|Look, there are lots of things on MDC that might be hurtful for others to read. Parents who made an informed decision to circumcize their boys have to see the title of the "Case Against Circumcision" forum every time they login. I have found it hard to read happy threads about birthday parties because my GIFTED kid couldn't participate in them until age 10 due to them completely overwhelming his already overwhelmed senses. Ditto with team sports threads, best friend threads, and other experiences my gifted kid has never had because of being so outside the norm. I am sorry if you don't believe that gifted kids don't exist or don't have issues that can cause hurt to them and to us as their parents. However, what YOU personally "believe" or "think" is not the basis for determining what counts as a special need.|
But I know that with all this work we've been doing, he will grow up to be a successful, independant person. He drives us crazy at times, but I'm also insanely proud of him and all he's accomplished. He's had to overcome so much.
On the flipside is my youngest, who at age three, says the same five words she said six months ago. I spent eight months getting her to sign "more". She didn't walk until she was 23 months. I've taken her to one doctor after another, spent hours at night scanning the internet for a diagnosis that would fit her. I've had to wait two weeks on blood tests to find out if she had some horrible syndrome. We're currently looking into doing an MRI, which requires putting her under anesthsia. I had to reassure a child who doesn't understand why this strange man is wrapping up her legs to make casts for orthotics. I have to sit in meetings for special ed preschool while still wondering how this has become my life.
For a year, I thought I had a perfectly normal child. I've had to deal with the feeling that I was tricked somehow. I've had to live with slight guilt b/c I had a feeling something wasn't quite right but was in denial. It's only slight guilt b/c I got over denial and have done everything possible to help her. Of course, now I have to deal with my mother, who has dared to tell me I'm not doing enough for my daughter.
No, my daughter doesn't need a feeding tube or a wheel chair, so most of the time, I have felt that we didn't belong on most special needs boards. This is one where I do feel we fit in, even if we don't have as serious of problems as others. I like that it's a general special needs b/c maybe someday, someone will post about a diagnosis and that will fit my dd. And then I'll know what her future is. Right now, I don't. I don't know if she'll go to high school, drive a car...heck, I can't get past whether or not she'll go to kindergarten! I mean, I know she will, but will it be at the local school, or will I have to drive her out of town to a special needs school?
What has been interesting is watching my oldest deal with his sister. He loves her - they all do. But one day, my oldest said matter-of-factly "Maura's your favorite because you spend the most time with her." So I had to explain to them all that Maura needed more of my time b/c it takes her longer to do things. My oldest also was frustrated b/c she didn't walk when I said she would (Mom, it's fall, you said she'd be walking by the end of summer and she's not.) At the same time, the ST decided that she should do a class with the sibs to teach them how to help Maura learn to talk and ds took notes. He asks why she needs the orthotics and I explain. The other two sibs don't seem to take notice of such things, but Collin's always been a "details" kind of kid. Always.
I've just forgotten what my point is. Oh well.
Anyway, I think the idea of having a "Parenting Gifted Children" forum would be great b/c I do think it's a bit stingy to give the gifted kids parents just one thread - how confusing must all that get? When there are so many things like "The quirks of gifted kids" and "dealing with teachers dumber than your child" and trying to make sure the books they read are at both their reading and emotional level (not always an easy thing.)