August Chit Chat Thread - Page 5

[JenMidwife]

I think I remember a thread about this a couple of weeks ago (maybe started by Julie?), but not sure. Anyway...

I've found myself increasingly introverted/self-protective/hermit-like (I can't find the right word!) over the past week or so. I don't have friends IRL who are in to natural birth & while my family's okay, besides DH & my mom, nobody's super-encouraging. Little things people say are pissing me off- nothing rude, stuff I would normally find funny, but right now, it's just not. My 2 best friends & dad (who live across the country) think I'm going to call them when I go in to labor... YEAH RIGHT!!! Why? So they can call me back & find out if I've had the baby yet?! PLEASE!!!

I just have absolutely no desire to speak to anybody but my DH & mom, who are absolutely amazing, midwives, & you all (thank goodness for you all!) until baby's born.

I feel bad griping, cause really I don't have anyone giving me a hard time about homebirth or anything, but right now, it's just about baby, me & DH. KWIM?

P.S. Why do I love smilies so much???? Ah, the simple pleasures in life...

[SummerTwilight]

I am definately in cocoon mode too Jen. I just want DH and that's it. And I don't want any phone calls to check my progress. I just want to spend my time with him, not answer any questions and be our own family a little more before she gets here. Oh, and I wish she would GET HERE! Not cause I am in pain or can't handle the discomfort...just cause I have reached the point where I can't handle the suspense! I want to MEET her!

[magpiedee]

Ditto! And I don't really want to leave the house, or at most a 2-mile radius of the house. It's a good thing that my work, mom's work and Super Target are all in the same 2 mile area, right??

And everyone has started the unfortunate practice of walking into the office at work, doing a double take and asking me why i'm here. Because life goes on and pregnancy isn't a disease, fool! It's not even my EDD yet! :

[rebeccalizzie]

That's funny...I'm not really nesting, and I get tired of being in the house so I'm definitely not cocoon-ing either! I am enjoying spending time with DH and DD, and I'm seriously glad to be mostly off work (doing a few hours a day from home) but that's just because I'm ready to be off work.

I'm loving playing with all my cute baby stuff, especially my adorable dipes, but other than that I'm just still hanging out, I don't feel much different!

Sigh...that probably means I have quite a while yet. My EDD isn't for 2 more weeks, so that's probably good, but still, I am ready to meet the little guy :

[JenMidwife]

I knew you guys would understand!

magpiedee, you're so lucky to live so close to everything (esp. the Super Target- ha, ha!)! It's great that you're still working (assuming you want to be!)... I wish my work wasn't a 45 minute drive away so I could do some 1/2 days... I'm just too uncomfortable to work a full day & for me it's not worth nearly 2 hours of driving to work 4 hours (esp w/ the price of gas!).

Originally Posted by magpiedee

Ditto! And I don't really want to leave the house, or at most a 2-mile radius of the house. It's a good thing that my work, mom's work and Super Target are all in the same 2 mile area, right??

And everyone has started the unfortunate practice of walking into the office at work, doing a double take and asking me why i'm here. Because life goes on and pregnancy isn't a disease, fool! It's not even my EDD yet! :

[carolina~mom2be]

Originally Posted by JenMidwife

I've found myself increasingly introverted/self-protective/hermit-like (I can't find the right word!) over the past week or so. I don't have friends IRL who are in to natural birth & while my family's okay, besides DH & my mom, nobody's super-encouraging. Little things people say are pissing me off- nothing rude, stuff I would normally find funny, but right now, it's just not. My 2 best friends & dad (who live across the country) think I'm going to call them when I go in to labor... YEAH RIGHT!!! Why? So they can call me back & find out if I've had the baby yet?! PLEASE!!!

I just have absolutely no desire to speak to anybody but my DH & mom, who are absolutely amazing, midwives, & you all (thank goodness for you all!) until baby's born.

I feel bad griping, cause really I don't have anyone giving me a hard time about homebirth or anything, but right now, it's just about baby, me & DH. KWIM?

This is exactly how I feel. I have pretty much written off all of my friends until after the baby arrives. I can't deal with their negative energy right now!! My mom isn't much better...she's really scared for some reason - she calls me at least twice a day and if I don't answer, she immediately calls DH. I really hope that everyone doesnt start doing this in the next few weeks! I might snap I know that most people are anxious but I feel like my friends who have given birth are secretly hoping that I'll have a bad labor...have any of you girls ever felt that way?!?! I get the comments - "Oh, I hope that you won't have to have a section like I did" - "Why would you want to be so uncomfortable and not have any drugs?" : sigh....I feel like this due date club has kept me from going crazy!!! Thanks for letting me vent...

[ambotchka]

I feel so much better this week than last week. Why is that? It's stranage, but nice. One thing I changed was I decided to take the week off. Jen, like you, I have a long drive and hated doing 2 hours of traffic a day along the San Diego freeway system. Ugh. Especially with my "so super aware" senses -- I'm sure I'd hit somebody. I thought I'd be bored, but it's better being home b/c no one is asking me when the baby's coming (except some neighbors when I'm walking the dog, and I don't mind them so much). They weren't giving me any real projects to do at work anyway, since I could "go" at any moment, so I was just sitting around twiddling my thumbs -- which is SO much worse than being busy. Now, I just hang around with the pets, go the short distance to Border's (my obsession), go to yoga... that's it.

I'm feeling MUCH more patient now. DH is having a harder time!

[radiogirlgr]

I think that Friday is my last day of work......

I have finally admitted to myself how very uncomfortable I am and how very unproductive I am being. Every day, I try to get some things done, but it's more and more uncomfortable to even move... I have so much pain and pressure 'down there', not to mention the mild cramping and infrequent contractions I've been having for over a week.

Last Tuesday, I had my checkup and was dialated to 3cm and 50% effaced. Thursday I lost my plug. I thought that maybe, just maybe, I'd go this past weekend, but here I sit. Here's what I'm hoping... My next checkup is Friday morning, with an ultrasound to check growth and AFI (I was induced due to low AFI with DS). I'm hoping that I'll either go before that on my own, or be induced again this weekend. I just don't want to be home, sitting, waiting, for another 2 weeks!!!!

What do you girls think? Am I being selfish? Am I crazy to stop working or should I continue? Are my wishes way out of the question? I know that noone has a crystal ball (don't we wish someone did!) but I'm just hoping, wishing, praying to go sometime this week... I'm just ready to be done.

[magpiedee]

Real live audio, 10:30pm last night:

Me: DH, would you please have a little chat with tadpole and convince her to come on out?
DH: Sure! (speaking into my navel) Tadpole, you know how GOOOOOD McDonalds french fries are when mom eats them? <pause> Well, they're even BETTER out here!!
Me: Don't tell her that! She's not going to eat junk food! She's not having anything but breastmilk for 6 months, anyway!!
DH: Shhhh.... she doesn't know that. It's not a lie if she's still in utero. That's why I told her the other day that penguins can fly and like to eat pizza.

Am I in for it, or what??

[radiogirlgr]

Originally Posted by magpiedee

Real live audio, 10:30pm last night:

Me: DH, would you please have a little chat with tadpole and convince her to come on out?
DH: Sure! (speaking into my navel) Tadpole, you know how GOOOOOD McDonalds french fries are when mom eats them? <pause> Well, they're even BETTER out here!!
Me: Don't tell her that! She's not going to eat junk food! She's not having anything but breastmilk for 6 months, anyway!!
DH: Shhhh.... she doesn't know that. It's not a lie if she's still in utero. That's why I told her the other day that penguins can fly and like to eat pizza.

Am I in for it, or what??

LOL! I think that's fabulous! One thing you definitely need for parenting is a sense of humor. I love it!

[Robynee]

I am getting so frustrated! I am now 40+6. My contractions started coming about 10 mins. apart yesterday morning and continued like that all day. Around 1 yesterday afternoon, I lost my mucus plug. Last night my contractions started to get much more uncomfortable but then they became much less regular. I woke up a few times to some really painful ones last night but they were hours apart. This morning I wake up to some bloody show and my contractions resume at about 10 mins apart. I was at a LLL meeting around noon and I got up to go to the bathroom becuase I felt like I was leaking someting. Not only was there a ton of mucus in my pantiliner, I was soaked through my pants like I had peed myself. I am assuming that it was amniotic fluid but now, nothing.: No contractions, no fluid, no mucus. WTH is going on?! I was so excited but it has now been three hours and nothing is happening. Everyone at the meeting told me to call my midwife but it is a good thing I didn't becuase I would probably be sitting in the hospial right now, staring at the clock and praying for something to happen before they start setting up the OR for me. (They won't induce becasue I'm going for a VBAC.)

[SummerTwilight]

Oh Robynee, I HOPE things are speeding up for you! Could it be something other than your water breaking? You know how it can leak for a while and even repair itself? I hope you don't have to go to the or. Just try to be patient...Lord I am a hypocrite. Every MOMENT of today is going slow. I need a project to help me stop wishing for labor.
Carolina: I know what you mean about friends. I feel like women think of labor as competition about which one of us is more "female" and the worse the birth story the better you are. And if, God forbid, you aren't afraid of labor and expect things to go well and are planning natural childbirth you are a fool who, poor kid, doesn't know what to expect and is in for a shock. And they say, well don't be surprised if you have to get an epidural or change your mind and want a c-section. Ok, whatever. Thanks for your vote of confidence.
I am not wasting ANY time talking to mothers (AND NON-MOTHERS, women who think they know it all cause they heard "stories") who aren't sending happy vibes my way!
Radiogrl: I DEFINATELY don't think you are selfish!!! I stopped work a few weeks ago and I don't know how other people are doing it. If you can get away with it, I am SURE you won't regret that choice!

[Ary99]

Robynee, I am cheering you on girl. I know how frustrated you must feel. I'm going nuts over here and I'm not even due yet (ok, due tomorrow). All the signs are there, so try to rest to prepare for the big event. Please keep us posted.

[JenMidwife]

Hugs to you, Robyn. Hang in there!!!

[crazyeight]

Originally Posted by magpiedee

I tell ya... it's amazing how thoughtful and generous some people are... and how cruel others can be.

For example, my mother in law has not phoned, written, emailed, sent a card, NOTHING regarding this baby. We saw her at a funeral, she yelled at DH, and that was it.

But a work acquaintance that I have known for just a year, not even a close friend, gave an enormous shower gift, brought a huge flower arrangement as the centerpiece for the shower, and just today dropped off a pound of jellybeans, a set of blocks and a stuffed animal with the sweetest note.

D'ya ever think the world just mixed up who people are and who they should be? I'm calling the nice lady my "third trimester fairy godmother" and am hand-painting her thank-you note. I am so thankful for such random kindness! I hope I can someday make someone else feel as good as she has made me feel with her thoughtfulness.

its odd how some people are. that being said i haven't even TOLD my MIL or father about being pregnant!!! course they aren't my fav people. MIL is not allowed near us and my father is just a flake.

my mother hasn't bought anything for the baby, my FIL well hes a guy....he'll send a card with money after DH says hey shes here!!! actually my best friend (who lives 3 hours away) is the one who is going crazy over shopping for this baby!! (she loves girls and has a boy and always buys all the pink stuff). i've only known her for 1.5 years. and shes trying to concieve!!!

[magpiedee]

Another 3rd tri meditation: I have to admit that i'm really glad I registered at the dreaded Babies R Us. : I didn't want to do it, and I complained about it, but when one of my shower invitations incorrectly said we were registered there, it became a fact of life. And i'm so glad it did!

I love Target, but they have been absolutely heinous about returns. Their customer service people have been rude, sullen and unhelpful, and i'm stuck with several duplicate books and linens. But, at Babies R Us, i've been able to use the system to my advantage. When weird relatives have given us expensive gifts that we didn't need (a $40 shopping cart cover??), i've added it to the registry, listed it as a duplicate and had no problem returning it for things we really need, like thermometers and nail clippers and washcloths. Their customer service people have been very helpful, although pretty ignorant. Yep, one heard me ask my mom, "What else do we need?", and she perkily popped up with, "Ma'am, don't you need some bottles and pacis?" Eh, no. But thanks anyway.

[magpiedee]

Me again. Just got the news that my mom's best friend's daughter, who is due on September 23, a month after me, is in the ER and will probably have an emergency C-section today due to preeclampsia/unknown factors. We saw her at her shower two weeks ago, and I have to admit she looked like she might be having problems-- an unusual amount of swelling, sweating her hair wet, etc. They can't get any info out of the hospital folks, so they called me to ask if I knew if the baby would be okay... :

I looked at my baby calendar and said that if i'm 38w3d, then she's about 33w6d, so the baby has a really good chance and might just need some oxygen and special care for a couple of days. I hope I did the right thing in trying to make them feel better, but it's got me a bit freaked out. So far, of the 2 other pregnant people i've known since i've been pregnant, they've both had emergency c-sections... but they've both been at the local "baby factory" hospital with a c-rate of about 34%. I am avoiding that place like the plague.

So weird, to think that while I spent all night lying in bed, full of EPO and post-GIO-gunk, hoping for contractions and cramps, this poor girl was in the emergency room of the hospital, praying that her baby would stay put for just a few more weeks...

[snuffles]

Um, is anybody NOT having contractions? I am 38w+3d and it has been DAYS since I've noticed BH. I was out all day yesterday walking (which typically initiates all night BH's for me) and have done some other things to get things moving. And nada. I know this would be normal if this were my first baby, but this is #5 for me!!

[SlingWearin'Mama]

Originally Posted by mat4mel

Um, is anybody NOT having contractions? I am 38w+3d and it has been DAYS since I've noticed BH. I was out all day yesterday walking (which typically initiates all night BH's for me) and have done some other things to get things moving. And nada. I know this would be normal if this were my first baby, but this is #5 for me!!

You can put me in that club, 38w+5d. I have not had ONE contraction this whole pg, not even a BH. The nurse found that very surprising when she asked before my NST yesterday and was sure I was having some and not feeling them. But I had not a one!

[coop_mom]

radiogirl, I think you may have inspired me...

I've been sitting at work all day today not getting anything done...I'm a librarian (and only employee) at a teeny tiny public library, and I'm supposed to be getting everything all tied up before I go on maternity (scheduled for when the baby comes - due on 8/21)...but I'm so tired!!

Now I'm thinking, maybe I'll make next Wednesday my last day, and that way the volunteers who will be running the library will be able to call and ask me questions before baby comes, because I don't really want to deal with it once baby arrives. It will be like a practice run!

So, anyway, I think you're smart to stop work early if that's what you're body it telling you to do, and maybe I'll follow your lead...