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Do you think its appropriate for an 11 year old to get any body part waxed?

Poll Results: Should 11 year old giirls get their eyebrows waxed?

 
  • 53% (190)
    yes
  • 46% (165)
    no
355 Total Votes  
post #1 of 555
Thread Starter 
I have heard of young girls getting cody parts waxed lately.


I think this is sad that already young girl is feeling like her body needs modification.. I would rather try and build up this girls self esteem rather than encourage her to change herself, or to think of herself as "wrong" in some way. What are your thoughts? About waxing, please. Not about whether or not their should be a poll on this
post #2 of 555
If the girl has odd facial hair, yeah, I'd support waxing or tweezing. It's easier to pluck a few strays then to have to deal with ridicule in school.
post #3 of 555
My little sister is very very hairy and she started waxing eyebrows and legs in grade 6 when other kids started making fun of her. So yeah I say that if they want to....got for it.
post #4 of 555
I started (secretly) shaving my legs at that age. I have really dark hair and was being teased at school so I grabbed my Moms razor from the edge of the tub one day and did it. She found out (walked in on me actually) and boy did I catch hell! Got the whole "you'll be sorry....hair will be thicker.....now youll have to do it all the time" speech

I guess what I am getting at is that it is a relatively minor, reversable thing that made a big difference in my self confidence and self esteem. I can't see anything wrong with waxing at that age either if positive results come of it

At the same time, I do agree that it is sad that a girl would think she "needs" alteration, but I can understand where she is comming from. If it was my daughter and she wanted to do it, I would support her.

Take care,
Tara
post #5 of 555
Cosmetic waxing ~ no!

As previously posted, if it was for the childs 'emotional well being' ~ Yes.


Then again, I know girls now days that are shaving their pits and legs at 9 yrs old.

I would not let my daughter shave at 9.
When I was a child my mother always said I could shave when I started my period.. so for 12 years I had THE hairest legs in gradeschool.
Ironicly enough, I dont shave now I am proud of my hairy legs (I do shave a few times a year.)
post #6 of 555
I think preteens are old enough to know if they want facial (or leg) hair removed or not, and have a basic understanding of what's involved in hair removal. Would I encourage my child to have waxing at age 11? Absolutely not- I intend to gently encourage my girls to embrace their body hair when it starts to grow, but I will allow my girls to shave or wax (and make sure they do so safely) if they want to.
post #7 of 555
Thread Starter 
thanks for all your replies. I guess it just really saddens me that women in general think that their hair is "wrong" but now young girls, I mean 1 1 really is still a child, think that their bodies are not okay jsut the way they are. Its a shame that anyone would make a girl feel bad about her body hair (meaning other students, etc). I wonder if "hairiness" is treated differently in cultures where even the grown women are more natural about it...
post #8 of 555
Honestly, it's none of my business.
post #9 of 555
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Originally Posted by chersolly
If the girl has odd facial hair, yeah, I'd support waxing or tweezing. It's easier to pluck a few strays then to have to deal with ridicule in school.
I agree with this. But I think it is very sad that girls this young are already teasing one another over things like this. Girls this age shouldn't care, KWIM?
post #10 of 555
No, Self confidence and self-esteem are more important to me than the rare chance of ridicule. I want my children to be able to be loved for who they are not what they look like.
post #11 of 555
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Originally Posted by Ruthla
I think preteens are old enough to know if they want facial (or leg) hair removed or not, and have a basic understanding of what's involved in hair removal. Would I encourage my child to have waxing at age 11? Absolutely not- I intend to gently encourage my girls to embrace their body hair when it starts to grow, but I will allow my girls to shave or wax (and make sure they do so safely) if they want to.
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post #12 of 555
Do I think they *Should* wax, not necessarilly. Do I think it's fine for them to wax? Sure.

Kids get teased about all sorts of things and I think if a minor cosmetic fix, such as waxing, can change that, what's the big deal? It's not like they're getting breast implants at 11 years old. It's no different than wearing mascara.
post #13 of 555
Here is an interesting article I found...
http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a3_012.html
Quote:
notes that Greek statues of women in antiquity had no pubic hair, suggesting that hairlessness was some sort of ideal of feminine beauty embedded in Western culture.
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If so, a lot of Western culture never got the message. Greek women today (and Mediterranean women generally) do not shave their hair. The practice has been confined largely to English-speaking women of North America and Great Britain, although one hears that it's slowly spreading elsewhere.
post #14 of 555
I feel that allowing her this is respecting her feelings. She is a person with wants and needs and eyebrow waxing is such a little thing. I understand people not wanting to kowtow to the establishment and such, but why push this at the expense of a child's self esteem? At some point, she may change her mind and quit waxing/shaving/whatever all together. But until then, make it her choice, not your choice for her.
post #15 of 555
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by messy mama
Honestly, it's none of my business.
I asked only for opinions on whether or not the waxing is appropriate. I specifically asked that you not comment on whether or not the poll was okay. Thanks
post #16 of 555
no, i dont thinks its appropriate to wax........if shes got a monobrow then some plucking, but i think thats to adult for an 11yr old.
post #17 of 555
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by wende
Do I think they *Should* wax, not necessarilly. Do I think it's fine for them to wax? Sure.

Kids get teased about all sorts of things and I think if a minor cosmetic fix, such as waxing, can change that, what's the big deal? It's not like they're getting breast implants at 11 years old. It's no different than wearing mascara.
I think that the modification of one part of the body leads them to modify other parts of the body, or think that other parts of the body are not okay.

Question for the mamas who think its okay...do you yoruself modify your eyebrows, or wax/shave other parts of your bodies?

I can understand a girl wanting to wax if she is particularly hairy, it just mostly makes me sad that we live in a society that makes someone feel like they need to wax at all, especially a child.
post #18 of 555
Nope. Not at all, given no additional information. But ita that if she has a very unusual amount of hair then it would be ok. I don't think it's appropriate for children to dye their hair either (other than fun or funky colors--green or purple is cool, but to try improve on nature to make it more 'beautiful' would be odd), but in the case of a child going very prematurely grey I can sympathize wanting to cover that up.
post #19 of 555
Quote:
Originally Posted by numom499
I asked only for opinions on whether or not the waxing is appropriate. I specifically asked that you not comment on whether or not the poll was okay. Thanks
I never said it wasn't OK for you to do a poll. That is also none of my business. I was just answering you question. Your welcome.
post #20 of 555
Quote:
Originally Posted by numom499
I think that the modification of one part of the body leads them to modify other parts of the body, or think that other parts of the body are not okay.
ITA. A self-confident person won't give a flying hoot what others 'see'.
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