Acording to Ina May, transverse presentations can sometimes be linked to underlying, unresolved emotional issues. I'm guessing that my DD's cord entangelment situation might have had something to do with unresolved underlying emotional issues.
It might be worth looking into hypnosis maby? Anyways, I think at this point the thing to do is enjoy your new little one (BTW I'm glad your c/s went so well!) and give your body a good year or so to heal & recover before thinking about conception again let alone your VBA3C. Personally I would be freaked out about the thought of VBAC before I was really sure that I was HEALED. Anyways, your first, Placental abruption... wow, that's scarry.
Norasmomma, you are one brave woman. You'v really watched c/s videos since yours? I'm not there yet. & yeah, I think if I were in your shoes (or had your incision rather,) I wouldn't be thinking VBAC either. At least you know what your in for next time. You mentiond your ready for #2... are you guys thinking about TTC? Oh, my DH watched my c/s too, & they told him he could stand up to watch DD emerge... he started shaking! I asked if he was OK, he said yes & stoped shaking. Later he told me he had a really hard time seeing my belly cut open, which is funny, cuz he is a hunter & has cut open many a deer, elk, & other game belly. He's usualy not phased by much. I guess it's different when it's your wife.