I'm sorry to everyone who has ever been told to be louder, or quieter. How absolutely insulting.
I labor externally, and loudly, although normally, I am extremely private and quiet.
The sounds I made with ds...
It's almost eight years later and dh still talks about it. I will forever be grateful to my mw, because she never told me once to be quiet, or settle down, or try to pitch my screams lower. She let me do it the way I needed, and I did it.
With both girls, their labors were much quicker, but during transitions, where I become irrationally terrified and out of sorts, I was very loud although not out of control.
I think many people equate screaming with being out of control. And that's not always the case. In labor, at least for me, screaming or being irrational is my way to control what I'm feeling.