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post #21 of 442
THEY say a higher risk of high blood pressure and gestational diabetes........quite frankly ive seen alot of skinny women having problems with those two things as well.
post #22 of 442
I'm Gillian, Momma to Elijah 4 and Ava 2. I am 29 weeks pregnant with baby #3.

I am giving birth with a midwife at a birthing center, and he has never said anything about my weight. When I got pregnant with this baby I was 250. (did I just type that lol!) at 29 weeks I am only 258

I hope to loose weight after I give birth by taking up dancing again and joining a womens soccor league.

Neither my OB nor my midwife has ever said a word about my weight. I thing I have not gained this pregnancy, is because I have not wanted sugar, just fruits and veggies. With DS is was chocolate peanut butter ice cream and fondue!
Nice to meet everyone!
post #23 of 442
Pregnant and plus here. I'm about a size 18/20. I'm newly pregnant; due April 5. I'm about 15 lbs heavier than I started with my last one. I wanted to lose weight before, but this was kind of a surprise. I'm going to exercise and stretch more this pregnancy and take yoga like I did with my first. I think it really made a difference.

Hope you are all having good pregnancies!
post #24 of 442
Hi all,
I'm not pregnant yet but we are ttc. I am a size 24 now and 5'7''. When I was preggers with ds who is now 2.5 I was about 40lbs lighter then I am now. I have been trying to lose weight but it's so hard. I am pretty active with my toodler so hopefully I won't have any problems ttc. With my ds I only had 1 doctor out of 4 tell me to not gain more than 15lbs. I gained 26lbs. but had no problems at all. Vaginal birth at 41 weeks and my son weighed just over 8lbs. The one thing all the docs said was that I was measuring big.
post #25 of 442
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by ~gilli~
I'm Gillian, Momma to Elijah 4 and Ava 2. I am 29 weeks pregnant with baby #3.

I am giving birth with a midwife at a birthing center, and he has never said anything about my weight. When I got pregnant with this baby I was 250. (did I just type that lol!) at 29 weeks I am only 258
Gillian,

Ok, I"ve just gotta ask. Was it a typo, or do you really have a male midwife?? I didn't even know men could be midwifes, so I had to ask. Sara
post #26 of 442
theres a thread in the midwife forum about male midwives........theres quite a few out there
post #27 of 442
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by romans_mum
theres a thread in the midwife forum about male midwives........theres quite a few out there
Wow! Learn something new everyday, huh!?! : Sara
post #28 of 442
I'm not sure if I belong here or not, so let me know what the cutoff is ...

I came into this pregnancy at about a size 16, about 20 pounds over what my doctor thought I should weigh. Most of that was gained in my last semester of grad school, when my diet was completely shot to hell and I never exercised. I didn't gain ANYTHING for my first 20 weeks, which has led a weird shift in size for me, down to a size 12, but with my increasingly pregnant belly. My MWs were laid back about it, basically saying I had it to spare. I've started to gain now, and they aren't giving me any crap about declining the GD test.

Mainly I am trying very hard not to think about my weight at all for the rest of this pregnancy. It's hard when they expect us to weigh ourselves, though. Does anybody else's MW do this?
post #29 of 442
i think you belong here welcome

I lost 15lbs in the first 5mths of my pregnancy before i had a gain, don't feel bad. I ended up coming out of the pregnancy wearing my prepregnancy jeans that i couldnt even fit before i got pregnant. and 9mths and 10 extra lbs later....... they still look mighty fine on me if i do say so myself

don't stress about your weight, you will gain what you need to gain for this particular child, just eat when your hungry, and don't limit yourself
post #30 of 442
Hi!

I belong here too. My last pg I started at about 280, yeah. I didn't gain much at all to the point that my ob was concerned that I wasn't gaining. But she had made me do a gtt at 13 wks so I was on a diet the whole pg. After I had dd, I weighed 20 lbs less than before I got pg.

This time I started at 247. I didn't want to gain too much but I'm almost 38 wks and I've gained about 30lbs. Dr still has not said anything about what I've gained. I eat mostly vegetarian, but lately I'll admit to eating dairy which I had cut out. I'm healthier than I was last time and much more laid back because I've been doing things my way (refused gtt, just monitor my sugar, for example). I'll go back to a more strict vegetarian/vegan way of eating after baby is born, but I've really enjoyed being a normal pg woman instead of a walking science project like I felt like I was being treated like last time.

To the momma who is already getting flack, consider switching providers if you can. Do you really want to be treated like this for months? Do you want to be obsessed with everything you eat? Life is too short. Yes, be mindful of what you eat and make healthy choices, but don't let it ruin your pg, kwim?
post #31 of 442
Wow this thread really took off! Awesome! I still have to read through everything but Sara I wanted to touch on your situation RE weight and your OB. That is a SUPER sore subject for me and big a reason that I switched OB's with this new pregnancy. My old one gave me such a hard time about my weight and granted I gained alot, but I was so ashamed and was made to feel that if I didn't lose it before another pregnancy then it would be big trouble. Like my stomach would explode or something. That if my stomach muscles weren't in shape then I woudn't be able to carry a new pregnancy.
No way I would have gone there newly pregnant and weighing what I did when I last gave birth!
I can't believe you were given a hard time about 2 1/2 lbs! I think this is practically epidemic and not just with us plus size mammas. My SIL gave birth about 4 months ago. She is in thin, in excellent shape and maintained her fitness throughout her pregnancy and only gained approx. 30 lbs the whole time, however she was berated by her OB for gaining it a little too fast! She was mortified each time she got weighed and got a "talking to" about it and this fueled her already neurotic ideas about her self image. She was the kind of pregnant woman I envy (the way she looked). Still thin but with a beautifully round tummy. But she did not get to enjoy this because of the way she was made to feel. I was so furious that I almost marched over there myself but I didn't want to humiliate her. And it's just not her. I have heard this story countless times. I know it's great to keep a healthy weight during pregnancy and that doctors get concerned about gaining to much but C'MON! Why has it gotten so ridiculously out of control!?
I weigh 293 and when I was interviewing my new midwife it was the first topic I broached with her.
post #32 of 442
i heard on the news that the "guidelines" of weight gain are to HIGH and they want to lower them!!! its pathetic.
post #33 of 442
Herausgeber you belong here if you want to sister!
post #34 of 442
Thread Starter 
Oh, another little thing my midwife mentioned yesterday. She was trying to see if she could hear the baby's heartbeat with the fetascope instead of the doppler...she tried and tried but couldn't. She said she wasn't worried that it's just about the time that you can sometimes start hearing it with the fetacsope, and then she goes on to make a comment about having a little extra padding there that makes it a bit harder to hear things as early!! :

I have actually considered not having this midwife(specifically because of her seemingly obsession about my nutrition), but I want a home birth, & I really have no money for a home birth. She's the only midwife I know that was willing to take my Medica insurance and my Medical Assistance and whatever they will pay, is what she'll take for her whole fees, so I don't have to fork anything out of pocket...so either I go with her and can have a home birth, or I go unassisted again. I went unassisted last pregnancy/birth and I was really liking the idea of someone else being there to help if something came up. But I just don't know.

I guess we'll see what time brings. Thanks for the support mamas!! Sara
post #35 of 442
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by 2 in August
To the momma who is already getting flack, consider switching providers if you can. Do you really want to be treated like this for months? Do you want to be obsessed with everything you eat? Life is too short. Yes, be mindful of what you eat and make healthy choices, but don't let it ruin your pg, kwim?
Jen,

You make valid points in your posting!! I totally agree I don't want to be obsessed with everything I eat, and I"m not going to let it ruin my pregnancy. I eat what I feel like eating and eat how much I'm hungry for. I guess I figure I'm happy with how things are going...if she doesn't, that's her problem!!

Sara
post #36 of 442
Thanks for starting this thread Sarah

I'm Sarah, 27, mama to 5 y/o Emilee and 33 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. I have also been a surrogate twice and carried twins both times.


I wasn't really overweight when I got pregnant with Emilee (about 160) and I gained 20lb with her and lost it right away. With the first set of twins I gained 40lb and I lost about 30 of that. When I got pregnant with the second set of twins I was about 180. With the second set I gained 10lb but somehow ended up weighing 190 even after they were born. So far with this baby I've gained 10lb and it looks like I'm holding steady there.

I've never had an ob or mw say anything about my weight with any of my pregnancies. I did have the mom of the first set of twins expecting me to gain 60lb, but she wanted me to do it on a low/no fat diet : yeah right!!!

I agree that pregnancy is not the time to be dieting or trying not to gain any weight! It's ridiculous that care providers expect us to gain practically nothing because we are bigger. Um....we are growing a baby!!!! As long as I'm eating healthy (for the most part, what can I say Taco Bell just calls to me when preggo) I really don't pay attention to what I'm gaining. I know my body knows what it's supposed to do. If I'm supposed to gain 50lb to grow my baby then that's what I'm going to gain kwim?

Anyway, I'm so glad to join this group of lovely women! Thanks again, Sara, for starting this thread
post #37 of 442
Can't talk right now (need sleep!) but I'll be back later for more!
post #38 of 442
I'm not pg anymore, but always felt too shy to show pics of my pg belly. After seeing all your gorgeous pg bodies, I felt inspired and decided to post some of me. I was a size 12/14 before pg and am now a 16.

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post #39 of 442
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Originally Posted by Saramomofmany
Oh, another little thing my midwife mentioned yesterday. She was trying to see if she could hear the baby's heartbeat with the fetascope instead of the doppler...she tried and tried but couldn't. She said she wasn't worried that it's just about the time that you can sometimes start hearing it with the fetacsope, and then she goes on to make a comment about having a little extra padding there that makes it a bit harder to hear things as early!! :
I had a similar experience when I was preg with my ds. And the doctor just kept pressing and pressing and finally she found it. Meanwhile I had a bruse on my tummy for like a week. :
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