WWYD? Borrow from inlaws for OT?

[Mom2Wilmo]

Our insurance is no longer covering ds OT as of Aug 1. After that it is $100 an hour and we go once a week. My inlaws have offered to cover the expense but....I don't want them meddling anymore in my life than they already do. There is no way we can pay for this therapy without some help from somewhere. I have though about getting a part time job but dh work 11 hour days and I have no reliable family to watch my kids for free and the daycare would eat up whatever I would make. I just find it very hard to swallow taking so much money from them. My MIL is horrible to me and I don't want to have to just take it just because she;s giving us so much money, kwim? What would you do?

[Rebecca]

If it were me, I'd suck it up and take the money. She just wants what's best for her grandson, regardless of how she feels about you. Some MILs are witches to the woman who stole their son from them, and that may not ever change, but it'd be detrimental to your son to stop OT, as you know, and no better for the family if you work more hours. I'm sorry you're in this bind. I know what it's like to have to listen to a family member who thinks you should be grateful for their existance and everything you do.

[srain]

Is the OT doing something you can't do at home? Can you research and replicate the treatment yourself?

[Mom2Wilmo]

Well, the OT is doing things that we can't do at home. In six months or a year from now I would probably be OK stopping but right now everyone is working so hard and my son is doing so well it would kill me to have to stop. I know I should take the money but it's going to be really hard to swallow. She acts like she's the mother and I'm just the babysitter as it is.

[Stayseeliz]

Personally I'd take the money. It is their grandson. And if she starts with the "I'm paying therefore I get to have my say" Than stop. Or suck it up until you feel you can quit.

[Kleine Hexe]

I'd also take the money. As much as it sucks sometimes it best to swallow that bitter pill and sacrifice for my child. I'm sorry the offer for help from the in-laws comes with a hefty price tag. If it helps try to think of the money as a gift from grandma to her grandson.

You could also pay her back at a later time if that would make things a bit easier.

[p.s]

one thing to consider, if you get a PT job, the supervisor or coworkers may be even more horrible than the MIL, and they don't care a whit about your DC.