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post #81 of 128
Kathleen's blog is no longer visible. Does anyone know how they are doing?

I wanted to mention The Natural Child Project as an on-line parenting resource: http://www.naturalchild.com/ Jan Hunt at the site does phone consultations from a gentle and respectful parenting pov: http://www.naturalchild.com/counseling/

I find that this article is a useful synopsis of gentle parenting: http://www.positivediscipline.com/articles/pdguide.html

This article about what to do when you are about to lose it would come in handy if I suddlenly had four children: http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt...ernatives.html

Kathleen, we are thinking of you. Take the time you need to remain sane. But, please ask for help when it seems too much. We all get to that place.

Pat
post #82 of 128
I have also been avidly following Kathleen's blog . . . anyone know what happened?
post #83 of 128
I would guess she deleted it for privacy reasons. I hope she'll still come here and fill us in on how she is and let us know if there's anything we can do to help her.
post #84 of 128
Kathleen, I hope you're doing OK. There are so many people here wishing you well.
post #85 of 128
I didn't get to read all the replies yet but I just wanted to say that you are a wonderful person! These children are so lucky to have you and it sounds like they will have a far better upbringing now that they are with you. I am really sorry for the loss of your sister and for those poor children losing their mother You truly are an angel. I'm glad you found MDC, I think you'll find a lot of support here.
post #86 of 128
I also think of her often. I do hope she'll come back and update us.
post #87 of 128
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Originally Posted by daceysmomma
I have also been avidly following Kathleen's blog . . . anyone know what happened?
Me, too. I'm so worried about them all. I hope it was as simple as privacy issues and not depression or a major change in custody.: I hope everything is as well as can be expected in their home!

Kathleen, we're all rooting for you!!!!
post #88 of 128
just another one adding and
_i cannot imagine_ all that you are going through, but it sounds like you are coping amazingly well... it's also ok to fall apart for a bit... to a good friend? other family member? cry and release and then start again.
post #89 of 128
First, please accept my sympathy on your loss. How sad for all of you.

Ok, I wouldn't rush to vaccinate or get any cavities filled. First, do some research. THey've lived this long without, they'll survive a few weeks while you get it together.

Obviously, the exercise room and office are going to get a make over! If there's room, they can share a room for a while, or a few can be in your room, if that doesn't make you nuts.


I'd get family counseling and individual for the kids. THey need to eb able to express their grief and in kids it can be complicated and a very long process.

You are embarking on a long and very difficult, but very exciting journey. These kids will, someday, realize what an incredible gift you are giving them, the gift of family.

Also, you can contact the admin here and get your name changed, even on this thread, so it doesn't still show up. Might make you feel a bit more secure, being anonymous.

I wish I could reach through the puter and hug you!
post #90 of 128

Please don't circ Benny!!!!

I haven't had a chance to read this thread, but the LAST thing that poor motherless and neglected child needs is to have his genitals mutilated!!!!

Please check out the circ board. If you want to live naturally, discarding 25% of your nephew's penile skin is NOT the way to go! Not to mention the trauma to him/risk of future sexual problems.
post #91 of 128
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Originally Posted by mlec
I haven't had a chance to read this thread, but the LAST thing that poor motherless and neglected child needs is to have his genitals mutilated!!!!

Please check out the circ board. If you want to live naturally, discarding 25% of your nephew's penile skin is NOT the way to go! Not to mention the trauma to him/risk of future sexual problems.
...but if you HAD taken the time and extended the courtesy of reading the thread, you would know that she had already decided against doing this.
post #92 of 128
Also wanted to say you've all been in my thoughts, and I hope everything is going well.
post #93 of 128
Has anyone tried PM'ing her to see how she is?
post #94 of 128
I checked her profile and she hasn't been on here since the 28th. I dunno if she gets email notification of pms or not.
post #95 of 128
Hi Kathleen!
I live very far away so can only offer emotional support. Wow you must feel so overwhelmed! I hope that things are settling down for everyone in your family and that you got a few days or weeks off from work and were able to start sorting through the chaos. I'm so sorry that your sister died.

I really hope that you love mothering. It's overwhelming for sure but it really is rewarding too. I hope that you're able to find lots of info here that will be helpful and that you know it's a pretty safe place to vent when things get rough (and there are some really : days for sure.

Here's to great love landing in your lap. I hope that together you will be able to grow and heal as a family.
post #96 of 128
KHalton

WOW That is one heck of a lifestyle change!
I hope you are factoring in the support you will undoubtedly need. (Like the safety cards on airplanes; instructions are for adults to put the oxgen masks on themselves first and then the children.) It is tricky to give advise but I will because I cannot imagine how difficult the learning curve must be with four children suddenly in your life. Growing up with a baby gives plenty of time for the parents to learn too.
I see that you have not posted in a few days and I hope you are well. Perhaps you have just stepped back and become more anonymous.
Any updates would be most appreciated.
post #97 of 128
KHalton, you can do this. I'm already impressed with your carseat and circ choices. You can probably get some FMLA time off to help you connect with your children. They must be in a state of grief and shock after losing their mother. Be sure to check out the gentle discipline board here.

You really came to the right place. This board is the absolute best parenting board on the internet, in my humble opinion. I suggest getting a subscription to Mothering Magazine and reading the articles there. Also go to the following sites: While Children Sleep: http://whilechildrensleep.homestead.com/

and

http://www.naturalchild.org/

Read their stuff. I think you are in for an amazing transformation in your life. I know this sounds wild right now, but these children are going to be the best thing that ever happened to you.

If you have the resources, get a reliable minivan (either a Toyota or a Honda) and hire a housekeeper.
post #98 of 128
You should watch the movie raising helen, it's very similiar to your story and might be able to provide some relation to help you though this.


Summary:
Helen Harris is living the life she's always dreamed of: her career at a top modeling agency is on the rise; she spends her days at fashion shows and her nights at the city's hottest clubs. But her carefree lifestyle comes to a screeching halt when one phone call changes everything. She finds out her sister died. Helen soon finds herself responsible for her sister's children: 15-year-old Audrey, 10-year-old Henry, and 5-year-old Sarah. No one doubts that Helen is the coolest aunt in New York, but what does this glamour girl know about raising kids? The fun begins as Helen goes through the transformation from super-hip to super-mom, but she quickly finds that dancing at 3a.m. doesn't mix with getting kids to school on time--advice that Helen's older sister, Jenny, is only too quick to dish out. Along the way, Helen finds support in the most unusual place--with Dan Parker, the handsome young pastor and principal of the kids' new school--and realizes the choice she has to make is between the life she's always loved and the new loves of her life.
post #99 of 128
I've gotta say that I am starting to wonder if this whole thing wasn't just made up. Why someone would make up a story, I have no idea. But the fact that she was blogging for awhile, and then deleted her blog, seems fishy to me. This was a blog that was started after she got the kids. I don't know about you, but if I were in her shoes, I would hardly have time to breathe, let alone blog. Also, some of the stuff about having to get her 2 year old nephew a circumcision and then spanking the kids sounds like she was trying to get a rise out of people.

Is anyone else having doubts about this person's authenticity? I wholeheartedly apologize if I am wrong and I will happily eat crow.
post #100 of 128
Quote:
Originally Posted by Daphnes_mama
I've gotta say that I am starting to wonder if this whole thing wasn't just made up. Why someone would make up a story, I have no idea. But the fact that she was blogging for awhile, and then deleted her blog, seems fishy to me. This was a blog that was started after she got the kids. I don't know about you, but if I were in her shoes, I would hardly have time to breathe, let alone blog. Also, some of the stuff about having to get her 2 year old nephew a circumcision and then spanking the kids sounds like she was trying to get a rise out of people.

Is anyone else having doubts about this person's authenticity? I wholeheartedly apologize if I am wrong and I will happily eat crow.
Hmmmm...I'm not so sure. She hasn't been on since July 28th and if I was really seeking attention I would at least be watching and reading posts to my thread. I am wondering how she is...if she is...
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