What do you think would happen if you spanked your dc? - Page 2

[pookel]

I can tell you exactly, as I have hit my son a few times by accident - like, I'm reaching for something and he suddenly stands up and my elbow connects with his face, sort of thing. He's pretty active and I can be clumsy, it sucks but it happens. It's the same reaction he has when he has hurt himself or had a bad scare. His lower lip goes out, his face screws up, and he lets out a heart-rending wail and gives me a look of total shock and pain. It's hard enough trying to comfort him then - I can't imagine what it would be like to do that on purpose.

[*LoveBugMama*]

Originally Posted by Twilight

Mine would be totally destroyed! If I ever hit her... she would cry and look completely shocked and I can't imagine how guilty I would feel. I don't know if she would ever get over it.

I could have written this. Except I have a son, not a daughter.. He is very, very sensitive and would absolutely not be ok with a spanking.

[greenmagick]

When DH and I first talked about having children, I asked about spanking. I knew I was against it, and was pretty sure he was but thought it would be best to make sure. He started laughing and said why would you do it? It doesnt work! He was spanked when he was younger and (being the youngest of 5) his parents were older. The few times his dad actually caught him to spank him, DH said he laughed so hard he didnt even feel it

I am very glad he was able to look at it this way. DD is supersensitive already and I dont think she would find it funny

[SugarAndSun]

DS saw DH spank me and now thinks it is a huge joke and goes around trying to spankus both. So I guess he would think that we are joining in again and that it is great fun and laugh at me (as he does when I yell).

[weliveintheforest]

Originally Posted by shell024

ds would be terrified and scream...just like he did when he saw dp spank my butt. :

Shell....

[sophmama]

A week ago dh and I were cleaning the house together and we kept bumping into each other and it became a joke. At one point we were passing through a doorway at the same time and dh gave me a (very gentle) shove. DD (2.5 yo) got very serious and put her hands on her hips and said, "Don't hurt my mommy!" in the firmest voice she could muster. If she were actually the recipient of anything physical she would lose it. She'll scream/cry if you raise your voice at her.

[bellona]

My dd would be permenantly damaged, too. My oldest ds would really just give me that look and a little back talk...and then the next time I was doing something he didn't like I would expect he'd probably try and spank me That's just his personality.

This thread has reminded me of a couple of things. First, the other day dh and I were having a semi heated discussion (for us anyway...it was mildly intense, something that we rarely do, and never have in front of the kids) and ds came over and told me : "try to be a little more gentle and kind with him, mom"

And yesterday when I was out running errands (and I almost think this deserves a post of it's own ) I saw a bumper sticker that said "Spank your spouse, not your kids!"

[katallen]

Judging from dd's reaction when I accidently bump into her I just don't think that hitting her would ever work out. She makes a huge deal about it and how it is not okay to hurt her before she accepts that it was an accident and I am sorry, I just can't see going through that on purpose.
Something that I think is a little funny, when dd was young I knew an elderly woman who had her bachelor's in child development from a long time ago and she was adamant that you should spank but never after the age of six, it was demeaning and unneccasary after that age.

[sunshinestarr]

Originally Posted by mamaduck

At this point -- it would be ridiculous. I suggested it over dinner the other night, in a joking way, after a harrowing day. The boys burst out laughting. Six yo. said, "If you can catch me!" And DH looked at my 115-pound 5-foot 9 yo. and said, "I'd like to see you try it with this one!" Its a very *good thing* that I've developed better methods of relating to these guys, because they will both be bigger than me at age 11!

Wow!

[loraxc]

Honestly? I think she would hit me back. She would not be crushed, but angry. That's her personality.

I suspect she also might say, "We don't hit" as others have mentioned.

[TripMom]

Originally Posted by natensarah

Unfortunately, I know, as I have lost my temper and hit my dd on a few occasions. There was certainly no laughing involved, those times have been some of the most shameful moments of my entire life, and were probably some of my daughter's most frightening.

Sorry, I know that's not very light-hearted.

me too. . shameful is the right word. The only thing remotely positive I can say about it is that the memory helps me to resist resorting to that type of discipline again . . . .

[Eman'smom]

When ds was 2+ I was at the end of my rope with him and screamed "would you like me to hit you?" he said yes in a twisted way it made me feel both happy and sad. Sad well you all know why, I couldn't believe I'd actually said that to him, but in a twisted way happy, he wanted me to hit him because he had no idea what hitting was.

Last year I actually did hit him he was out of control I was out of control, he was pulling my hair, spitting at me, clawing, screaming and I snapped. He instantly started screaming "that's not nice we don't hit, you never hit me"


DD well who knows, she is far less senstive and a whole lot less high strung.

[Mama Poot]

My DS is only 11 months old. We don't believe in spanking....and certainly not for a baby!!! He is a very sensitive little boy and has cried if I raise my voice If someone ever spanked him, he probably wouldn't speak for several days or look at anyone.

[hipumpkins]

My Dd would say, "People are not for hitting!"
My Ds would bite me

[speairson]

I sadly have hit ds before and felt/feel guilty and shameful about the whole thing. His reaction was that he looked at me with those puppy dog eyes in that "how could you do that to me" way and with his full little bottom out said in a little voice "no spankie" Needless to say it was absolutely awful. I truely admire those of you who have never hit, and it makes me sad that I can never join your ranks because I can never take back what I did

I haven't hit my dd (and after what happened with ds, don't think I ever will). However, she is even more sensitive than him and would be devastated. I have raised my voice with her twice , and both times she stood there and sobbed. Of course I scooped her up immediately and apologized, and she was okay, but I still feel guilty.