Lex (and Lena)EDD:
3 (I also carried our twins who are now 3.5)Your biggest issue right now:
I'm not sure. . . I'm at the "blissful" stage, so no complaints about the pregnancy (though I was terribly sick for the first 20 weeks, so I'm not one of those blissful-the-whole-time mamas). This babe is very active, and I'm really enjoying him these days. I guess I'm most concerned about what life will be like post-birth since dw is starting grad. school this fall, won't have any maternity leave, and we have two other kids too.
: I realized this morning for the first time that we'll have three kids under age 4, which just seems totally crazy!! (Not sure why it took me this long to have that realization, lol). But, for the most part, I'm enjoying a low-anxiety, happily pregnant, HOT summer!
My dw is definitely NOT feeling like she is sort-of pregnant too. Now that my belly is so hard to miss, she doesn't actually forget that I'm pregnant anymore, but it definitely doesn't seem to be high on the list of things she's thinking about. I think this is just a second-time-around thing in that it's not as exciting, and we have the other kids to be majorly distracting us. She does try to get some snuggle time in with the kicking belly every so often, but this experience is definitely more mine than shared. She was basically the same way last time I was pregnant (though perhaps a little more giddy with anticipation), but as soon as our boys were actually born she became SUPER MAMA! I feel like the actual mothering part came much more easily to her than it did to me. I think it's just not totally real to her until the baby is on the outside.
We are in the process of doing the second-parent adoption of our older boys right now (finally after 3.5 years. . . ). We live in MA, and second-parent adoption for gay/lesbian families is very easy here. But we did have a homestudy done last summer because we became foster parents. The homestudy was not a scary experience at all. It was actually kinda fun (of course, it's more exciting when you're having one for a reason other than adopting your own kids). The social worker visited a few times and we discussed our entire life histories, and that was it. There were no questions about where our kids were born or even any of our ideas about western medicine (i.e. vax, antibiotics, etc.). So, I wouldn't be worried about that part if I were you.
Congratulations to all the newly pregnant mamas! Looking forward to sharing this journey with you!