rdl2k5,I have no interest in starting an argie here but I could not really let your post go unanswered. I did not imagine hostility, it would appear that not only my female status that is 'wrong' here but also my single-parent status. If you think I've got nothing better to do than hit on men, married or otherwise online or off then think again. I have no history of such activities and have no interest in men who would hurt their wives or partners. I do not exclude myself to the single-parenting forum just cos I am one. Gender imo is just another tool to oppress us with, I have ample male and female blood coursing through my veins. The reason I replied to the op was to give support to a Dad who is overworked, something I can totally relate to whether I'm male or female,married or otherwise. I related to this post cos I've just spent weeks plastering our 200 yr old house and fixing up the roof as it's seen better days. We are 100% skint fulltime tho I work for crap wages. I also do a lot of work on our old scrapper so I can travel the 20 miles to the shops,take my dc camping etc, we live very remote in the scottish highlands and I do EVERYTHING myself. I'm also a traveller and I lived on the road ,alone with my dc, and had some hard times. I am very happy single-parent cos it gives me peace of mind. I ended up with a slipped disc and a knackered back from all this work, don't get me wrong I love working at stuff but never learnt the skills needed but am working on it.And that's why I replied to the post to say hey, give yourself a break. I totally understand that it is essential that men have a voice and their own space on mdc and reading through previous Dads posts I now see that a lot of women do post on them, I don't think a Dads only forum would be pc or that but I am sure there is a way round that and hope that you Dad's get the space you deserve, kind regards,Mary.