i am not upset with you...... and yes, i think it is obvious my post hit a nerve.... but you are doing a very good job
your best impression of stark raving *****. ha!
Walmart may be the antithesis of all things good and right, but who the hell can beat that place for a good deal, huh? I went shopping for a fat lady suit this summer (I'm finally over it, its time to swim!) some mall shopping and ebay browsing had me resigned to spending 80.00.
: ... In swoops Walmart with the thirty dollar deal! hooray.... plus, just
as nice a suit as the others i had looked at! oh hello, I'm
Congratulations for navigating a potentially difficult situation with finesse. I think it is an indicator of your own success as a step to have earned your sd's trust. When i tell you that your sensitivity regarding bio-mom is very near the surface, i know that you know that too. It is with the most firm belief in your instincts as a mom and with the most sincere wish for your continued success that i am going to say what I'm going to say next.
If you cannot conceive of sd's bio-mom caring at least as much as you do, your future communication with her is doomed before it even has a chance to start. I'm not saying you need to establish a chummy good buddy friendship w bio-mom, I'm not even saying you have to like her....... i am saying that it is in the best interest of your SD for you to acknowledge the importance of her mom in her life, and to be supportive of that relationship. It may seem like a no brainer to you -her biomom cant even pack clean underwear! I hear you! So, you send her home with clean underwear and some bras to boot.......... whats the harm? Probably none.
no harm done. thats good..... better than good, actually, considering the strong feelings you've expressed regarding bio-mom. My warning may seem excessive ........ maybe it is.......... my own experience is that SD will pick up on your feelings whether you state them or not. Your SD respects you, don't give her a moments doubt about your love for her, nor her mom's. It might surprise her, in a good way, that her mom would be interested...... and then she has you to thank for pointing that out. Both she and
her mom would have you to thank for pointing that out.
I just don't want you to miss these early opportunities to establish yourself as a role model, for both of them.
best wishes and warmest regards,