Originally Posted by ericswifey27
While on the subject of separation from our little ones, perhaps someone has some advice for me?
My twin sister would like me to come for the birth of her son, due in November. I want to be there with her and my new nephew to be very much, but I would not be able to bring my 2 1/2 year old son. He would stay with daddy, grandma and grandpa.
Aside from the difficulty of being away from him for a week, there is another concern: He is still nursing several times a day.
For nursing moms who have been separated, what did you do to maintain milk supply? Should I pump? How often?
I may be gone for a week, and I want my son to be assured that I will
continue nursing him when I return.
I may be opening myself up for attack... but I'm surprised no one else has responded to this... IMO a week away from a 2 1/2 year old is not a good idea. I know your son will be with loved ones and with his daddy, but YOU are his primary caregiver and you still have an ongoing breastfeeding relationship. Perhaps I'm wrong about this as my son isn't yet two and I don't have direct experience in this area, but from my reading on attachment theory, a long absence, especially between the ages of 1 and 3 can do harm to a child, and to your relationship. A week to a 2 1/2 year old is a much longer time than it is to us. I don't want to sound judgemental or critical, but I think you may regret leaving your child for that long, and I feel it would be wrong of me not to say something. A great book to read is "Becoming Attached". I don't remember the author. It describes the despair of hospitalized children that were separated from their mothers. And how when reunited with their parents, they rejected them. Granted, they weren't with familiar family members (and daddy), so it was a much worse situation... I just don't think a 2 1/2 understands why Mommy went away and that she is coming back after a long absence. A few days I think would be OK, but not a week.
Sorry to be such a downer. I understand your desire to be with your sister when she gives birth.