Originally Posted by snowbunny
We're dealing with this situation as DS is approaching his first birthday. Along with the invitations I sent a little insert that gave loads of tidbits about where he's at including how much he weighed at birth, how much he weighs now, how many and which words he can say, what he enjoys doing. I mentioned that he enjoys playing with wood and cloth toys as well as books so that I could give friends and family ideas for gifts without telling them what to buy or what not to buy.
If anything is given that is not "approved" we're donating it to charity.
I think this is brilliant! No tacky gift suggestions, just a note about your dc, INCLUDING interests and favorite types of toys!
Mostly our families are great about gifts that *I* think are cool for Ada. Wooden rocking horse, her own tiny umbrella, a wooden pounding bench and hammer, a pair of powerful magnets . . .
My parents and DH's parents were friends before they had kids, were all hippies, and have always been not-commercially inclined. DH was in cloth diapers as a baby, and we were both breastfed, for example. And my mom HATES barbies so I never knew about them!
But friends are a different story. They just think Ada is adorable and want to buy her something and I think that they are sincerely thinking about what will be the most fun for her and either know some other kid who loves this or that loud, obnoxious, plastic toy, or else believe the advertising about how my two year old will love it! But they really pick thoughtfully. It's just with different thoughts than I would use . . .
: You know, kids today like toys that do lots of things and make lots of noises so that's what I will get her.
So, we thank them. What drives me crazy is when they ask later if Ada plays with it. Sometimes the answer is yes (I get Ada's permission before getting rid of any of her belongings), but when it's not, I refuse to lie, and usually end up giving them a run-around that makes me feel like I've lied anyway
: example: Does she like the toy elephant? Oh, Ada loves elephants, so the (UGLY) stuffed elephant was a great idea!
The real problem here is that Ada later decided she loved the (UGLY) stuffed elephant so now I'm not a liar, but I have to tote the thing with us everytime we leave the house!