August 3 1/2 YO tribe - Page 3

[abranger]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

I'm so amazed when people manage to not have cycles for a whole year after having a baby.

Rynna- I didn't get mine until GA was 15 months old!!!!!

I am totally amazed at people getting pregnant so soon after delivering because a- sex was the LAST thing I was interested in and b- i didn't get my period back for such a long time

[Daffodil]

I didn't get AF back until a week or so before Lindy turned 2! But I'm over 40, and that probably had something to do with it. There was an MDC thread a while back where someone asked everyone to post their age and how long it took them to get AF back, and then she did the statistics and found a correlation between age and length of time without cycles.

[abranger]

Originally Posted by Daffodil

I didn't get AF back until a week or so before Lindy turned 2! But I'm over 40, and that probably had something to do with it. There was an MDC thread a while back where someone asked everyone to post their age and how long it took them to get AF back, and then she did the statistics and found a correlation between age and length of time without cycles.

Makes sence I wil be 40 in a few weeks

[majazama]

hey yall! I'm still on "vacation", but wanted to say HI!

I grew up with just one brother, and I always wished I had more siblings because A; with more than two of you, you can play games together like hide and seek, or tag and B; more options for who to hang out with on that day (I always wished I had a sister too). those were my reasons then.

I want to have more kids too, but only once these two I have are a lot more responsible! They will be great, as big sisters, because they are girls who love their dollies now. I was like that too as a kid, and I looooooooooved babies, the real kind. I think once sa sa is 4-5, I'll consider another baby, but you know how accidents happen, so who knows.

[saritasmile]

I didn't get my period until Razi was 15 mo as well, i was 25 then. we'll see what happens this time. It's nice to not have to worry about dealing w/ bleeding but it's also nice to know where your body stands, not some guessing game...like, am I gonna ovulate this time. I'm not going to have anymore tho, so I'm thinking of ways to make sure of that. Not sure what to do, as I don't really like messing w/ my body in that way. I have nothing against anyone who has more than 2, I just can't handle the morning sickness again...even today, at 28ish weeks I've had a touchy morning. I'm so over throwing up and I know I'm in for it during labor too. I do love my big ol' belly tho!

[**guest**]

I think i got my period after 3 months...but I can't really remember. heh.

[tea olive]

empathy...
ruby can defer her needs sometimes seeing that something else needs to happen. clay notices but is generally struggling along as middle child. now he will sometimes go help screaming ruby. reed just told me two weeks ago, "you know, i used to think that i was the only real person, and everyone was fake". he can finally see what other people are doing, but still has a had time deferring, and really doesn't pay enough attention to details or care to be useful and generally reacts to high emotions by being a monkey or getting angry. but then he is the odder one. it just depends on the kid, and maybe genetics. i don't know if it is exactly empathy that is being asked about ..... i think to imagine what it is like to be someone else without prompting involves a greater maturity of age. at 3 almost four, they are feeling out in more depth how they are not part of mom. and it is one thing for them to notice someone else's feelings, another to behave and react appropriately dependably.


leah, i'm excited abt you finding a house. today i finally started setting up beds in our other bedroom and moved computers around. dunno if they will sleep in them, but at least they will have the areas to claim.

i got af after 3 months with reed and exclusively nursed til he was 15 months. with both clay and ruby af came after a year. i think it had to do with total slinging and unfettered at night, for me. i think that age does have a correlation, as well as body fat.

i'm not getting notified, but i guess i'm a thread stopper anyway.

[tea olive]

when i was talking abt bodyfat, i meant me my fat. i've known a few ladies, the ones that lose weight with nursing (?????) that would not get their period and be desperate for it for over two years.

when i had reed i liked penelope leach's baby to 5 book. it is not as age specific for these years but i liked her detailed commonsense perspective. there are tons more books now though....baby making sure has changed in the past 8 years.

emily, where has your dh been? and six weeks to recover? i find that staggering and magnificent.

and leah, i'm truly vexed by your sister being pg. and ruby is super cry and my shadow lately as well......

[saritasmile]

casina, I don't think you are a thread stopper. for me anyway, sometimes I read your posts and sit there for a bit, absorbing all you've said. then I ususally get distracted by raz. lol

Leah, this morning I dreamed I came to visit you. It was *crazy* w/ all of the kids (we both already had ours!) and I was carrying Kaylee around and kept forgetting about her tube and feeling bad about pulling on it. that's all i remember. I'm excited to see you next month. hugs to you (and your parents) about your sister.

[tea olive]

here i am again, the pointy thread slayer.
today, three was way too many kids. i acted lousy in reaction. repeatedly. i called a friend and asked her if i was kidding myself about doing all this. i threatened putting them in school on thursday. now, i'm thinking if tomorrow seems to be more of the same, i need to get the earplugs.

then i watched ruby finesse me again. we got a plastic volcano with packets from the thrift store yesterday for reed. she begged and pleaded for me to do it. i roared no cos i was cutting raw chicken and making cacciatore for whiny hungry people. then she asked dh and he said no way and fell asleep promptly. she screamed at me over and over "do the volcano now!" and i ignored her. she screams at me to read the instructions. after this five minutes of screeching she went to the boys who were busy watching a new movie and said in the most pleasant voice, "mom says we're doing the volcano now". they stop the movie. reed says, "really?" she says, "we can do it now but dad is asleep". clay says "i want to do something what part is mine". etc etc. reed comes in the kitchen and sees i'm busy, and asks, "are we doing it now?" i roar again, "NO". then the boys start on "but ruby said it was time, when will you be ready, etc etc and we stopped our movie". so now they are all three worked up. i leave the kitchen and go outside while they get mad at each other cos i am too irritated and funky to do any good beside say mean things. ruby comes and finds me and is crying, "mamma, reed hit me". so i petulantly tell her she started it by riling them up and interrupting them when they were settled (remember, i am acting like a baby all day as well) and then i tell her to calm down. i hear dh yell in his sleep for the boys to be quiet cos they are arguing about the durn volcano. ruby stops her terrible voices enough to say, "let's do the volcano, please!". and I AGREE, i just want it over with and i'm tired of fighting. and now she is my ruby instantly. and it is fun. it is fine. she bosses me how to mix the packets. i realize writing this that she may have even lied/told a story about reed hurting her. yes, there were those fake tears again. clearly, i am going to have to impose a schedule and give her a list of fifty little chores.

and this is a simpler story i just don't know how to relate how she twists us all around and i am the most resistant to her wiles and generally advise the boys to avoid her lately and she screeches so much that the boys find it great fun to get it going. she even had three different walmart cashiers telling her, "looks like you are not getting anything" with her hollering about a gumball or a drink and she does not cease. often when i say no she will say "fine, i'll get it" and run off.

today she played in the 9 ft end of the pool at the ymca. that's where the boys hang out and she got in because that's where the noodles are kept and she walks over there often. trying different floaties and no floaties and riding a noodle like a horse with no hands holding on. i won't help her because i don't want her there so there she is holding onto the ladder with one arm and one leg extended to get in the middle of the noodle and shifting her balance. i made the mistake of going over there in the first place instead of standing my ground at 3 ft. i know it is not any different for her than being in four feet except my own anxiety. yes, she was very attuned to her limits. clay already holds his breath and dives to the bottom longer than i am comfortable with. i irrationally do not want her or any of them to be afraid of water because of me (i didn't learn to swim until 12) so i don't feel i have a good reason to forcibly take her out when she was already in so i tell myself i will not get in and encourage them to get comfortable. i'm just sitting on the side, hovering on bored and anxious. finally i had to brave the wrath of the lifeguard and get out and walk to the other end of the pool, looking like i could care less and had more interesting things to do, and after a few minutes she finally decides to see what i'm doing. whew!

oh, i didn't even get to how some of my groceries got ruined right in the parking lot. waah.

[DecemberSun]

Sounds like one of my days, casina.

Sarita, I actually dreamt of you the other night too! I dreamt that you guys lived on Green Bluff and I came over to see you and Tavis get married! I walked right into your house and made myself a bagel, lol... Dreams are so funky!

[saritasmile]

Originally Posted by DecemberSun

Sounds like one of my days, casina.

Sarita, I actually dreamt of you the other night too! I dreamt that you guys lived on Green Bluff and I came over to see you and Tavis get married! I walked right into your house and made myself a bagel, lol... Dreams are so funky!

Ya, dreams are funky. Especially that one cuz tavis and I will probably never ever get married, lol. not that we don't love eachother but a girl named sasha pretty much ruined that for me. hey tho, we could definetly see eachother on Green Bluff soon tho!!

[DecemberSun]

MMM, Green Bluff fruit...

Oh my gosh, my brother keeps calling me and telling me when stuff gets ripe up there, it makes me so jealous. He has cherry, apple, and plum trees, and strawberry plants. I can't wait for my kids to taste REAL fruit, KWIM? I hope we can catch the end of the huckleberries up on the mountain while I'm there!

[saritasmile]

ya it kind of a bummer we live on the south hill now. not as close to all that good stuff. i know what you mean about 'real' fruit. we have tomatos growing in our garden and they are so good, they taste nothing like a store bought one!

[Unreal]

Tea Olive--I think we should get Ruby and Eoin together and see what happens

there are days (weeks? months?) I wonder if I can get myself put away in a padded room....
where there are no screaming, whining, hitting, biting, spazzing-out kids

Eoin does this thing now where when you tell him no, he juts out his jaw and put his nose up in the air " Then I won't do __________."
That is level one resistance, but lets you know you are about to be in for a fight if you continue.

I just find it hilarious when you tell him no more TV, 'cause its bedtime, and he does that saying "Then I won't nursey"
Oh? Really? Okay by me!!! ( I reaaaallllllly need him to wean)

We have so much of our household up on the top of our 6ft bookshelves....
anything breakable, everything remotely weapon-like (especially the umbrellas), anything that can injure someone if thrown, toys that have been taken away, anything we don't want ripped....
*sigh*

its so funny how each kid is so different....

[tea olive]

i'm laughing, unreal. it is REAL! how many and how old are your kids? the no nursey threat is great.

my kids have pretty much broken and ruined everything. i have a friend who had a 7yr when she had her next child and was shaking her head at me. now her 2nd is mr destructo as well, and i tell her at least he is a quiet one.

my kids have broken half my windows including one in the van. do i win something?

i want some green bluff fruit.

[saritasmile]

Originally Posted by tea olive

i want some green bluff fruit.

can I mail that kind of thing?

[Unreal]

We have a soon to be 11 year old...a 3 year old...and a nearly 4 month old

My oldest never pushed any boundaries--never even knew there were any!

Eoin however seems to live for destroying boundaries.

I was always one for quoting "You have to know how to pick your battles"
but Eoin makes Everything into a battle.

Little one seems much more mellow

[tea olive]

i'm coming to find that they are all intense, and it's not just due to learning from the oldest. my middle was the baby that never cried for over the first year of his life and slept fairly easily and was adaptable. no longer - he has much to do with the crazy dynamics now and i keep hoping it is partially due to his age. the real kicking question is how much i parented them to be this way. are there intense genes? are there intense couplings resulting in calm easygoing children?

[joshsmom]

i'm a little late in august but can i join? my little guy josh is 3 1/2 now- he'll be 4 in january :