Here's an update.J's mom has changed his meds again (she's always trying out something different every few months, for the past 3 years).
We'll see how it goes.
J turned 10 yrs old in June.
Nothing much has changed in his behavior.
His counselor says he hasn't gotten worse, nor better, he is just more manipulative about it.
J's mom starting fostering girls in July (for the money).
As of June 14, 2007, J began a one month stay in a residential mental health treatment center.
J says he feels abandoned, neglected, forgotten about by his mother.
J is now diagnosed as bipolar.
So let's see.
He has PTSD
How many labels can his mom give him?
How many meds can she put him on?
I understand where you are coming from Abi's Mom.
I feel the same way you do in many ways.
I do not feel that I am obligated to love my stepson.
I will never love him like I do my own child(ren).
I do not think this is sad.
He HAS a mother, and a father.
He is not ENTITLED to four parents.
I did not cause the divorce.
I was nowhere around when it occurred.
It is not my job to "fix" it or to make up for the way his parents may fail him,
or the fact that he has no intact family.
I don't think this is cold.
I think this is fair and realistic.
I've been married for 5 years.
My stepson is 11.
It's gotten harder, not easier.
I'm really really dreading the teen years.
This is confusing.
You know, bipolar, depression, and ADHD can all be confused for each other.