Rabbi criticising nursing as "bad for marriage" (xpost spirituality) - Page 4

[AuntNi]

Haven't read the whole thread yet, but my gf forwarded me the article today. I thought I was going to have a stroke on the spot! Pretty ignorant guy! But I did really like the rebuttal about if dads would help more with the baby, they'd get more lovin'. Although with 8 kids, that ignorant rabbi sounds like he's getting plenty. :

[Arwyn]

Y'know, there are some opinions that are just so outrageously ignorant and misinformed, they're funny.

Or perhaps laughter is just my self-defense mechanism.

[beansavi]

Originally Posted by stormborn

Did he just compare breastfeeding a child to adultery?!? And then say that's not what he was trying to say?:

Must stop reading now

Sorry if someone already said this...

I used to like this guy. But now...I don't know...I feel like he presents himself as an expert on sooooo many things he is unrealistic in his own mind.

He does have like 11 kids, but obviously if he thinks nursing "into the 11th month" is "obsessing", then he has some real fundemental misconceptions about family life.

And to say the woman was an adultress by sin of omission, is fantasy.

It is normal for families with young children to see a wane in sex drive/life. Just like the earth has cycles and seasons, so does a marriage.

PS I was also turned off when I learned he charges $500.00 an hour for counseling services.

[merrick]

I almost puked reading that article. I'm still feeling furious and nauseated. :

[mommaduck]

What to say, what to say...


7 pregnancies...hubby at all but two...nursed all my children. Sex is NOT a problem. Okay, so *I'm not the one into it right away...hubby still gets it and we work towards better. Like a pp said...marriage ebbs and flows. In fact, my hubby finds me MORE attractive after so many children than I did before (he admitted such...I was a perky little stick before). Most men I've known find childbirth and breastfeeding awesome. That child is THEIRS! They WANT the best for their child. AND they still get theirs also. I do have a problem with a woman who flat out cuts off her husband...but those are other issues that they apparently need to work through. And any man who is turned off by his wife or cuts off his wife...also has issues.

God made men the way they are...and God made women the way they are. They COMPLEMENT eachother! Sex is natural, childbirth is natural, breastfeeding is natural. It is ALL complementary. The negatives are other side issues and the breasts are getting the blame.

[IAMINSANE]

So I guess he is saying that American men are like babies because they are obsessed with boobs and us denying them the boob will cause our marriages to fall apart. I think he needs to give men a little more credit or tell them to GROW UP.

[Mylittlevowels]

Originally Posted by IAMINSANE

So I guess he is saying that American men are like babies because they are obsessed with boobs and us denying them the boob will cause our marriages to fall apart. I think he needs to give men a little more credit or tell them to GROW UP.

I think alot of men in America are obsessed with boobs because they never got any as babies
This guy is obsessed with sex. All of his books are about sex, he seriously thinks it's the most important part of a marriage : So, in other words, it's all about me, me, me, the wife and child, it's all about my "needs".

[firstkid4me]

Originally Posted by Mylittlevowels

I think alot of men in America are obsessed with boobs because they never got any as babies
This guy is obsessed with sex. All of his books are about sex, he seriously thinks it's the most important part of a marriage : So, in other words, it's all about me, me, me, the wife and child, it's all about my "needs".

Sounds like he needs to learn the five finger shuffle.

[GalateaDunkel]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

I guess he missed the part of the Talmud where it says women are obligated to BF for a minimum of 2 years.

I hope all you MDCers realize that MOST Orthodox rabbis have more sense than this man!

Yes, I think it pretty much goes without saying that any so-called clergyman whose primary work consists of promoting himself as a media figure is not the real deal (or at least it should go without saying...thinking sadly of all the people who insist on judging Christianity by James Dobson Jerry Falwell etc...); they do not have a true pastoral role in their home community and thus lack accountability for the way they present (or misrepresent) their tradition.

[Gendenwitha]

Originally Posted by beansavi

And to say the woman was an adultress by sin of omission, is fantasy.

"They say that infidelity is just a symptom that something else is wrong"

"Oh yeah? Well that symptom is f@#$%ing my wife."

--When Harry Met Sally, (paraphrased from memory)

[ericswifey27]

Originally Posted by josybear

ok, i've been thinking and fuming about this as i go about my day. here's my thoughts:

if someone's love and commitment to his wife can be threatened by her being a bit less sexy for a few years, how much does he love her? is he really committed? should the vows include 'in hotness and unsexiness'?

[arlecchina]

Originally Posted by Momtwice

He really hates women, doesn't he.

sounds like it to me.

[prettypixels]

This guy is also buddy buddy with Rush Limbaugh; that was where I used to hear of him, on Rush's show. (I used to listen occassionally because I liked getting myself all riled up once in a while. Can't do it now, though!)

[kyndmamaof4]

ha ha ha

NAK!!!

can i tell you that there is never more of a strain on a marriage then dh getting up at 3am to make a bottle.... i have always stayed at home but on the 3rd nighttime cry, it was dh's turn... i know...: i was 19, and didn't know any better, 3 later kids ebf...baby sleeps in our bed, or in her crib in our room, and i bf, then i lay down baby, then mom and dad time it is SO much easier to bf, AND DAD DOSEN'T HAVE TO GET UP = happy marriage. : wtf is this guy talking about?