Originally Posted by magstphil
i do believe that you can 'force' anything on childre, wether that be eating meat, being vegan, your religion, what color you should or should not wear, blah blah blah.
i'm with the mentality that veganism, like religion, is to be taught and lived in the home even enforced but never forced. if you lean your kid's head back and shove a handfull of 'ethics' down their throat they're going to rebell. not always, but more often then not. my girls will be raise knowing three main things in our home. if they choose to follow them i will feel i did my 'job' as mom. if not, then i will feel i have failed but they will still be my children. i will never find an excuse not to be their mother! i really believe that if i force fed any one of these things it would back fire and be taking away their free will. just as if i were to be a steak and pork mom and not let my child explore veggies at all.
so do i think being vegan always means without exception that you're forcing your beliefes? not anymore then getting dressed them every morning is forcing your belifes on your children. but i do believe a fanatical form of veganism where your children know that they won't be your children anymore if they so much as look at a cow and want a taste is forcing.
That is also how I feel. I will love my kids whatever they decide. I hope they value their Religion (no sex until marriage), Education (atleast 4 year degree), staying drug free, not getting arrested, and not eating meat. But, I will not have much say in these things once they are older/teenage. Teens can be pretty sneaky and not get caught. (I do not have any teenage children, but I did work in a psych hospital on a child and adolescent units.) I don't want them to have to hide things from me, for fear of getting in to trouble.
Sure, I can drag them to church every Sunday and holiday no matter how sick they are, and force them to say grace before meat free meals. But then what will happen when they stay over a friends house, and get a taste of "freedom"? Or should I keep them locked in their bedroom until they move out?
My belief is that you have to pick your battles once they get older. If I have to budge on one of these things to maintain a close relationship, it will be the meat free living.
: I am hoping dd will be like me and not like the taste of meat, so it won't be a battle at all. (But I doubt I will be so lucky!)