Originally Posted by meowee
I too think it was wrong for you to threaten to leave your husband in front of your son, whisk him off to another town (when he was already cranky and tired?) and then tell him "you might stay in a hotel that night." If the situation is life or death, LEAVE and don't come back. Otherwise, don't leave, come back, threaten to leave again, all in earshot of your son.
Your husband was just as wrong to call you crazy and threaten you with a custody battle.
If you do get into a custody battle and it comes up that he shoved your son to the ground, and that you remained in the house with your husband, it could well reflect badly on you.
You need to make a decision one way or the other, but don't go back and forth like this. If your husband was burnt out, didn't mean to push so hard (I once pushed my daughter away from me when she was about to dump ice water on my then-newborn, and she fell straight backwards and hit her head-- -- I never meant to make her fall!), you need to discuss this with him calmly and get assurance it will never happen again.
If he continues to refuse to talk about it, or if he exhibits violence again in the future, that is quite serious IMO.