Hi all! Joining the crowd this month!
Well...after a long and strange and not-as-planned summer (I'll update it in the regular forum later), I'm back to life as normal, as school starts for my KINDERGARTENER on Tuesday (YIKES!) But this last week I had to myself, as the girls were with their dad, and in stead of working on stuff around the house (which I did do a bit of) I spent a LOT of time socializing...and relished it. For some reason, having the me-time for me as an adult is exactly what I need/ed to feel like a complete person and happy mama.
In terms of dating and the single mama, to keep this relevant...I had a lingering friendship/brief dating that we had a long talk last Sunday, and though neither of us came out and admitted it, we both are looking for different things. There is a peace to that, made much better by another fact.
There's a man I met online, who as soon as we communicated I realized is quite different in the same ways that I'm different...passionate about peace and justice, not connected to the material or commercial world, interested in art and creativity, appreciative of poetry and rhetoric. We'd actually met a couple of times at a foods not bombs event (he has gone weekly for about 8 months, I kept wanting to go and finally had two good excuses...to meet him and a box of Georgia peaches to share with the hungry). I was really glad to meet him in that setting...with my kids, and fairly neutral, and also in a situation where we are both wanting to be there for the purpose of it. We'd talked a lot by phone, emailed back and forth, and finally a few weeks ago met by ourselves and enjoyed a nice lunch. Well, this week, we met again and spoke for hours...as he wrote later, we feel so serene together. And met later this week, at which point we moved our relationship forward into passion and not just companionship. It's been wonderful and eye opening...to be with someone so caring, sweet, smart, so similar, who I can play my funky goddess folk music in the car and he loves it, who loves my mama body, who I am totally present in the IS when we're together. It's funny, I've thought about it, and there are so many topics that haven't come up yet...because they've been unnecessary to where we are when we're together.
Anyways, I thought I'd share. This is pretty new, but feels wonderful, and I want to just continue to enjoy it.
Glad to read that people seem to be happy where they are...those who are celibate and those who are involved with someone. Both have their benefits.
Wemoon and Heather, glad you're happy with your partners, you both sound like you're growing!
Jillian, glad you're happy with Brian, sorry about your m/c
And BelovedK, good for you for trusting your inner wisdom...if it's meant to happen, it will, so long as you don't try to force things or allow either of you to start trying to fill your internal voids with one another.