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post #21 of 56
Sarah- we lived in a triplex with thin walls, both neighbors were home, no one heard me either
post #22 of 56
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Originally Posted by CryPixie83
Ya mean like how my midwives chastised me for yelling (roaring? ) while they "forced" me into squatting ( I *hate* squatting, it's painful for me). They told me it's ineffective for pushing... well excuse the outta me!

Or how as soon as my dd was born my dh and I began sobbing and they told us to be quiet because we would scare my dd (who, btw was completely calm).

: Like those stories?
Yep, those are the ones.: And the ones that make it so I can't read books like "The Birth Partner" because the whole "take charge routine" makes me want to slap people.

There's a long long list of stuff I'm not going to let myself read after the first trimester when I finally get pregnant.
post #23 of 56
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Originally Posted by angelpie545
But I think it's very unprofessional to tell a laboring mother not to make noise. Birth is noisy. It's kind of sad though, when I went to see my friend at the hospital after she'd given birth, the whole L&D floor was quiet .
Bethany,

post #24 of 56
The thing I see on a Baby Story all the time is doctors saying things like, "No noise. When you scream you lose all your power to push."

Uhhhh...right.
post #25 of 56
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Originally Posted by MsElle07
The thing I see on a Baby Story all the time is doctors saying things like, "No noise. When you scream you lose all your power to push."

Uhhhh...right.
That's pretty much what my midwives were telling me. Reason #4572 why I'm going UC this time
post #26 of 56
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Originally Posted by MsElle07
The thing I see on a Baby Story all the time is doctors saying things like, "No noise. When you scream you lose all your power to push."

Uhhhh...right.
You can tell that Dr never studied Martial Arts.

The Martial arts instructors ALWAYS encourage a Loud yell before an attack to a: set your opponent off balance and B: FOCUS YOUR POWER.

I know, not a very "Peaceful" way of looking at it but the theory is sound.

The Battle Yell helps focus the warrior, We are warriors in a different arena. that's all.

Of course, the other purpose of the battle yell is to unsettle your oponent. Dr is the oponent so mabe he doesn't like feeling "unsettled" *giggle*
post #27 of 56
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Originally Posted by Pandora114
Of course, the other purpose of the battle yell is to unsettle your oponent. Dr is the oponent so mabe he doesn't like feeling "unsettled" *giggle*
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post #28 of 56
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Originally Posted by Pandora114
You can tell that Dr never studied Martial Arts.

The Martial arts instructors ALWAYS encourage a Loud yell before an attack to a: set your opponent off balance and B: FOCUS YOUR POWER.

I know, not a very "Peaceful" way of looking at it but the theory is sound.

The Battle Yell helps focus the warrior, We are warriors in a different arena. that's all.

Of course, the other purpose of the battle yell is to unsettle your oponent. Dr is the oponent so mabe he doesn't like feeling "unsettled" *giggle*
I'd totally forgotten that I was remembering my karate and self-defense training while I yelled during labor. I remembered I thought the nurse was crazy for trying to quiet me but I didn't remember what exactly had been going through my head-- that was it. I was thinking "Has she never at least seen a kung fu movie?"
post #29 of 56
Wtith DD#1, the nurse actually told me if I was moaning I wasn't breathing right.

Next push I mooaned again. It was so totally invonlentary cause then I was a "be a good patient do what they tell you type person.."

As soon as I did, the OB said, You can make more noise then that if you have to. Make all the noise you want. Then DD tore me and I screamed. LOL! I am sure the nurse LOVED that.

I miss that OB.
post #30 of 56
IMO anything they try to tell you along the lines of noise not being good for you - tenses you, un-focuses your power, not breathing right, blah blah blah - is just stuff they make up to manipulate you into doing what makes them comfortable.

In an excruciating posterior labor I was told to scream at a lower pitch because this was somehow better vibrations or something. Whatever. I tried it, but I found it kind of degrading to be trying to filter my natural reactions to fit others' expectations while I was in excruciating pain.
post #31 of 56
I'm liking the Scientologists' attitude more and more, everyone *else* has to try to be quiet and avoid speaking, but the mother can make whatever noises she needs.
post #32 of 56
I've seen that on so many birth shows, really bugs me. They obviously have no idea how natural birth is supposed to work. Maybe it bugs them because it is like making love and its very uncomfortable for the people there. Like watching someone orgasm.

During my transfer with #2 I hit some decibles, poor dh suprised I didn't do damage to his ears (in the car, like a echo chamber). With #3 the louder I moaned the less pain I felt. It was great. Was my shortest labor too...Maybe theres something to that
post #33 of 56
I thought I was the only one whose midwife actually told that to.
I was stunned but in too vulnerable a position to discuss the matter right then. I will be choosing a different midwife next time and discussing at length.
post #34 of 56
I would have been so ticked at my midwives if they told me to be quiet! For my labor it was the opposite, they encouraged me to be as loud as I wanted
post #35 of 56
I would have told my midwives where to get off if they had told me to be quiet. : Fortunately, they responded to my yells by telling me I was doing everything right.
post #36 of 56
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Originally Posted by AdinaL
I would have told my midwives where to get off if they had told me to be quiet. : Fortunately, they responded to my yells by telling me I was doing everything right.
I certainly wish I had told them to shove off... multiple times, for multiple reasons : But, at least now I get my UC
post #37 of 56
I've never birthed before but i'm pregnant. Will be doing homebirth. If I want to scream, grunt, moan walk around naked or anything else i'm going to do it. Whatever makes me feel good is what i'm going to do.
post #38 of 56
lol... if you scream, what are they going to do, kick you out? Let out a good wail for us
post #39 of 56
I didn't scream (high-pitched yelping sort of screaming) in labor, but I was *loud*. REALLY loud. EXTREMELY loud. At one point, I was practically punching the wall around the tub! I tried to focus on what Ina May wrote about keeping the jaw and throat loose and letting the sound come from deep down, not way up in my throat.

After all was said and done, I said something like "I was pretty loud, wasn't I?" The OB said yeah, they heard you down the hall. I started to apologize, but she stopped me, saying that it had been GREAT because they had two moms who were being very quiet and not progressing, and when they heard me and were told it was OK to make that much noise, they loosened up and started moving along!

But I think my hospital experience is sadly the exception, not the rule. I really loved where I birthed and will be back there again with this baby.
post #40 of 56

Doula

I had awful back labor and my doula was coaching me through it... I only screamed once and she said, "You can scream if you want to but it won't help" I hated her for that... but she was right... for me... growling was what helped.
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