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post #21 of 192
its amazing isnt it..

elwynn haeven and samaya were playing in this hot tub kinda thingy that my mom had just bought and set up days before (its a blow up kinda one but has jets and everything).. and they were all splashing around and laughing and we (jazanna and her momma and i with ngaio) were right there but all talking and drinking beer.. and then all of a sudden samaya walks out with an empty bottle of baby oil (used becuase the lake has duck itch. YUCK) and she had emptied the whole thing into the water.. along with rocks and dirt and toys and pretty much anything else that wasnt nailed down... i wasnt happy.. but i can laugh about it now. hopefully its not broken for good..it was making a noise it wasnt makin before but other than draining it and washing it out i didnt know how to "fix " it..
post #22 of 192
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Originally Posted by MamaFern
its amazing isnt it..

elwynn haeven and samaya were playing in this hot tub kinda thingy that my mom had just bought and set up days before (its a blow up kinda one but has jets and everything).. and they were all splashing around and laughing and we (jazanna and her momma and i with ngaio) were right there but all talking and drinking beer.. and then all of a sudden samaya walks out with an empty bottle of baby oil (used becuase the lake has duck itch. YUCK) and she had emptied the whole thing into the water.. along with rocks and dirt and toys and pretty much anything else that wasnt nailed down... i wasnt happy.. but i can laugh about it now. hopefully its not broken for good..it was making a noise it wasnt makin before but other than draining it and washing it out i didnt know how to "fix " it..
that's my grrls! : If elwynn was all alone, he would be drawing quietly, or cleaning up his toys or something intirely not-3, right fern?

oh well, it will make for good laughs when they are 25.
post #23 of 192
My DS will be 3 1/2 in 2 weeks. There is a lot of whining and begging going on lately. Spitting...ewww, I hate it. My 10 month old DD loves to play with him, and is so innocent. I was doing something as they played and when I heard spitting I looked. My baby girl's face was covered in spit and she still had her usual sweet smile on her face. They play together surprisingly well, but Jakob can just been mean sometimes. I have to be close by watching and/or listening. :
post #24 of 192
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Originally Posted by majazama
that's my grrls! : If elwynn was all alone, he would be drawing quietly, or cleaning up his toys or something intirely not-3, right fern?

oh well, it will make for good laughs when they are 25.
i love your girls.. no matter if they are hellraisers (meant in the nicest possible way!!!)

and elwynn does get into trouble.. but not usually alone.. no.


on other news... like half of my DDC from ngaio are pregnant again!!i cant even imagine having another baby already and i still havnt seen AF.. so im FREAKING OUT. im Not ready to have another baby..if ever and ak. its scary.. so i think im booking an appt for an IUD ths week.
post #25 of 192
How old is Ngaio again?
post #26 of 192
she is 8 months old! and almost walking. its crazy and scary.
post #27 of 192
Good to hear from you again, Fern.

Zachary doesn't spit, but he does plenty of other annoying things. He's just been so argumentative and defiant lately. I am trying to explain to him that I say "NO" to keep him safe, not to be mean. He just acts like I'm trying to make his life miserable or something. And when he acts up Julianna gets brave and her attitude is AWFUL. She whines, throws herself on the floor, cries about everything... It's great!

I'm tired, so I better be off to bed. Sleep tight, mamas... And welcome newcomers.
post #28 of 192
BooBah walked at nine months; she hasn't slowed down yet and is quite the daredevil. Good luck with that!

I was definately pregnant by the time BeanBean was 8 months old. I was also actively avoiding by then with BooBah. In fact, Bella is 4 months old and I got my period two weeks ago. : I'm so amazed when people manage to not have cycles for a whole year after having a baby.
post #29 of 192
i kind of assumed i would get it back at about 7 months PP because thats when it happened with elwynn.. but i now realise that nothing is the same. nothing at all between babies and pregnancy and all of that.. every time is totally new and different.

how is having 3?
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post #31 of 192
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how is having 3?
Great fun and completely insane. : BeanBean is very wild, even when he's not; BooBah is a total daredevil, always seeking out new experiences, and Bella is far and away the highest needs baby I've had yet (though still nothing like "high needs"). When I think about a fourth, I feel like I must be completely out of my skull.
post #32 of 192
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post #33 of 192
thats just it though.. its like.. having 2 is insane for me but i love them sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much and most moments in most days are bliss because of them.. so i know that even if i did have another babe it might be crazy but we would all be happy too..
post #34 of 192
for me, 3 is different cos there can be two children against one. but it also means there is a choice of who to interact with among them. of course, generally i have three strong personalities bossing me and dh. we are already outnumbered. probably the hardest is that the older kids pass on bad habits and with my short spacing, and issues are massively amplified, like having three spitters instead of one and the toughness of simple sharing and my reluctance to buy three of everything and anything. they also have a hard time understanding and respecting each others age, because their abilities are wildly different.

i still have the feeling that for most people, any more at this point is not really a big deal in comparison to the shift of having first or second child. at 3 kids, i could start to feel the dividing line between children and adults rather than them being little buddies. it has deferred some of that overriding need for my constant presence - like i can make ruby take a nap and the boys can respect us being behind a door for the most part. of course some of that is age. there are so many things about mothering ruby that is "gelled" cos i have so much more confidence as a mamma, my body is more calm and trained to the babycare. so i have assumed that a 4th would be okay to integrate. but then i'm not used to having a baby around anymore. sometimes i think i want a 4th just because i want a different daughter to compare. all 3 have asked me lately about having a baby. if had a baby now, i could actually somewhat trust the kids to be helpful or at least have a real understanding of my position, which is completely different from how it was with any baby before.

i told dh not too long ago, that if the tabloids showed all the celebrities having 4th babies, i was going to scream.
really though, i feel less inclined towards expanding more than ever. i actually have a smattering of independence now, like this late night computer time without anyone usually needing me for a few hours. it would be different if our home was a haven and our finances were smoother. i dunno - i'm poking myself here but i'm feeling a little sick, so kitchen clean is a tough enough goal.

lately i have no tolerance for ruby's pleading and screaming, cos i feel like all the boys have made it that way. i can always ask her and get her to rephrase the question and modulate her voice and vibe, but she is now in such a habit of acting like a terror. that i'm having my own tantrum back doesn't help.
post #35 of 192
We have decided to put our house up for sale. We need another bedroom for obvious reasons . Actually, we could use 6 bedrooms so no one has to share but that's not in our price range, so we'll settle for a 4 bedroom house. I have found some semi-good deals, and luckily we can make some good money off the sale of this house so it should all work out nicely. What a horrible, hectic, PITA task I have heaped upon myself! But it should be an adventure, or so I keep telling myself.

My dumb ass sister is pregnant!!! My mom has custody of her son and my sister decides to have another one... Smart girl. I always thought it'd be cool to be pregnant with someone close to me, but I didn't exactly expect these circumstances. I joked with my mom that she and I can have our baby showers together (since my mom may end up with custody of the new baby as well). She didn't think it was funny in the least, but I got a good laugh out of the thought of my mom (52) and my dad (58) starting over again to raise my sister's kids!!! They were all set on going to Mexico and enjoying their retirement years soon, and now they have to rethink everything. Hopefully my sister and BIL will get their sh*t together and get their son back, and pass all the drug tests so they can keep the new one... I hope hope hope they can do it.

As for me, I am about to lose my patience with Miss Julianna. All of a sudden she is crying about everything. It is so annoying. It's like she has lost all ability to speak and immediately reverts to crying. I would like a nice vacation now, please. :
post #36 of 192
For me, the change of going from one child to two was harder than from two to three and beyond. It takes me about six weeks to get into a new groove. My kids are 5.5, 3.5, 2.5, and 18 mos. The only one we planned to conceive was DS, 3.5. We did know we wanted four kids, but did not expect them so close together. The nine months of pregnancy was enough time for me to mull it over. I would not change how things happened. Sure, it does have it's challenges (I think it would be easier in some ways to have triplets...each phase lasts a looooooonnnnnngggggg time), but my kids are really close. I look forward to how it will be in the years to come, though I do dread the teenage years...we will have four teenagers at once, three of which will be boys. I cannot fathom what our grocery bill will be, !
post #37 of 192
Any good sources for child development information for this age? Also, when do they start developing the capacity for empathy? My ds seems to have none.
post #38 of 192
Most kids this age should display empathy but it should definitely show by 4 or 5.
Doesn't help much, but I saw a developmental book for preschool age children at Barnes & Noble...but I don't remember the name of it.
post #39 of 192
Emmama-- Our second was planned, too. We're hoping to wait a bit before we have #4.

Empathy-- BeanBean is very empathic... I thought kids were supposed to learn that before three?
post #40 of 192
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
Empathy-- I thought kids were supposed to learn that before three?
Many DO...but, like walking, it can vary. There is an average age period where a child usually learns empathy but it really does vary.
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