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Originally Posted by Norasmomma View Post
I have my papers all signed for my tubal also(of course I still can change my mind), I am very sure that I do not want to go through any of this again. I just feel for our family 2 children is enough and with my age I really don't want to be having more children either, plus this pregnancy has been much harder on me in general. So I am enjoying these last few weeks of being a pregnant woman, even if it is uncomfy and not exactly enjoyable.

I really do wish that I could go into labor first though, just so I would know that our baby is ready to come out into the world. I guess I still have 12 days, and it could possibly happen.
Aren't you in my DDC? I feel the same as you do. I am also having a tubal. This is our 3rd child and I know that at 41 I do not want anymore children and I know I wouldn't want to go through another pregnancy. I'm also trying to enjoy these last few days until my scheduled c-section next week. I'm trying to savor every little kick and movement because I know time will fly by once she's here and I'll likely forget how it really feels.
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Norasmama and Darcytrue I'll be thinking of you!

So- my mysterious pain, it is evidently nerve pain, which- I had suspected as a PT friend of mine had told me that nerve issues are often described by patients as a horrific burning pain.

Apparently, according to my OB, as the uterus and other organs move back into place, sometimes they can press on this certain nerve, part of the nerve splits and goes to the groin, and the other part down the front of the leg, right where my pain is. I had pain every single time I got up for more than 30 seconds from Sunday-Wednesday, and since then, it is a crap-shoot, sometimes the pain is there, sometimes it is not, I am thankful for at least that healing so far, it gives me hope! I don't know how long it will take to go away completely, but- today was better than yesterday, so- hopefully soon! It is funny, I've told a bunch of friends and family all about this, and no one has ever heard of such a thing, yet, my OB knew right away when I described it what was going on. So- it must be common enough for OBs to diagnose it right away, but not common enough for most people to have heard of it.

Also- it sounds like it is simply a pregnancy recovery issue, and not really something c-section related. I mean, there can be nerve issues (don't we all know it!) from c-sections, but- what I am experiencing now with this awful pain, apparently just happens as the organs go back to their places.

It has forced me to take the recovery slowly, and given me tons of time to snuggle my LO, instead of getting up to clean, etc. Even my big kids are getting more mommy-time since I've been stuck to the couch
post #1103 of 1132
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Originally Posted by darcytrue View Post
Aren't you in my DDC? I feel the same as you do. I am also having a tubal. This is our 3rd child and I know that at 41 I do not want anymore children and I know I wouldn't want to go through another pregnancy. I'm also trying to enjoy these last few days until my scheduled c-section next week. I'm trying to savor every little kick and movement because I know time will fly by once she's here and I'll likely forget how it really feels.
Yeah I am, I really just am done and 2 kiddos for me is just enough. I feel like that emotionally I have enough on my plate with 2, my DD is pretty "high-spirited" and I just don't have much more energy to give. I know that I need to relish in these moments and just keep them in my mind. I also need to take a couple black and white pics of me and DD holding my belly. I am totally fine with the prospect of having no more children, I have people who seem surprised by that fact, but yk I have my way and they can have theirs. I'm not telling my Dh's family at all, they are ultra devout and would never understand my choice, so they won't know.
post #1104 of 1132
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Originally Posted by Peppermint View Post
Norasmama and Darcytrue I'll be thinking of you!
Thanks.
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It has forced me to take the recovery slowly, and given me tons of time to snuggle my LO, instead of getting up to clean, etc. Even my big kids are getting more mommy-time since I've been stuck to the couch
I'm glad to hear this. I'm so afraid my older children, mainly my 7 y o, will feel neglected or ignored. I hope not. I home school them so they are very used to getting me all day long for whatever they need.
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Originally Posted by norasmama
Yeah I am, I really just am done and 2 kiddos for me is just enough. I feel like that emotionally I have enough on my plate with 2, my DD is pretty "high-spirited" and I just don't have much more energy to give. I know that I need to relish in these moments and just keep them in my mind.
My 7 y o DD is very high spirited as well, although she got easier around the age of 4, she is still that way. I too am trying to relish these last days of the pregnancy and I'm thankful I get to have another child so late in life. Not that 41 is *that* late I guess, but for us it is because we didn't expect to have anymore children. And again, that's the reason for the tubal. I'm going to ensure it doesn't happen again, lol.
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My 2nd C-section is scheduled for January 21st 2010 & I am nervous. My recovery was horrible with the first Emergency C-section. Probably related to me being in labor dilating to 6-7cm & all of the sudden labor stopped (no contractions) & babys heartrate was dropping. Someone reassure me that a scheduled C-section recovery will not be as hard?
post #1106 of 1132
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Originally Posted by LouisianaMomma View Post
My 2nd C-section is scheduled for January 21st 2010 & I am nervous. My recovery was horrible with the first Emergency C-section. Probably related to me being in labor dilating to 6-7cm & all of the sudden labor stopped (no contractions) & babys heartrate was dropping. Someone reassure me that a scheduled C-section recovery will not be as hard?
First Welcome-second that's my b-day.

I'm not sure-I was in labor for 30 hours with of that pushing and then my DD had a major decel and my uterus stopped contracting and went soft. I got up and about 12 hours later and my recovery was really easy-people were honestly pretty shocked, including the dr.

In turn my nephew's wife had a scheduled c/s and her recovery was really awful, it took 10 days for her to be able to stand up and change her son. I was up and about within 12 hours after being up for 40, laboring for 30 and having an emergency c/s. I really wish I could say it will b e easier, but I honestly don't know. I think a lot has to do with your bodies natural healing abilities and general health, we all are so different.

I do want to say you should do all the research that you can about different ways to prepare your body and mind for this, there are supplements you can take that can aid in healing and also having information about the whole process can make things better. I have talked in depth with the Dr performing my surgery, my Dr who will attend the surgery with him and the anesthesiologist all made me feel much better about the whole process-knowledge is power. Asking questions has helped calm any nerves I've had about my c/s in 11 days.

ICAN has some great resources on there for a planned c/s-I have gather a lot of info from there, and of course asking questions on here is a great source of information.
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Originally Posted by LouisianaMomma View Post
My 2nd C-section is scheduled for January 21st 2010 & I am nervous. My recovery was horrible with the first Emergency C-section. Probably related to me being in labor dilating to 6-7cm & all of the sudden labor stopped (no contractions) & babys heartrate was dropping. Someone reassure me that a scheduled C-section recovery will not be as hard?
what parts were the hardest for you? the healing aspect? caring for the LO? Just curious. For me the first c-sect was easier but I had lot more stress in my life when I had my second one and I think that contributed to the recovery time being different with my second.
post #1108 of 1132
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Originally Posted by darcytrue View Post
what parts were the hardest for you? the healing aspect? caring for the LO? Just curious. For me the first c-sect was easier but I had lot more stress in my life when I had my second one and I think that contributed to the recovery time being different with my second.
Norasmomma, January 21st is my birthday aswell...How cool is that! I will for sure check out the ICAN website.

I had a lot of trouble even getting in & out of bed for almost 2 weeks. I was also trying to care for the LO & a 2 1/2 year old by myself while my husband was deployed & the rest of my family was busy working.
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Originally Posted by LouisianaMomma View Post
I had a lot of trouble even getting in & out of bed for almost 2 weeks. I was also trying to care for the LO & a 2 1/2 year old by myself while my husband was deployed & the rest of my family was busy working.
you poor thing. I can imagine how it would have been very tough for you. I couldn't imagine having to do it alone. I'm nervous about this time around and my youngest is pretty old and DH is home a lot since he works from home often and I'm still very nervous about it all.
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Louisianamomma-that is cool. I'd say having no support system and recovering from major surgery were probably the biggest contributing factors in your slowed healing. I have a large support system in place so that of course aids in my recovery period.

Will things be the same this time? Will you have some support, gosh taking care of 2 young children and a newborn plus a c/s sounds extremely difficult. I hope that you can have some help.
post #1111 of 1132
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Originally Posted by Norasmomma View Post
Louisianamomma-that is cool. I'd say having no support system and recovering from major surgery were probably the biggest contributing factors in your slowed healing. I have a large support system in place so that of course aids in my recovery period.

Will things be the same this time? Will you have some support, gosh taking care of 2 young children and a newborn plus a c/s sounds extremely difficult. I hope that you can have some help.
I am also having my tubligation done at the same time.Yes, DH will be here for the birth & we live fairly close to the In-laws. So they will probably help with the older 2 children while DH is @ work. DD will be in school so that will also help me out.
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Hi ladies,

I have had two csections. First one was emergency after big time decels and after labor (which was other wise wonderful) stalled at 9cm for many many hours. After trying all things possible it was clear that the OR was the way to go. So glad that my son was fine and healthy. No problems with that csection other than normal recovery.

Four years later I had another csection. We were planning VBAC but we were having issues with really unstable lies = going from breech to transverse, etc..
We decided to go planned csection because of the high risk of cord prolapse etc.. I had a midwife and ob team and it was a great birth totally accomodating to what I wanted it to be. It was great birth wise however my csection was complicated due to adhesions and varicosities (varicose veins) in my uterus. It was apparently a REAL mess in there. It took about 45 minutes to get to the baby because they were being really careful.
My doctor said that pretty much that was one csection he would never forget. LOVELY - such is my freaking luck Baby came out perfect, no problems for her. I was a bit of a mess afterwards due to the blood loss and required two units of blood on a transfusion that had to happen two days after the csection. While the birth was fine... the days after the birth were hell with the transfusion, the horrible pain I was in due to the extra work they had to do etc.. then I landed postpartum depression. OMG I was sure I was dying pretty much and I was totally traumatized. Plus when you are really weak from blood loss it feels like you are out of breath etc.. between that and the post partum anxiety it was just a mess. I got on zoloft after I tried everything natural and after I finally figured out that it had to be post partum and after that it went great.

My doctor told me that they carefully repaired and used sepra film and that for sure I would want to plan any future csections and not do a trial of labor like we were planning before. He was totally on board with vbac and has high rates of success but after what they saw in there they were very glad we had decided on the csection especially with the unstable lies we had going on which could have put us into an emergency. He said had we gone into an emergency it would have been really ugly and we would have lost the baby cause they would not have been able to get the baby out in time.

Anwyay... now I am getting close to two years later and I am starting to think about TTC again. I guess my question is if you have had 3 or more cesctions is it possible that the next one will be better? I have told my DH that there is NO way that I will TTC unless I get in tip top shape first. I was not in shape on my last csection and I am sure that did not help me any. I am currently working out with a trainer and dropping weight and getting strong so we will see.

Have any of you had any similar circumstances? I remember clearly asking the OB if we had to be done having kids and he said no but that we would want to plan the csection from the get go. He said my uterus was in great shape it was just the mess of adhesions that had grown varicosse veins in there that was the problem. I went for a check up a few months ago and he said that he would look at the notes and his thought would be to maybe do a classical incision on the uterus this time instead of a low one to avoid the scar area athough he said the repair could make things easier next time around.

Anyway that is my novel... In theory I would like one more child and to tie my tubes then but in reality I am not sure that I will be brave enough to get into an OR again. I guess the whole thing got me really traumatized. My DH does not see it quite as scary as I do and we will for sure talk to the doctor again but I wanted to see if anybody else has had similar circumstances.

So glad that this tribe is here. I wish we had a little space in mothering because it was hard to find any kind of support place that was natural parenting & csection.

Thanks ladies!
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Is anyone else finding it very hard to post in their DDC at this point? I am. It seems that everyone on this site wants the perfect birth and to me having my baby come in to the world healthy is all I want. I hate being made to feel guilty for having a planned c-sect. I really counted on trying for a VBA2C but it just wasn't in the cards for us this time. But I don't have remorse over it and never will. I know things will be fine.
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Originally Posted by darcytrue View Post
Is anyone else finding it very hard to post in their DDC at this point? I am. It seems that everyone on this site wants the perfect birth and to me having my baby come in to the world healthy is all I want. I hate being made to feel guilty for having a planned c-sect. I really counted on trying for a VBA2C but it just wasn't in the cards for us this time. But I don't have remorse over it and never will. I know things will be fine.
Not so much with the DDC, but my REAL LIFE oh yeah. I just went to a wedding and I knew about 1/2 the people there. Obviously I am pretty pregnant(although many people were surprised that the babe is due to come out in 11 days)-I must not be as huge as I feel. Anyway most people we tell are understanding, but then you get those who you can tell that they just don't. I have had a few conversations with some of the mamas around here who have home-birthed and I can just tell they honestly don't believe me(or maybe I'm reading into it-not sure, it feels like disbelief). I have a T-incision and it is just not an ok thing to have happen, with DD she was so stuck in the birth canal with her little head(actually BIG) sideways that she just could not descend even with 3 hours of pushing. So the c/s was the only was, plus my uterus fatiguing and starting to not contract, uh yeah sh** hit the fan so to say. When talking with my SIL who has fought often to have VBACs she knew exactly what I was talking about-it has been written in all of her info that if she has had a T-incision that a VBAC is not an option, it's a pretty dangerous cut to have, and to have HARD contractions is very dangerous in the chance of rupture. So she understands, and with our family has explained it family members who don't, but when it comes to people in public it is a different story, some get it, some don't. I live in an especially crunchy community and so many women have home-birthed, which honestly is more my style, but I also want my baby and myself to be healthy and safe, so I have my route I need to take. People don't need to understand my reasons-because they are MY reasons. I am a bit defensive of my situation as I have mentioned before the local midwife totally insulted me saying the only reason I had my first c/s was purely due to fear, but the thing was she knew nothing of my birth or what had happened, she was just fresh out of school and gung-ho, so her opinion was just that her opinion. She changed her tune when her best friend had a very similar situation arise at her hb, and was rushed via ambulance to our local hospital where she had an emergency c/s. I don't think she holds the same attitude now, I think she realizes there are true emergencies, and I did have one.

Sorry about the novel, I just get so annoyed when people give me that look when I say I'm having a c/s, like I'm super uneducated and know nothing. Yeah I KNOW that a vaginal birth is safer, but when you are told that your internal incision has a high possibility of rupture and it could cause you and your baby serious harm, you kinda have to factor that into a decision to have another child-it isn't always about a cut-happy OB, there are many times where it is in the best interest of you and your baby. Ok vent over.
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Originally Posted by Norasmomma View Post
Sorry about the novel, I just get so annoyed when people give me that look when I say I'm having a c/s, like I'm super uneducated and know nothing. Yeah I KNOW that a vaginal birth is safer, but when you are told that your internal incision has a high possibility of rupture and it could cause you and your baby serious harm, you kinda have to factor that into a decision to have another child-it isn't always about a cut-happy OB, there are many times where it is in the best interest of you and your baby. Ok vent over.
I'm sorry. I totally agree.

I just had my sweet little girl last week via scheduled c-sect. I'd hoped to try for a VBA2C but never went in to labor on my own. This was best. It was all very strange as this was my first real time going in without being in labor first. It was so weird. So many questions...so much paper work, ugh. After the initial problems with getting my anesthesia started before surgery things went okay. I was to get a spinal but it didn't work (after they tried to get it to work - for way too long IMO) so they ended up using an epidural for the surgery. My back was very sore post partum due to that but thats gone now. Our little girl made it here perfect and that's all that matters. We are so thrilled!
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Congratulations darcytrue!
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Barcino- I just wanted to offer my experience. With my 3rd c-section, I had a "window" and the section was really rough, my OB said we should never have anymore children, that the small area she has to cut in (between the bladder and some vessels) was too small (she used the vacuum to get my son out), etc. She was really freaked out by my c-section, and also said she would never forget it. She moved away, I found a new GYN for regular care, and he reviewed my records and said he thought I could safely have one more, so long as I scheduled the section, and didn't labor at all.

I did have that fourth child, and at the section my uterus was thin, but no window, my new OB closed me very carefully, and said he could support me if I wanted another someday.

I just had my 5th 3 weeks ago, everyone in the OR was SHOCKED at the state of my uterus, it looked like the uterus of someone on their second c-section, the surgery took all of half an hour, it was amazing! I could totally have another baby if I wanted to.
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First Congrats darcytrue-I hope that all is going well for you and your family.

I am a bit under 24 hours until my c/s, I am bit nervous, but mostly just anxious to meet our baby. I have been exhausted and just trying to get all the stuff done that needs to be done(which is basically nothing). Tomorrow am we go in at 5:30 and we'll be in surgery at 7:30. I will post my details of things later, but I am feeling pretty good about everything.
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Originally Posted by Norasmomma View Post
First Congrats darcytrue-I hope that all is going well for you and your family.

I am a bit under 24 hours until my c/s, I am bit nervous, but mostly just anxious to meet our baby. I have been exhausted and just trying to get all the stuff done that needs to be done(which is basically nothing). Tomorrow am we go in at 5:30 and we'll be in surgery at 7:30. I will post my details of things later, but I am feeling pretty good about everything.
Thanks! I'm so excited for you. I hope all goes well and you recover well.
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Ok, here I am! Number 3 due in May. I'd do almost anything to change it but it'll be a c-section. My third.

I hate that there is no good place on MDC to post.

So, anyway... hi!
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