Originally Posted by Loves2wearbaby04
Im not sure, Probably partialy.. havent really checked though,Im not sure Im strong enough to go thru it w.out meds...and Im not sure if my hospital has "alternative" labor methods like a birth bar(or is it called a labor bar..the thing that helps you squat) they do have tubs in the labor rooms, but Im not sure how open they would be to all the "different stuff"...
If the CNM is delivering in a hospital, it's very likely that your insurance covers it AND the CNM would be used to delivering in that hospital and would know what is available and what's not. Also, you'd still be in a hospital, so meds would still be available! But you ARE strong enough to do it without meds, as long as you stay away from interventions such as pitocin. A CNM would be able to help you through it, I'm sure.
And I ditto changing providers right now. Even if you just find another OB. Learn about birth. Read birth stories here, read the Birth & Beyond forum, etc. Learn what you need to know to have a good hospital birth. It can happen, but you need to be educated! You've got a few weeks hopefully, so do all that research, and ask for help if needed.
For bf'ing - have you been to an LLL meeting yet? If not, GO THIS MONTH. Get in contact with an LLL leader and get to know her so that if you have any bf'ing problems, you'll feel comfortable calling her up and getting help. That's what they're there for, and they're FREE. So you have no reason not to call them for help.
Alot of women end up not bf'ing because of lack of support in the hospitals and just not knowing that LLL is there for them. So get yourself to an LLL meeting ASAP (pregnancy is the best time to start going!!!!), and learn learn learn. You can do it!
Also, you could ask the LLL leader for recommendations of OBs/CNMs/etc. in your area - they might be able to recommend someone more natural childbirth friendly! That's how I found my OB.
Back to the birth thing... You said you can't afford a homebirth midwife. Have you called any and asked about doing a sliding scale? Seriously, many midwives will cut you some slack if you really can't afford them. My midwife has in her paperwork that she never wants anyone to choose not to homebirth due to finances. I know she does births at very low cost for some women who just don't have the money. It doesn't hurt to TALK to a midwife and ask about finances. And remind yourself that women have been giving birth without pain meds for thousands of years. You can do it too. It's easier if you're in the right environment, not being given dilation checks and not being forced to lay in bed, etc. Just trust yourself and your body, and remember that the pain doesn't last forever, and there is a wonderful prize at the end. Focus on that prize.