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post #21 of 89
This cracks me up--my older ds HATED rocking. Rocking chairs, gliders, being rocked in arms. He would just scream bloody murder. My mil and and gmil would walk and rock and sit and rock as he screamed and screamed, insisting I let him get overtired and he needed to cry it out. Yet if fil just held him on the couch (no motion) he would conk right out--or if someone put him down, he would conk. Or if I nursed, he would conk.

Now he's 6 and he HATES any kind of spinning ride (other than a big carousel). Big spins, small spins, ferris wheels.

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Originally Posted by A&A
This reminds me that I read something similar in What to Expect The First Year....... that you should never rock your child to sleep. What an experience you would be robbing yourself of if you never rocked your child to sleep! That is absolute heaven.
post #22 of 89
I have a similar story, and a happy ending. My eldest was absolutely huge (14lb at birth, gained upwards of a pound a week) and I was, unsurprisingly, advised (by my health visitor) that I was feeding him too often, should put him on a 4 hour schedule, bottle of water, blah blah blah. BUT because we had breastmilk jaundice he was still yellow at 9 weeks old and so we were referred to the hospital to see a consultant paediatrician- who was absolutely fantastic. He spent ages telling me how good breastfeeding was for Alex, how well he was doing, how alert and thriving he was, got excited when he elicited a giggle- you know, all those things a mother loves to hear. I had gone in expecting a fight- to hear that I either needed to wean him for 48 hours so we could see if his color improved, or that he needed to be on formula rather than bottle full stop- and got none of this.
I did get one piece of advice though.
Never dress a jaundiced baby in yellow
So yep, it's no help for your purposes, but felt the need to share.
post #23 of 89
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Originally Posted by A&A
Also routine infant circumcision is horrible advice spewed by lots of doctors.
Yes! Please bring up that one! In my case, the advice to circumcise actually came from a group of retired nurses who I worked with.

They also told me that I would need to retract his foreskin at every cleaning. This is horrible, damaging advice that, if this board and my real life experiences are a good indicator, gets passed out by doctors and nurses WAY too frequently. Definitely a good one to bring up.
post #24 of 89
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I, too, have heard the old: give the baby formula if they are a little jaundiced.
: Boy, I am so grateful EnviroBaby was born in a hospital that told me breastmilk was very important to his recovery from jaundice! They were giving him IV fluids, too, and because of the light therapy they limited the time he spent nursing, but when it WAS nursing time they wanted him to nurse. They did at one point tell me to go to my room and sleep thru one feeding, and I thought that was one of these examples of hospitals pushing formula, but after some discussion I decided they had legitimate concerns about MY health--I'd been awake for 20 hours, was still in pain from the birth, and was beginning to shake--and might be right that I needed some rest to bring in the real milk. They were right.

I chose doctors carefully, in a city where there are lots to choose from. The only bad baby-care advice I've gotten was to put petroleum jelly on his irritated and blistery-looking (intact) penis--made it worse! But the cause of the problem was unclear to the doctor, and he admitted it, so it's not like he said that was certain to work.
post #25 of 89
From a community healthcare worker (we got home visits every three months because we were on WIC and State health insurance) : I had to give my then 9 month old dd meat or she would never get enough protein.
post #26 of 89
To "run don't walk" to the bookstore to buy the Ferber book. She should be sleeping through the night by three months. This advice for my dd who had a difficult time nursing and gaining weight early on.

To give my slightly underweight 6 month old pediasure instead of bm.

To retract my son's penis at an early age to clean. The doctor retracted very early on and he cried. I could kick myself for not knowing any better.

Don't even get me started on the terrible OB that delivered my first dd.

I've got to say though, overall the people in the medical field that I have dealt with have been pretty good. We worked a bit with a wonderful nurse and lactation consultant early on when we were having bf issues. I was ready to give up and might have if it wasn't for her.

hth
post #27 of 89
I've posted about this before.

First of all being berated to stop bottle nursing my baby after one year of age. Despite the fact that she arrived severely malnourished and below the 3rd percentile on growth charts. I pointed out that the two bottles of whole mild she took every evening constitued a reliable and significant part of her protein/caloric intake, and also that adoption literature strongly advises continuation (or even reinstatement) of bottle or breast feeding as part of the bonding process with the child.

Doc says, "well at least switch her to skim milk from whole milk then".

Um...why?

"Because there is such a problem with obesity in the United States."

Did I mention that my baby - 13 pounds at 13 months of age - was not even ON the growth charts?

Talk about one-size-fits-all medical advice. Moron.
post #28 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by A&A
This reminds me that I read something similar in What to Expect The First Year....... that you should never rock your child to sleep. What an experience you would be robbing yourself of if you never rocked your child to sleep! That is absolute heaven.
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I tell all my new mom friends the same thing.
post #29 of 89
My personal favorite is from a senior ped in our very respected practice group . . . . . . "Babies don't have pain when they teethe"

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post #30 of 89
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Originally Posted by TripMom
My personal favorite is from a senior ped in our very respected practice group . . . . . . "Babies don't have pain when they teethe"

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OMG was that supposed to be a joke???
post #31 of 89
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Originally Posted by CryPixie83
OMG was that supposed to be a joke???
Totally serious.
post #32 of 89
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Originally Posted by blessed
Doc says, "well at least switch her to skim milk from whole milk then".

Um...why?

"Because there is such a problem with obesity in the United States."

Did I mention that my baby - 13 pounds at 13 months of age - was not even ON the growth charts?

Talk about one-size-fits-all medical advice. Moron.


Do these people actually listen to themselves when they speak?
post #33 of 89
A very annoying piece of 'advice' from peds: babies don't get fevers from teething. (It's some inexplicable virus that they just happen to get right before a tooth comes in.)
post #34 of 89
It was some crap in my "what to expect the first year" book about not babywearing...(

I would search for it, but i'm bout to move, and it's packed up, something about wearing baby will get him too used to it, and that mother would have to wear him all the time, and baby will not be inclined to sleep unless being worn, and wearing him will make him sleep more often during the day, and not be as tired at night, and would make the baby stay up at night.

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post #35 of 89
Do we agree that the "What to Expect" book sucks?
post #36 of 89
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Originally Posted by flapjack
Never dress a jaundiced baby in yellow
So yep, it's no help for your purposes, but felt the need to share.
So true!! I've found blue to be very flattering
post #37 of 89
Oh I have LOTS!

From my GP:
- to eat a milkshake with a raw egg in it every day while pregnant (raw? : )
- diagnosed DD as ALLERGIC to my breastmilk & wanted her on soy formula : (she really just had reflux)
- diagnosed DD as failing to thrive around 9 months when her growth slowed & said it was because I didn't have enough milk. (I actually had an oversupply, and got a lot of great help from lactation consultants & other pedi's. Apparently her growth was really normal for a breastfed baby)
- told me my projectile vomiting, awake for 14 hours straight, non-stop howling baby was fine & I was an over anxious new mother. If I were to relax, the baby would stop crying (again reflux!)
- I was repeatedly told I didn't have thrush nor did my baby. However, Gentian violet took away all of our symptoms!

From a Pedi:
- I was handed a printed factsheet (with references to Ferber!) on how to CIO. I remember the nurse had to tell the Dr during that appointment, "Okay, she's not going to listen to this, let's move on."

It is so so hard to see through the nonsense as first time mother, thank goodness for La Leche & lactation consultants!!!
post #38 of 89
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Originally Posted by TripMom
Do we agree that the "What to Expect" book sucks?
I think the entire series sucks... not as much as Ezzo or Dobson or Ferber or that Baby Whisperer, but it's pretty high on the stink-o-meter
post #39 of 89
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Originally Posted by seablue
A very annoying piece of 'advice' from peds: babies don't get fevers from teething. (It's some inexplicable virus that they just happen to get right before a tooth comes in.)
yup - I've gotten that one too.
post #40 of 89
my sister's pedi told her that
#1 mercury in vax is was etc a MYTH
#2 that if she did not start vaxing by 6 months they would not work b/c her babies' bodies would not be "used" to vaxing.

OMG

luckily i found a very good pedi before dd was born and the worst/dumbest thing he said to me was that illness related teething stuff (hurting ears or runny nose) was a myth.

but his nurses were dumb and mean...they told me that we weren't "allowed" to not vax in "america"
and when she had a clogged tear duct/mild eye issue to wash her eyes out with johnson&johnson baby shampoo!

luckily i hung up and came here and moms told me to use breast milk in her eye, i cleared up that night!
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