precious leaving their own families to come work so they cn support them all back home-but shame on these mothers who sit and chat while the maids take care of and raise their kids. These same mom are all over me !!! Heres what I'm getting
"you'll regret not putting her in nursery-go tommorow and put her on the list"
"you just dont want to be lonely thats why you dnt put her in nursery"
"she wants to play with friends"
In th states I may have put her in a 2 morning a week preschool if she really wanted to go , but here they are 8-12 5 days a week with like 30+ kids in each class!! These 3 yr olds are the not the same as dd--the culture is so different--they seem much less mature than she is and I feel like shed be thrown to the wolves. The British seem to do the "nursery" thing very young ( british mamas??) I dont see anyone who actually enjoys being with their kids!!!
Its hard to observe and not judge...I am trying but in turn I feel a bit judged. Not that I care much but it can get a bit lonely. In the states , even though I am not a mainstream mama--atleast other mamas atleast knew or had heard of other AP moms. Just think if they knew I didn't vax!! Holy crap-
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any encouragement from my MDC buddies would be appreciated!!
"you'll regret not putting her in nursery-go tommorow and put her on the list"
"you just dont want to be lonely thats why you dnt put her in nursery"
"she wants to play with friends"
In th states I may have put her in a 2 morning a week preschool if she really wanted to go , but here they are 8-12 5 days a week with like 30+ kids in each class!! These 3 yr olds are the not the same as dd--the culture is so different--they seem much less mature than she is and I feel like shed be thrown to the wolves. The British seem to do the "nursery" thing very young ( british mamas??) I dont see anyone who actually enjoys being with their kids!!!
Its hard to observe and not judge...I am trying but in turn I feel a bit judged. Not that I care much but it can get a bit lonely. In the states , even though I am not a mainstream mama--atleast other mamas atleast knew or had heard of other AP moms. Just think if they knew I didn't vax!! Holy crap-
:any encouragement from my MDC buddies would be appreciated!!
Hang in there - you know you're doing the right thing. That scene just sounds messed up. It doesn't sound to me as if there would be any less sense of loneliness in that crowd even if you did everything just the way they dictated. They just don't sound like a very warm and fuzzy bunch. Good grief. That sure sounds a lot like bullying. But the more you feel confident with what you want to do and stand your centered ground - even with a smile if possible - without caving into any debate about it, the less they'll bug you. There might be some envy or guilt threading through all this too, you know - there might be some discomfort in some of them from seeing such a different way of being.
- because of all the reasons you've already mentioned, and because there's no good reason why she should be in school. - Lillian
