Originally Posted by Loves2wearbaby04
Do you mean instead of pushing when you felt ready too, you were pushing at 10 cm's dilated or something?? I know they say that baby will birth on their own with contractions w.out any pushing...is this what you mean?!?
With DD (hopsital birth), I had gotten a spinal block which was starting to wear off when I got to 10 cm, but not enough that I felt any sort of urge to push yet.
They directed me to push, so I did...for 2 1/2 hours, ugh.
I just thought that pushing SUCKED, and that was that.
Well, fast-forward to DS's homebirth...I didn't know how much I was dialated, I was just taking each contraction as it came, working through them one by one.
The midwife and her assistant were back making my bed when I had a contraction and all of a sudden felt like I was going to throw up.
You know, that 'my stomache muscles are going to do what they want, regardless of me' feeling?
Anyway, I ended up NOT throwing up, but rather 'throwing down'. That was my body pushing, I didn't even realize it!
So every contraction I just waited for my body to do that. I was definitely pushing, but it wasn't the concentrated, on purpose effort I had made with DD for the entire 2 1/2 hours (I only pushed for about 20 minutes with DS).
ONE contraction with DS I started pushing more on my own (like I had been with DD) and the light turned on! THAT'S why it was so hard with DD!!
I was pushing on my own, without waiting for my body to be ready...needless to say I didn't do that again!
Pushing isn't easy, but when I waited for my body to do it when it was ready it was definitely a GOOD thing, compared to the exausting ordeal it was the time before.
Sorry that got so long, HTH a little