As some of you regular poster may remember, I posted last week about talking with my SIL about me supporting her decision to keep her newborn son intact and the pressures she was receiving from her mother (MIL).
I knew that the whole circ thing would come up with MIL, with me being pregnant and them all desperately wanting me to have a boy (like I"m going to the store and shopping for a shirt or something). Saturday we were over, as SIL was there with the new baby and MIL brought it up. Like most things, she waits until she has me "cornered" and alone (without DH for backup) to grill me over things and try and get me to change my mind through a verbal barrage of condescencion (sp?). It was no different this time.
She started with the conspiratorial whisper of how SIL hadn't circed her DS (in that "oh what a tragedy voice). I informed her that if this one was a boy, we wouldn't be either because it was unnecessary. She looks at me like I'm a moron and says "It IS necessary, you think we do it for the hilarity of it?"
I said that after the issues that DH and his brother had, why would I? She was like "What issues?" I mentioned about DH saying he was done 2 times because it wasn't done properly the 1st time and she said that that was wrong, that BIL was done 2 times. That DH had got an infection at 13 because they didn't cut enough off and she couldn't imagine what it'd be like to have a kid with a whole foreskin and she thought that DH, of ALL people would be pro-circ. She then said that BIL had had too much taken off (then why did they have to do the 2nd one??
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By that time, I was infuriated (I have a hard time holding my emotions when it comes to MIL because her condescending attitude gets to me) and just got up and went to DH and told him what she said. Wonderful DH said that it didn't matter what she thought, we weren't doing it anyway and she could just suck it up.
MIL is not a person you can get to accept your decision or "convert" to your point of view. She is not open to new idea or the idea that she may be incorrect in her views. She believes that she knows better than everyone, I feel like telling her anything is a waste of time because she doesn't really listen, she spends the whole time a person is talking formulating what she is going to say (because, since the other person isn't agreeing with her, they are automatically wrong).
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I knew that the whole circ thing would come up with MIL, with me being pregnant and them all desperately wanting me to have a boy (like I"m going to the store and shopping for a shirt or something). Saturday we were over, as SIL was there with the new baby and MIL brought it up. Like most things, she waits until she has me "cornered" and alone (without DH for backup) to grill me over things and try and get me to change my mind through a verbal barrage of condescencion (sp?). It was no different this time.
She started with the conspiratorial whisper of how SIL hadn't circed her DS (in that "oh what a tragedy voice). I informed her that if this one was a boy, we wouldn't be either because it was unnecessary. She looks at me like I'm a moron and says "It IS necessary, you think we do it for the hilarity of it?"
I said that after the issues that DH and his brother had, why would I? She was like "What issues?" I mentioned about DH saying he was done 2 times because it wasn't done properly the 1st time and she said that that was wrong, that BIL was done 2 times. That DH had got an infection at 13 because they didn't cut enough off and she couldn't imagine what it'd be like to have a kid with a whole foreskin and she thought that DH, of ALL people would be pro-circ. She then said that BIL had had too much taken off (then why did they have to do the 2nd one??
: )By that time, I was infuriated (I have a hard time holding my emotions when it comes to MIL because her condescending attitude gets to me) and just got up and went to DH and told him what she said. Wonderful DH said that it didn't matter what she thought, we weren't doing it anyway and she could just suck it up.
MIL is not a person you can get to accept your decision or "convert" to your point of view. She is not open to new idea or the idea that she may be incorrect in her views. She believes that she knows better than everyone, I feel like telling her anything is a waste of time because she doesn't really listen, she spends the whole time a person is talking formulating what she is going to say (because, since the other person isn't agreeing with her, they are automatically wrong).
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to you! Grrrr to her! how annoying!!!
BIL was shocked when he was our first sons intact penis he shouted "OMG! you left him an anteater!" Now, he is a sweetheart and was just reacting out of ignorance, but really, it is amazing how some folks react about something as simple as a male with a foreskin......Now, a baby being strapped down and having part of his penis cut off.....I can see someone having a shocked reation to that!
That woman will never get pregnant again (she's had a full hystorectomy and I know I slaughtered that word).
assuming she's un-disowned by then...
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Well, I guess I do get worked up about the same thing, but in my case it's defending the foreskin!
