Off the board I was trying to say something to a friend about this thread. I'm not sure if I can say it right but I'll try.
Whenever a discussion on unschooling happens on MDC it's seems it's all theoretical. All “what if”. What if a kid never learns to read, what if a kid never learns math, what if they never learn to write, etc. The problem for me, the reason I have so much trouble answering these concerns, is that what I see IRL just blows this all away. Not counting the babies and toddlers, all the unschoolers I know are reading and writing and doing basic math (we hang out with the younger crowd so no one’s doing calculus yet
). They're doing this in addition to watching tv, playing video games for hours at a time (though I don't know if any of them play Doom specifically
), going to playgrounds and acting like nuts. They’re doing it all because they want to, not because anyone made them.
As Joan said in a previous post, some of you seem to know a different breed of unschoolers than we know. I'm not sure what to make of it. Do you guys actually know, personally, IRL, any unschoolers or is it all friend of a friend anecdotes, or stories you read online? The majority of our friends are unschoolers and so far, they are not the illiterate, ignorant, brain dead video junkies that others seem to fear
But then I was thinking of something else. We have one school-at-home friend who is stressed out all the time. The mom is always saying she’s behind, the kid isn’t as happy and laid back as the rest of us. I guess if they were the only school-at-home family we knew IRL then I might think that all school-at-home families were like that. But they aren’t and we don’t
But, like Joan said while I was composing this in my email editor (lost too many a post in the past
) maybe it's a case of not personally knowing many (or any?) unschoolers.