I greatly appreciate the responses, and to be honest, if it were just a matter of putting some folks' mind at rest then it might not be such an issue, but I personally feel very strongly opposed to the practice, and my husband just thinks it is plain old silliness, most of the issue boils down to the fact that we are the parents and should be able to decide this, decide to let our child make their own choice later, not choose for them something that we ourselves didn't even choose. I agree wholeheartedly that it does seem a bit wrong to say in a church in front of a host believers that a child will be taught and raised a certain way only to leave and pretend we didn't just do that. It feels to me like it wouldn't just be lying to a congregation and to family but also to ourselves and to the child (despite the fact that they'd be too young to know any better). I wish there was a way of making it make sense to the family that wants it why exactly we don't, among other things that I refuse to believe that my child is born in sin, it just doesn't sit well with me. I guess explaining that it would just be a lie might be the best course of action at this point. Thanks for the input!
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5/6/10 at 1:03pm