Tynme...I'm not completely sure of your situation. Is it just that you haven't had a talk about where you are (and some men might not bother to bring it up) or that he has explicitly said "we aren't in a relationship"? If it hasn't come up yet...then I would give him the benefit of the doubt, especially if he's recently healing from his own divorce. Perhaps it would be helpful, since you're shy about talking about it, to write him an email saying that you'd like to talk to him about X, but not get too detailed until you can talk in person?
Autumnschild, isn't it crazy how hard it is to not give off signals sometimes? Or maybe people just imagine your availability because it suits them? For whatever it's worth, maybe just try to take it as a compliment
As for the guy that you haven't returned phone calls too...even if it's hard to confront him, it might not be fair to him to just leave him hanging.
a work in progress, sorry your concert didn't turn out, but glad you feel comfortable where things stand!
I'm still in bliss...and wondering what happens next, in some ways. The man I've been seeing is just so amazingly wonderful, he has all the qualities of character that I just didn't dare to dream could reside in one person. I was describing him and our relationship to an old dear friend, and it clarified the things I find so amazing about him...he's very non-material and selfless, a giving person, honest and with a strong sense of honor, loving, affectionate, patient and kind, completely accepting of who I am, my life and it's complications, the joy of my children. I'm happier just knowing someone can be so good and true, if that makes any sense. And the more time we spend together, the more, well, hopeful I feel about life in general (not just my personal life, but all life, like politics, world affairs, etc.) He's such a positive person, realistic always but optimistic above all. This weekend he took me to see his sailboat, his "one material possession" which he's fixing up, and as we talked about what he was working on, what needed to be done, etc., he said how much he wants to get it done now, because he'd love to go sailing with me, "And the girls would love it, too, kids really love sailing." Ah, I just feel, I don't know, bliss!! I'm nervous in some ways that it's going so fast, mostly just because I don't want to be careless (but I don't think I am, it's mostly just rationalization and fear talking). I'm a little concerned about how much time we're spending with the kids (I'm trying to keep it to two nights a week, we were already at one night before we became a couple because we do a social event together), but at the same time, he's not going anywhere, and I'm not feeling any discomfort about our relationship progressing. Mostly, I'm kind of worried about larger dynamics (my family, my ex, skeptical people everywhere...the co-dependency of my family gets really excessive whenever I am making choices about my life). So I'm trying to just live in the moment, enjoy our experiences together, enjoy his slowly growing relationship with my kids, enjoy it all...