this is great, y'all - i'm happy to hear other moms with the same issues. i had a c/s with my first that should not have happened (it was for that old classic, FTP, after my waters had broken more than 24 hours before they finally sectioned me... don't think that wasn't a fight!), but i do not feel guilty about it. i wasn't as informed as i am now, but that does not make me irresponsible or somehow a failure for not being as well informed with my first as i was with my second, a successful VBAC, or my third, which we are planning to HB with a MW in attendance.
i don't blame my five-year-old for not being able to do multiplication; she's not there yet, and i wasn't where i am now with my first.
i too do not view my c/s as my having given birth, in the strictest sense, but i sure would jump all over it if some self-righteous jerk tried to tell me that i hadn't given birth... i guess i'm on both sides of that fence! (i'll make fun of my brother, but you'd better not or i'll kick your butt!)
bottom line is that we all do the best we can with the knowledge that we have... i was extremely well-read the first time around, but didn't know half of what i know now - do i blame myself or learn learn learn and continue to do the best i can with what i know now?
oh yeah, and the one i LOVE is women who try to tell us that we had it "easier" because we had a c/s! that one BUSTS my HUMP!!