i've actually enjoyed reading the topic at hand.
a friend of mine's dd did not potty learn until 4ish i think. i don't remember her exact age. It became a problem when the preschool she was going to would not accept any kids who wore diapers. X wanted to go to the preschool, but not bad enuf to quit wearing her diapers.
her mom was frustrated, but allowed her dd to move at her own pace, and of course eventually she was ready when everyone stopped making such a big deal about it. imo there was nothing "wrong" with the parents or the child. each family has their individual components that make us what we are, for better or worse. and we all do things differently, and at dif speeds.
my dd's diapers were sold by the time she was two- night time diapers and everything. we always had a potty out, and she was just the kind of kid that took well to using it from an early age, and was able to hold her bladder for long periods of time. we also did a lot of naked time. i agree that that factor may be a really large component to successuflly EC'ing. and , fwiw, IMO , if you don't start this from an early age, EC'ing at 18 might not provide as successful results, bc by that age they have "accepted" diapers as the norm rather then prefering to be dry. ok, i don't know if i was able to communicate that well, but my point is, the earlier the better, imo.
she has had accidents here and there, but i certainly don't think it was bc i "forced"
her to potty learn at an early age.
fwiw, this child seems to go to the bathroom less at night then i do.
but she still wakes up occassionally, and i take her, and then all is well.
one time she went by her self- i walked in and witnessed it all , totally dumbounded. but usually she cries out in her sleep and it takes her a while to realize that the problem is that she is uncomfortable bc she has to pee!
is this how it is for some of your kids?
ok, back to unpacking boxes and trying to maintain sanity on serious sleep deprivation from this week's chaos.