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post #61 of 89
From family members:
" put a stop to him (age 2) touching himself or it will damage him"
" make sure you cover yourself when breastfeeding.No one wants to see that"
"when he bites you during breastfeeding, pinch his ear and he will stop"
"If he bites you, bite him back so he will learn. Same with hitting."
" if you really want to get some housework done, just set him in front of the TV."
"when he starts teething, put some whiskey on his gums to numb the pain"
"why are you still breastfeeding? He is old enough now for a bottle. (7months). The formula has more nutrients anyways."
post #62 of 89
There was the wean-when-pregnant one, from my OB (my mom is the lactation consultant at her hospital, she bombarded her with literature and the OB backed off...for ME, but still gives the same advice).

There was the doctor who pushed the "herd immunity" myth re: not getting the Hep B shot at birth (WTF?)

Hasn't happened to me, but a friend I know had it suggested to her that her 3 week old baby was intentionally misbehaving when he cried, and he should be spanked a la the Pearls. :vomit

My mother-in-law just can't believe I wouldn't give my kids water in bottles while they were EBF. Wouldn't they get *gasp* too FAT? They were, BTW, always normal or slightly low BMI and are pretty slender now.

"But he's so big, how can you know that your milk is enough?" from my gMIL. She was pushing me to supplement with formula, because of course, even though my milk grew him that big, it couldn't possibly be ENOUGH...right?

"But she's so small, how can you know your milk is enough?" from same gMIL about the next child. You think she'd learn eh?

Basically, it seems like the solution to everything is "give him some formula!" Which completely, totally SUCKS. There needs to be at least one person saying "nurse him as often as he wants!" for every "give him some formula!". Doctors count for at least two.

Gotta love the "don't pick them up" advice. They aren't television sets, you don't turn babies off when they are inconvenient. Why can't people recommend nice easy ways to carry babies around, instead of pushing you always to get rid of them?
post #63 of 89
From dd's former pediatrician:
"You don't need to brush a child's teeth at all until age three."

From the nurse at the same pediatrician's office:
"You shouldn't be breastfeeding your daughter [who was 9 months old at the time] because you are vegetarian and your breastmilk is inadequate. Formula is nutritionally superior for children of vegetarians."

That second one was the final straw that had us change peds.
post #64 of 89
My MIL told me that breastfeeding my son would give him leukemia. :
post #65 of 89
I think the worst advice I've gotten was from a nurse. She told me that if you didn't circ that you HAD to make sure that you "retract the foreskin and clean the head of the glans" :
I informed her that the head WAS the glans, and told her that no, actually that causes more problems as the foreskin is adhered to the glans like your fingenail is attached to your finger.

I sure hope she listened to me!
post #66 of 89
I don't have any, because I never discuss my parenting with my doctor (I only use a family physician, not a ped).

But, I do have to wonder at all this "only using the breast as a pacifier" stuff. My comment is...."SO WHAT". If my baby is getting comfort, in addition to nutrition, by nursing, what's wrong with her/him getting that comfort? I'm sure that babies sometimes "comfort nurse". I just don't see what the problem with that is...
post #67 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by zenenlightened
" make sure you cover yourself when breastfeeding.No one wants to see that"
Why do so many people find "don't look" to be so far beyond their mental capabilities???
post #68 of 89
I heard the old standby of rice cereal in the bottle (followed by a smug smile and a comment about me being a first-time mom when I refused).

My mom insisted that DS must be a midget when his weight gain levelled out at 8 months.

I know there are more...
post #69 of 89
I had a pretty good ped when DS was a newborn. His only advice to us when we stood there with our 10 day old baby, completely clueless was...

Nothing but breastmilk for the first 6 months.
Read to him everyday.
Don't listen to your mother.
post #70 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by artgoddess
I had a pretty good ped when DS was a newborn. His only advice to us when we stood there with our 10 day old baby, completely clueless was...

Nothing but breastmilk for the first 6 months.
Read to him everyday.
Don't listen to your mother.
I want your ped!
post #71 of 89
"What are you doing? You can't let him keep napping on you, it's not normal!"

*sigh*

This was from someone on my meager support system. And I was calling because I just needed to freakin' vent about not getting lunch that day.
post #72 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by artgoddess
I had a pretty good ped when DS was a newborn. His only advice to us when we stood there with our 10 day old baby, completely clueless was...

Nothing but breastmilk for the first 6 months.
Read to him everyday.
Don't listen to your mother.
That is F*in' awesome!
post #73 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by cozzensclan
My MIL told me that breastfeeding my son would give him leukemia. :
What the...????

I seriously want to hear the logic that lead to that conclusion. Could you ask her and report back?
post #74 of 89
That eczema was completely hereditary and not related to allergies in foods - "here put this cancer causing poison, i.e. elidel, on your son's skin to make it go away."

The baby in the other room at night is also classic. Must admit I thought that too until my son was born then I realized it was STUPID. Don't know why anybody else can look at a completely helpless newborn and think "here, make me happy and go lay by yourself for the next 8 hours."
post #75 of 89
My partner's grandma told him how her first daughter (his mom) "cried so much at night when she was first born, we had to move her crib to the other end of the house and shut the door so we could sleep!" This story is particularly weird to me because it's like, they were planning on letting her stay with them (contrary to the style at the time), but then...she cried. Who'd have thunk it? A crying newborn? Weird.

It makes me wonder if some people just don't *have* parenting instincts. Like the occassional rabbit that eats its young, you know? How out of touch would you have to be before you found a newborn crying at night to be a weird, wacky situation worthy of bemused anecdotes, and decided the natural remedy would be to blockade yourself on the other end of the house???
post #76 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by ~*SugarMama*~
Our first ped with DD advised me to quit nursing her at 12 months. Why? Because BM holds absolutely no nutritional value after that age and I would be scarring her for life by "abusing her" by "forcing her on the breast".
My sister's ped told her she might as well wean at THREE MONTHS (which she did) because there were no benefits to bfing longer than that.

BTW, our ped is awesome (in many ways). We had 8 weeks of *horrific* bfing problems, and she never once suggested supplementing (I brought it up myself at around 8 weeks, but didn't actually do it).
post #77 of 89
I haven't read through this thread yet so I don't know if this has been mentioned but there is a similar thread here which also might help you.
post #78 of 89
On a mainstream board I visit said by her obgyn

You have to stop nursing your ds (can't remember how old, but not even a year yet) otherwise there won't be enough nutrients left over for the fetus.
post #79 of 89
My jaw dropped a little bit lower after each quote...

Quote:
Originally Posted by zenenlightened
From family members:
" put a stop to him (age 2) touching himself or it will damage him"
" make sure you cover yourself when breastfeeding.No one wants to see that"
"when he bites you during breastfeeding, pinch his ear and he will stop"
"If he bites you, bite him back so he will learn. Same with hitting."
" if you really want to get some housework done, just set him in front of the TV."
"when he starts teething, put some whiskey on his gums to numb the pain"
"why are you still breastfeeding? He is old enough now for a bottle. (7months). The formula has more nutrients anyways."
post #80 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by A&A
From a physician: That my breastfed 2 mo. was "too fat" and needed to be given water instead and not fed as often. (I ignored that advice, obviously)
I was given this exact same advice when my son was 3 months old. The pediatrician told me to only feed every four hours and give him a bottle of water if he was hungry in between.

My son is 10 now and thin as a rail.
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