First, here is the reason we started potty training before DS was showing much interest.
Oh, this potty training thing sucks. I am so very tired of battling with DS over this, I cannot even tell you. He deliberately holds the pee in when we are within waving distance of the toilet, then he will go pee in the kitchen the minute we turn our backs. He is unmoved by toys or external motivators, and taking him at timed intervals rarely works because he will just hold it. I have never seen a kid who can hold pee for so long. He will wake up in the morning dry and wait 45 minutes to 1 hour before he actually pees. How does he do that?
Because of the terrible rash and the diaper changing battles (referenced in the thread above) I am loathe to just put him back in diapers. The diaper changes were getting downright violent, and I really don't see how going back to diapers will be any kind of improvement.
We have been doing this for two weeks, and DH is so frustrated. He thinks my approach is all wrong and insists that we have to scold DS when he pees on the floor. Of course, I am adamantly against any kind of scolding. DH is rarely home, but when he is home, I really feel under the gun because if DS pees on the floor DH yells at him. This last Thursday night DH came home early and told me that he was going to yell at DS if he peed on the floor, so I became the potty warden and literally spent hours in the bathroom trying to get DS to go. Finally I gave up and sat down for a break, and DH and I were arguing mildly about the fact that DS needed to pee and that DH wanted me to take him again, for the 1000th time. I told him I would go in a minute. Of course in that minute DS peed on the floor, DH yelled at him, and I totally lost it. I ended up going to bed and just crying my eyes out. I have had it with both of them and this whole potty training debacle.
I talked the whole thing over with my mom and we agreed that DS will have to be in diapers or pull-ups when DH is home due to the scolding. DS only sees DH for an hour and a half each day except for Tuesdays and Thursdays, when DH comes home early. Then they are together for about 3.5 hours until I get home. Hopefully spending a few hours in diapers won't derail our whole process.
Does anyone have any suggestions about what to do about reluctant potty trainers who are also reluctant diaper wearers? I have no desire to go back to the diaper rashes and the diaper changing battles, but the whole potty training thing is about to drive me to drink. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Oh, this potty training thing sucks. I am so very tired of battling with DS over this, I cannot even tell you. He deliberately holds the pee in when we are within waving distance of the toilet, then he will go pee in the kitchen the minute we turn our backs. He is unmoved by toys or external motivators, and taking him at timed intervals rarely works because he will just hold it. I have never seen a kid who can hold pee for so long. He will wake up in the morning dry and wait 45 minutes to 1 hour before he actually pees. How does he do that?
Because of the terrible rash and the diaper changing battles (referenced in the thread above) I am loathe to just put him back in diapers. The diaper changes were getting downright violent, and I really don't see how going back to diapers will be any kind of improvement.
We have been doing this for two weeks, and DH is so frustrated. He thinks my approach is all wrong and insists that we have to scold DS when he pees on the floor. Of course, I am adamantly against any kind of scolding. DH is rarely home, but when he is home, I really feel under the gun because if DS pees on the floor DH yells at him. This last Thursday night DH came home early and told me that he was going to yell at DS if he peed on the floor, so I became the potty warden and literally spent hours in the bathroom trying to get DS to go. Finally I gave up and sat down for a break, and DH and I were arguing mildly about the fact that DS needed to pee and that DH wanted me to take him again, for the 1000th time. I told him I would go in a minute. Of course in that minute DS peed on the floor, DH yelled at him, and I totally lost it. I ended up going to bed and just crying my eyes out. I have had it with both of them and this whole potty training debacle.
I talked the whole thing over with my mom and we agreed that DS will have to be in diapers or pull-ups when DH is home due to the scolding. DS only sees DH for an hour and a half each day except for Tuesdays and Thursdays, when DH comes home early. Then they are together for about 3.5 hours until I get home. Hopefully spending a few hours in diapers won't derail our whole process.
Does anyone have any suggestions about what to do about reluctant potty trainers who are also reluctant diaper wearers? I have no desire to go back to the diaper rashes and the diaper changing battles, but the whole potty training thing is about to drive me to drink. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
hugs mama. It really sucks that your dh wants to scold him. Have you tried comparing it to learning something else....like riding a bike? You wouldn't yell at a child for falling when learning to ride a 2-wheeler for the first time!
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when going to the bathroom ( well not really but im sure you kwim).
