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post #41 of 111
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Is anyone else feeling more stress from daily life stuff than usual? I'm not the type to get stressed out long term, but have been having problems for the past few weeks. Hormones? Sleepiness? Changing of priorities? Who knows...

Hope everyone is doing well.
post #42 of 111
Me Me Me!

You wouldn't believe how stressed I'm feeling right now. Yes, it's mostly home and extended family stuff, but it just all seems so overwhelming...

I told my dh that I think I just need some *me* time sometime this week. Maybe go to the bookstore or coffee shop and sit in the quiet for awhile. Don't know if it will help, but I could try!
post #43 of 111
Mamapenelope I am sending you hugs - sometimes when I was nursing my son in the early morning and I was quietly crying (it hurt so much), I can remember being, at the same time, so happy that we had that connection. It is hard. Nursing when you are pregnant can really hurt. One of my friends had most of her nursing-while-pregnant-pain go away when she was 20 weeks... so I don't know, hopefully it will go away soon for you.

A few people have mentioned having a stuffy nose and allergies ... with my son I had a stuffy nose and asthma-like shortness of breath for the whole pregnancy. It is supposed to be related to the increased amount of blood in the body.

Hugs to all

Emma
post #44 of 111
Just came back from my ultrasound... no clue if its a boy or a girl... I don't think the tech looked for us even. She wasn't all that nice to us, not rude either, but I'd hope for a nice friendly tech! We did get to see that the baby looks fine (as far as we can tell cuz the techs can't really TELL you anything)... got to see the heart beating, thigh bone, head wiggling, and a blurry thumb sucking (awww!). It was really odd though, she was doing the ultrasound right up at the start of my ribs... my uterus shouldn't be that high yet (I'm 16 weeks today) :

And hopefully this will re-confirm *my* dates, all the measurements were coming out 16 weeks and a couple of days, not almost 18 weeks like my period dates the pregnancy...

The boring, bland, not-rude but not-nice tech and the jabby nurse who took my blood all bland and blah makes me VERY happy that I'm going to be seeing midwives!! Late this month, yeah!!

Oh yeah and my Dh is very annoyed we didn't find out the sex... well more annoyed because it didn't look like she even *tried* to find out... and I'm kinda irritated she didn't look for us, but I dunno, I'm not as upset about the whole situation as I thought I would be... maybe it will come later, but right now I'm ok with it... just wish neutral baby clothes weren't all yellow and green (I don't like those colors!)... Oh well... the baby looks healthy and thats the important part!
post #45 of 111
I had my first OB appt yesterday. I managed to talk my way out of a pap, and out of the other state-required cultures because I brought my records on the former (done last Sept) and they'd already done the latter at the emergency room when I went in for spotting in February.

That definitely made my day, and on top of that my OB is female and nice. About the only thing that bugs me is that she jumped on my hypothyroidism like crazy, made me "high risk" (which means that they'll schedule me for appts every 2 weeks instead of every 4). Grrr. I have to go in and get stuck for a blood draw twice as often as I expected.

As long as my levels stay within the normal range, I'm not going to worry, but it will really bug me if she starts fiddling with my hormone supplement dosage. I've been fine so far, no sign of any symptoms that it's out of whack, and thyroid affects all sorts of body systems. I don't anticipate that it'll be a problem when I move to transfer to a midwife.

The high point of the appt was DH getting to hear the heartbeat, since he'll be in another state when I go in for a sonogram. (the doc said the magic words, "it could be twins" and convinced me to get one when I said I didn't want to. This is a much greater likelihood, given my family tree, than placenta previa, the other possibility she brought up (not by name, assuming I don't understand medical terminology I guess).

I definitely see firsthand now how OB's look insistently for something to be wrong!
post #46 of 111
Ravin, I totally agree with you on the fact that OBs look for something to make you high risk. I swear that bothers me more than anything else.

I'm high risk, but don't have biweekly appointments. I wonder why that is? I'm glad though, I would rather not be driving all the way I have to to get to his office more than necessary!

Keep us updated on the possible twin situation!
post #47 of 111
My OB hasn't said I'm high risk, but I noticed that I had some "risk" factors in that I'm 36 and overweight. I was afraid they might try to move me to the high risk category. The price sheet the nurse gave me shows that they charge more for high risk pregnancies, so I figured they might try to do that just because they could. I'd be upset if I had to go biweekly. I don't see the point in going monthly at this point. I'm annoyed because they make me pay the co-pay every visit, and with my first pregnancy I only paid it the first visit and every other time was free. I had better health insurance the first time around, though.
post #48 of 111
That's one thing that I'm really grateful for, regarding pregnancy and birth anyway, with our insurance. It was a $10 copay for the very first visit and that's it! Everything else is covered at 100% now... Well, except ultrasounds since they are at a different facility, but those are $10 each, and I've thus far only had to have one. I will probably have another at around 20 weeks, and that will determine if I have to see a perinatologist for the remainder of the pregnancy.
post #49 of 111
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Just checking in...
I think I felt movements yesterday--I'm 14 weeks with #2. Wonder if it was the real thing? I haven't felt it since though, so maybe not...
Today this little boy at ds's preschool asked me if my babies had come yet. I really don't think he knows i'm pregnant, and I don't really look it yet--although my top did look maternity-ish. He's an only child though--anyway, I was pretty amazed!
post #50 of 111
Mamley - you probably did feel movement...I felt movement at 13+ weeks with #2 and around the same time with this baby. I think with subsequent babies, the muscles just aren't as firm, so you feel things earlier than usual.

That's funny about the little boy at preschool. I had a similar experience at work right after I found out I was pregnant. I had only known myself for a few days, so I definitely wasn't showing or anything, and a 7 year old little girl asked me when I was going to have my baby!

I told her I wasn't having a baby (little white lie, I figured!), but how weird is that? And the things is, her mom had previously told me that this little girl is psychic about things....I've never really believed in that kind of thing, but it was odd, I have to admit...
post #51 of 111
my belly is really popping out too, BUT...

someone, please give me permission to live the next 1-2 months of my life in my yoga pants or overalls? i am in clothing pergatory! most of my pre-pg clothes don't fit worth a darn...but maternity clothes look HUGE on me. i have a few things that i bought big after dd was born, so i'm wearing that limited wardrobe for the time being, intermingled with a few uncomfortable pre-pg items, and a few volumous maternity items. i went to old navy today, tried on a size M maternity pants. they bagged out in the front AND in the back. i also tried on a size 12 pair of baggy linen pants from the 'normal' section. they barely fit.

and don't even get my STARTED on my undies! hee hee hee. actually, i L*O*V*E these very sheer, jockey briefs that i actually got this summer. they are stretchy enough to still be comfortable, and seem like they will be for quite a while. all my other undies don't seem to want to stay where they are supposed to in all respects.

see, i don't post for days, and then all i do is complain!
post #52 of 111
You have permission from me mamarsupial! I just went out today to the Motherhood store in my area to get some bras that fit me (my other ones just aren't cutting it) and while I was there ended up buying some maternity jeans and a couple of shirts... my regular jeans aren't comfy anymore, and I LIVE in jeans... Its so weird, the maternity ones fit PERFECTLY (with a drawstring for the stretchy fabric part), I've never had pants fit this well before! :LOL And the shirts are adorable! Aren't I supposed to hate matenity clothing? Esp since I'm a bigger girl and the selection is limited? But I LOVE these clothes (minus the big granny bras! I miss my wonderbras and satin half cups!) and they were so reasonably priced (compared to Lane Byrant)... just totally not what I expected. Oh yeah and all the stuff is a size smaller than I normally wear! How cool is that? (Its just cuz they run large, but it makes me feel good!) And its still gonna be perfect size wise when I'm waaaay big. Now I think I'll have to go back when its closer to summertime to get shorts and tanks to wear.
post #53 of 111
Hi everyone!

It's been a little while since I've posted too. The day before yesterday I woke up with a belly! I put on my favorite khaki pants and boy they were tight. My 11-year-old sister-in-law saw me and exclaimed: Wow! I see it! She's the only one besides me and dh, though. My father and mother-in-law don't see it. Neither does my 10-year-old brother-in-law or my 20-year-old brother-in-law. I bet my mom would! I'm going to e-mail her a picture. I'm sure she can tell because she knows me well. I'm excited.

Oh, I sympathize with those of you who've had migraines because so far I've had one (hopefully never again!), for the first time in my life, and it was AWFUL. Just AWFUL. I'm not even used to getting headaches so this hit me like a semi-truck. Light and sound bothered me.. the pounding was incessant. I was bawling! I pray for those of you who get it all the time and genuinely feel sorry for you. My midwife even told me: Honey I hope you don't get it again. Unfortunately these are quite common during the 2nd trimester. At least she told me I could take up to 200 mcg of Tylenol. I tried to hold out that night but if I get it again I'll run to the medicine cabinet!

Good luck to all of you! I'm also in the in-between stage, living in sweatpants at the moment

Best!
post #54 of 111
I give you permission, too, Mamarsupial. I've been wearing maternity pants and T-shirts that hang down to cover them. I haven't worn any maternity tops yet, though. I just went through the hand-me-downs I got from my best friend and eliminated stuff that I can't picture myself wearing. She's way more into pink than I'll ever be, lol, and some of the stuff she'd gotten as handmedowns herself were just hideous.

Meanwhile, my back is REALLY sore because I did WAY too much bending over and lifting the past couple of days, packing to move. And I left all the work at our house to my husband, just cleaned my own stuff out of my mother's shed. some of it had been there since high school!

I think the main reasons my OB put me "high risk" is because she wanted to check my thyroid biweekly, and you have to be high risk at that clinic to get biweekly appointments. Also, she's a resident, so probably operated from a "better safe than sorry" mode. I know she went and checked with her supervisor before letting me get away without a pap. I'm just going to use self defense by making sure she doesn't muck with my medication levels. The Navy docs did that and gave me all sorts of non-pregnant problems, I don't want those while pg.
post #55 of 111
I'll post a little update. Other than being sick, I've been doing pretty well. I've been eating well and not overeating and feeling pretty positive even though I missed over a week of exercising due to illness. Then as soon as I seemed to recover from the cold/flu like thing I had, I started doing that mindless eating, and I'm feeling depressed. I'm trying to figure out if the same thing that causes the depression is what makes me want to eat, or if the bad eating is what causes the depression. My sister says that she thinks it is an attempt to self medicate, like you aren't even consciously aware of it, but there is some impulse to eat that is related to the depression. Ugh, I just don't know. I've been eating more sugar than normal, so maybe that is causing depression. Today I exercised and that made me feel better, but I didn't exercise Friday or Saturday and Saturday was my real lowpoint. Come to think of it, last Saturday was a real lowpoint too. Maybe it is just the weekend messing me up.

I'm also a little down because I've been reading childbirth books, and I am getting to the point where I really don't want to go to the hospital at all, but my husband is so out of tune with my feelings. Last week he got upset when I said I'm seriously going to try and do this without the medical interventions I had last time. He thinks that by not getting the epidural, I just want to put myself in great pain for no good reason, and I think he thinks I'm trying to be some sort of martyr. He got upset when I said I didn't want an epidural this time. Last time I said the same thing, but he said that I shouldn't rule it out and feel like a failure if I needed it. By the end of my pregnancy, he said that if I didn't get epidural, he would. And he said he wished I could check into the hospital for the last month of pregnancy because it would make him feel safer. : We are so totally at odds in the birthing thing, but he has no understanding because he won't read the books I read. He thinks that I'm on message boards like this one and getting indoctrinated or something, and that I only see one side of things. Goodness, he is so completely one-sided and doesn't even realize it. I am feeling upset because of this, like how am I supposed to go through labor and birth with this guy. I feel like telling him he can just take our daughter and entertain her while I'm in labor, and he doesn't have to be there for the actual birth part.
post #56 of 111
Oh, Amy - I'm sorry your dh is having a difficult time understanding your wish for a natural birth. I can completely understand your frustration, but could it be because he's having a hard time dealing with the thought of you in all that pain?

I know a lot of husbands feel that way (not mine, of course - he was just fascinated by the whole process of birth, so he didnt' worry too much about my pain! ), and that may be what is going on for your dh.

Maybe you could do a search on Google or something and give your dh some of the research that tells the affects of pain medication drugs on the unborn child? I always find it strange that we avoid taking paracetamol during pregnancy, but look at people like they have two heads when they want to avoid narcotics during labour. :

Hang in there.
post #57 of 111
Things are wonderful this morning!! My boys slept until 7am They are usually up at 5:30a with Daddy. I got up before them and had 45 minutes to do stuff without them awake. Things go so much quicker and quieter. It was very nice.

Other than that things seem ok. I try to pay attention to movement of the baby at night before I go to sleep but I do not feel anything noticible. I'm just about 16wks and this is #3 so I do not know. I do get tight sometimes and that makes it difficult to get up or walk, mayby not difficult but uncomfortable.

We are predicted to have a major snow storm today here in CT. They say we could get 6-12 inches before the day is out. Now, it's April, this is not right! : We'll see nothing yet.

I hope that all are well and rested.
post #58 of 111
thanks for the permission gals! hee hee.

amywillo - i'm birthing at a hospital/birth center, but know lots of great moms who birthed at home. my suggestion is to interview some homebirth midwives with dh. he can ask questions, hear about her experiences (which are usually quite extensive), etc. i have heard of papas who, once they actually meet a traditional midwife, feel much more comfortable with the idea. if he really doesn't want to do it, i know one mom who hired her homebirth midwife as her doula (she had planned a homebirth, but ended up with complications that prevented it from happening). she said it REALLY helped make the hospital experience much better for her. he needs to understand that there are risks and benifits to both, and you two together need to find what feels comfortable for you.
post #59 of 111
Hi Amywillo,
I also wonder if your dh is simply afraid for you. Men like to be able to be in control and they like to fix things (stereotyping I know, but often true). Labor cannot be controled or fixed and that may terrify him. Would you consider having a doula or close friend advocate for you in the hospital? That might take the pressure off dh. If you have a doula, it may help to make sure that your husband also has a job. Taking care of your other child and/or taking photographs and or.... something that will keep him occupied and feeling useful. An interview with a midwife is a really great idea. You don't have to go the homebirth route but if he has a positive experience with a midwife he may feel more comfortable with avoiding interventions. Good luck, I'll be thinking of you.
Ruth
post #60 of 111
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Amy--I wish I had some good advice for you about your situation with dh. What a horrible position to be in. I know that I used to feel the same way he does now about child birth, but it took a lot of reading and talking to women who had been through it before to change my mind. Could you talk to him about the effects of drugs? Would he be weirded out if you told him that you want to feel what it's like to birth your child? Maybe you could tell him about hypnobirthing, and that many women naturally have painless birth naturally by thinking of birth as a natural process, and therefore being about to get themselves in a deep state of relaxation. There are lots of stories online. Then again, I know people who would think hypnobirthing sounded new age-y and ridiculous. When I'm trying to get my husband to agree with me about something, I introduce concepts a little bit at a time, day by day (or week by week), and talk about things in a conversational tone, rather than a "I want this, why don't you?" way. Am I making sense? I'm feeling really out of it, so hopefully so.

Is anyone else still throwing up? I'm 15 weeks tomorrow, and it doesn't happen every day, but sometimes once a week now, on average. It did this morning and I am feeling really sick--in a non-energetic, I don't want to move kind of way. Maybe I'm dehydrated--I'll try drinking and eating a little more.
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